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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To ask if you're in a job where you get a lot of 'shit'...

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bordellosboheme · 11/07/2019 18:21

And how you deal with it. A colleague today (after sending me a shitty email herself) actually said to me she sometimes feels sorry for me because my role (or something intrinsic about me I dunno) means I am in a place where I get a lot of shit from colleagues. I'm not their direct line manager, but my role often involves leading a series of enhancements and changes.

My question is is it normal these days to be in a job were people publically give you shit from time to time or is it something about my role or performance I need to change?

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HJWT · 11/07/2019 18:24

Yeah I'm a SAHM 🤣 but seriously before I quit I was a HCA and got a lot of shit of elderly patients and doctors!

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bordellosboheme · 11/07/2019 18:25

Haha I bet the doctors were worse than the patients!?

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MrsSpenserGregson · 11/07/2019 18:27

I work in retail and I get so much shit from customers, it's unreal.

People seem to think that because I work in a shop I must be stupid, lazy and incapable of organisation or rational thought. A lot of them speak to me as though I were a piece of dirt on the bottom of their shoe.

I get told to "fuck off' regularly. I've also been called a cunt.

Actually I'm extremely polite, outwardly efficient (not bragging, it's a fact ) and I have a very good degree. But hey ho.

Malibucyprus · 11/07/2019 18:28

I have a job where I take a lot of shit.

Shit from customers, shit from suppliers, shit from the workforce, shit from my boss, and shit from the boss’s kids (family business).

When asked my job role, I tell people to take their pick, you name it, it’ll be my responsibility/problem.

I don’t have advice on how to cope, because I struggle myself. Some days I feel like I’ve gone 10 rounds with Mike Tyson, physically. And it’s so mentally draining being everyone’s bunching bag.

Solidarity

Malibucyprus · 11/07/2019 18:28

punch bag

MrsSpenserGregson · 11/07/2019 18:28

Oh and I actually own the shop but don't let that stop Joe Public from talking to me as though I were an idiot [facepalm]

PinkysEars · 11/07/2019 18:29

Yes, I work in a role which can be seen as political and I/my work get used quite often as a way of scoring points.

I roll my eyes a lot and try really hard to understand that it isn't a personal attack. Sometimes that's very hard.

theSnuffster · 11/07/2019 18:29

Yes, I work in a baby room in a nursery. Some days I actually get physically shit on! 😂

xSharonNeedlesx · 11/07/2019 18:31

I work in housing and we get so much shit from people over the phone. I’ve had two people on the phone to me threaten to kill themselves in the last two weeks because they didn’t like what I was telling them.

People get pissed off about things out of my control but because I answer the phone I get it in the neck. I hate it.

scoobyd2 · 11/07/2019 18:31

Normal in my place of work/job. I get shit because I can't do a 3-day job in one day. I get shit because I can't do a job because I have already had shit about another job so have to prioritise that one. Get "I don't want to have to go to XXX" so many times..... yeah go ahead, they were the ones who told me to drop all other work to do this job. Then I get shit when the work is done and they don't like what it tells them. It's data, I work with what's there and present it to you, I am not to blame because the actual figures are shit, that's down to your department.

I feel better for getting that off my chest . There is a light at the end of the tunnel and in 12 months time I'm hoping to take my pension and run!

ChocChocButtons · 11/07/2019 18:31

I’m a nanny so yeah....I look after small babies.

Runningonempty84 · 11/07/2019 18:32

I work in politics. Every day is varying levels of taking shit from people.

MrsSpenserGregson · 11/07/2019 18:48

Oh, how do I deal with it? I stay unerringly polite, and repeat myself ad infinitum if necessary.

Occasionally I point out that the aggressive rant is being captured on our CCTV - we have a very visible screen showing the camera output - and very occasionally I call the police. (They never come! But calling them usually gets rid of the aggressive twat). I've also called for help from the guy in the shop next door on one occasion - he raced round with all his brothers who were visiting from abroad, and it was wonderful! No violence ensued - they just ran into the shop and stood inside the door - but the CCTV footage of the offender trying to get out of the door, and the look of terror on his face, is beautiful.

You have to keep telling yourself that it is not personal. Some people are just vile when even the tiniest thing doesn't go the way they want it to.

Jemima232 · 11/07/2019 18:52

I worked as a dementia care nurse and was frequently covered in it.

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bordellosboheme · 11/07/2019 19:01

Well yes but I wasn't meaning literal poo!

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herculepoirot2 · 11/07/2019 19:05

There is a massive cultural issue in this country, where people appear to have forgotten how to use basic skills: manners, realism of expectations, patience etc. It results in quite a lot of people getting quite a lot of shit.

Sleephead1 · 11/07/2019 19:06

I'm a medical receptionist so yes a lot of the time but it usually isn't personal and if you are reasonable, kind, polite and try to resolve the problem then I generally find most people calm down. This doesn't always work obviously

Foreverlexicon · 11/07/2019 19:09

I work in the emergency services. Verbal and physical abuse is something I’m expected to accept in my role

31RueCambon · 11/07/2019 19:12

I used to work in a bank and the managers and the staff were awful. Shit from both directions and no support. You just had to take abuse from customers and then turn around and apologise to the management that the customer had torn a strip off you. ie, you hadn't given them CS that left them happy, so therefore you failed.

Argh. Thank God I'm not there any more.

PookieDo · 11/07/2019 19:12

Not actual shit as in poop

But yes, all the shit and no glory.
I am quite senior and end up having to sort out a lot of problems (which to me are petty but to others are not) or are just general gripes that I cannot actually do much about but listen and empathise

Carrotcakeforbreakfast · 11/07/2019 19:12

I work for the NHS as a sonographer and yes I get shit daily.
People never fail to surprise me with what they come out with. It really dislike people a lot as the being spoken to awfully seems to be getting worse.

Carrotcakeforbreakfast · 11/07/2019 19:13

Chottie · 11/07/2019 19:15

Yes I do and I have come to the end of the road and am working out my notice........ :) :) :)

I am looking forward to the rest of my life......

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bordellosboheme · 11/07/2019 19:16

Gosh these are eye opening. herculepoirot2 I think you're spot on..... Where do people get the entitlement to speak to others so rudely?

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unlimiteddilutingjuice · 11/07/2019 19:17

I do casework for an MP. Its an increadable mix of the utterly harrowing and the completely trivial. Guess which ones give me most shit?!
Luckily I have very lovely colleagues. We keepeach other going with daft in jokes and silly games. (quoting song lyrics to fit what's happening in the office etc)
I've had the opposite way around where the public were nice to me and my colleagues were shitty and that was much worse.

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