To ask if you're in a job where you get a lot of 'shit'...

[bordellosboheme]

And how you deal with it. A colleague today (after sending me a shitty email herself) actually said to me she sometimes feels sorry for me because my role (or something intrinsic about me I dunno) means I am in a place where I get a lot of shit from colleagues. I'm not their direct line manager, but my role often involves leading a series of enhancements and changes.

My question is is it normal these days to be in a job were people publically give you shit from time to time or is it something about my role or performance I need to change?

I'm the person that people report software bugs to (or stuff they think is a bug, or stuff they've screwed up). I only get phone calls or emails of something has gone wrong. Nobody ever calls to say 'gosh, that works well' 😁

Chottie. Well done for getting out.

I have been quite stoical up to now but I don't think I can go on like this ad infinity. Imagine if all of us went on strike. That would teach 'em!

A&E nurse, so literally shit and shit from abusive patients!

I drive an articulated truck through central London on a regular basis and am constantly given shit by people who seem largely unaware that people like me are what keep the products they buy on the shelves - more annoyed about waiting 20 seconds while I pull across both lanes to reverse into a side road or gate.

However, I quite enjoy it now as I figure the people who are the most obnoxious are the most deserving of it. Sometimes I get out when somebody is beeping and say "oh, I thought you were trying to warn me of a hazard." 😂

having a career break so working part time in a coffee shop and omg it's the worst ever lol people are so bloody rude ! its coffee just coffee some people seem to think they will die without it lol

bordello It's completely fine to walk away.
You deserve to be treated with respect

Yes, I’m cabin crew. Verbal and even physical abuse is too common unfortunately. Luckily the good does out weigh the bad!

Not so much nowadays. I was an A&E nurse for many years and then a HV so loads in those roles. Now in academia and it happens but much, much less and is also less tolerated than in clinical practice.

unlimiteddilutingjuice I would feel a bit of a failure of I walked away. Also as a sole parent and breadwinner I have to have something lined up!

I always reflect that my mate who works part time as a bouncer must deal with some nasty shit...

@bordellosboheme Yes! Not to sound horrible but usually the foreign male doctors!! Especially one I put a complaint in against after he was forceful when examining and elderly female patient! he was always giving me shit after that! Ass hole

@unlimiteddilutingjuice quoting song lyrics reminds me of when I had an office based role and would often sing to myself Daniel beddingfield’s gotta get through this on a regular basis!

20 years as an NHS complaints manager - yep, I got a lot of shit I got used to it, and got very good at being able to defuse situations...

Im a mental health nurse. Can at times be verbal and physical aggression from patients. Management and doctors alwa3ts shit on us.

I used to work in B2B sales and had a lot of very demanding and discerning clients. Whenever there was an issue (such as product discontinued or problems with supplier), I'd often get the brunt of the clients' frustration. It was hard, which is, partly, why I left, but I used to tell them (in my politest customer voice) that I would enquire further/look for replacements/fix error for them, but that I was as frustrated with the situation as they were. Quite often they'd then turn around and apologies, as they realised their beef was not with me, so to say. Incredibly difficult at times...

I work in customer services for a big organisation. I deal with social media messages. Some people seem to forget that a real live person has to read them, and the swearing and abuse we get is awful, although it's not directed at me personally. Then you reply and try to be helpful, some people appreciate it, lots don't...

I have very little contact with the public now, thank goodness, but I used to work for a few Councils and got loads of daft shit - my favourite was a formal complaint letter that compared me to Saddam Hussein :D (I have very little in common with him).

At another council, we had to stop using the pool cars because staff were getting harassed when people saw the logo on the car.

I get a lot of shit from colleagues as they just don’t have the knowledge to deal with a lot of the things I can do and so they pass it on rather than deal with it. Very stressful job mentally

I'm a social worker. I probably dont need to say anymore

@Mummabear12345567889 me too haha you beat me to it!

I'm in Child Protection so have at times had both kinds of shit on me at the same time

@bordellosboheme

Thank you. I feel like a huge weight has fallen from my shoulders. I can't wait to walk away and I won't be looking back.

It's so sad to read all the responses and realise how many people spend their working lives dealing with all this sh*t from other people....

@Ziggzagg same! I'm also in CP. so I totally get where you're coming from! All aspects of shit!

Absolutely love it though.

I would feel a bit of a failure of I walked away
I can completely understand needing something else lined up.
But this bit sounded a bit like the "sunken cost fallacy" where a person feels they have to continue with something that isn't good for them because they've already put a lot into it.
I think your first post asked if you needed to change. You don't need to change. People need to treat you better.

But this bit sounded a bit like the "sunken cost fallacy" where a person feels they have to continue with something that isn't good for them because they've already put a lot into it.

^^i haven't heard of that before, but I like the analogy.... I will remember that one.