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Should I confront my bully?

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Unusualusernames · 11/07/2019 06:32

To cut a long story short I have been very badly bullied in the workplace for the last three weeks. I am new and the person I am taking over from has behaved appallingly towards me. I've had to suck up her refusing to show me essential parts of the job, putting me down in front of colleagues (to the point where one of them actually defended me) and deliberating trying to isolate me (which hasn't worked because my new colleagues are all really nice).

She is leaving this week and I feel like I want to confront her about her behaviour to give me some kind of closure because the experience has been so traumatic. I'm not sure if this is a good idea or not? I feel like a wimp not confronting her but I've been so desperate not to make her even more angry with me I've dealt with it by pretending I'm oblivious. It's been tough.

Please don't flame me, these past few weeks have been really hard and I'm feeling very sensitive.

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Beerincomechampagnetastes · 13/07/2019 08:52

Enjoy the weekend op and you can start a battle plan to get on top of the work monday.

Flowers
FetchezLaVache · 15/07/2019 22:30

Hoping that your first day without her was a bit less stressful, OP!

Unusualusernames · 18/07/2019 19:47

@FetchezLaVache ahh thank you, my first day without her was pretty awful. I had to spend much of the morning trying to clear out her dirty old asthma pumps and tissues she'd left in the drawer and I've spent the whole week trying really hard to navigate the work she's not shown me how to do.

She's honestly the most bizarre person. She's given her number out to a client and she sent me a weird abrupt WhatsApp message telling me to call him , no hello or annoying. It's not in the least urgent so I didn't immediately do it so she individually whatsapped all three of the people I'm meant to be line managing to tell me that I need to call him.

She's meant to be coming in tomorrow "to collect her belongings". Quite honestly I know where I would like to yell her to shove them.

I decided to ask my boss for a meeting and told her almost everything. I was a bit worried but she was nice about it and not surprised. Not sure she will be so understanding when she realises I have no idea what I'm doing but I guess I can try my best, that's what I always tell my daughter x

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Unusualusernames · 18/07/2019 19:48

Thanks @Beerincomechampagnetastes that means a lot x

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Unusualusernames · 18/07/2019 19:48

@NoSauce thanks you too and thanks everyone xx

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autopilotmomma · 18/07/2019 20:20

Oh! Please pack her stinking tissues and inhalers into her box of belongings. Add a few snotty tissues of your own 😉

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