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Neighbour has opened bar in garden

52 replies

Rana7 · 10/07/2019 20:33

Our next door neighbour has recently had a lot of work done on their house. They have, as part of this, built a large shed-like structure in the back garden, which I now realise contains some sort of “bar”.

We get on well with our neighbours and he has invited DH and DS1 over to drink one night this week, but I do not like the fact that so many of his other friends have been coming and going all week so far. Additionally, there have been people out drinking in this bar until the early hours three out of the last four nights.

AIBU to think this is not an appropriate thing to have in the garden of a semi detached house?

OP posts:
Lllot5 · 10/07/2019 20:37

No it’s appropriate at all. Depends how late it’s ‘opening hours’ are I suppose. You’re going to have to say something or it will go on and on.

TheDarkPassenger · 10/07/2019 20:40

They’ll get bored soon, everyone I know who’s done these pop up garden bars in sheds have got bored after a month or so!

Poloshot · 10/07/2019 20:40

Are they causing a disturbance or you just don't like it?

Pipandmum · 10/07/2019 20:40

Well it’s not much different than having a drinks cart on the patio. They can do whatever they like if it doesn’t require planning. The weather’s nice but I bet the novelty will wear off.
Carrying on making noise after 11 is not on though they should respect that most people are retiring then.

RoomR0613 · 10/07/2019 20:41

The novelty will probably wear off reasonably quickly.

MyOpinionIsValid · 10/07/2019 20:41

If his friends are paying, then it is illegal. If they aren't then, not a lot you can do about it if they aren't creating a nuisance

JennyBlueWren · 10/07/2019 20:41

Assuming he's not charging and he's just a very sociable guy then YABU. If it's a problem with noise late into the night then have a word with him about that and if it continues speak to environmental health.

Arnoldthecat · 10/07/2019 20:44

The British addiction to alcohol never ceases to amaze. Just humor him. Its a novelty and it will soon quieten down..

MrsTommyBanks · 10/07/2019 20:45

It's new it's a novelty and he is showing it off. It will calm down when everyone has seen it.
I'd have a nice friendly chat with him about reasonable use. See what he says and go from there.

GummyGoddess · 10/07/2019 20:46

It's in fashion at the moment, they'll get bored of it soon. Possibly move on to noisy inflatable hot tubs.

Sparklesocks · 10/07/2019 20:47

My dad has a small bar in his garden (essentially a posh shed with a bar and fridges in it!). He occasionally has friends back for a quick beer. He’s never had any complaints, I wouldn’t say it’s inappropriate if they’re respectful and keep the noise down

MyChemicalMummy · 10/07/2019 20:48

The novelty will wear off soon, if they start getting loud too late then try having a polite word with them.

Original poster
Rana7 · 10/07/2019 20:48

I can hear shouting until the early hours most mornings, plus they play music much of the time also.

OP posts:
BloomsButtons · 10/07/2019 20:53

When I red the thread title I thought you meant that he'd opened it as a business, thankfully that's not the case.

Does anyone else remember the thread where the OP's neighbour had turned her front room into a tea shop? People coming and going all the time. She reported it and it was eventually shut down if I remember correctly.

dentydown · 10/07/2019 21:00

Yabu, but there may be a covenant on the house that prevents you running a bar from the premises. (Discovered this on a relatives house when we had to help sell it!). she wasn’t allowed to run a bar, brothel or dance hall from her house. (2 up 2 down terrace!)

ColaFreezePop · 10/07/2019 21:00

A week or two of rain and cold will help kill of the fun for them.

Whobloodyknows · 10/07/2019 21:00

Honestly, it’s a novelty- they will bored and no-one will be there regularly come autumn

pictish · 10/07/2019 21:01

I agree that the novelty will wear off and the visitations will wane.

Mummyoflittledragon · 10/07/2019 21:01

Have you spoken to them about the noise?

Benjispruce · 10/07/2019 21:01

I can hear shouting until the early hours most mornings, plus they play music much of the time also.

As a one off-fine, a few times a week is a disturbance. But I do agree it's probably the novelty factor.

WorraLiberty · 10/07/2019 21:03

Your AIBU shouldn't really be about having a bar in the garden, as that's neither here nor there.

But YANBU at all to be annoyed by the noise your neighbour is making/allowing in his garden.

Pop round and have a word.

IceRebel · 10/07/2019 21:04

So he's not actually opened a bar? He's just made a bar, and is inviting round friends and family to enjoy his company and see his new project.

The ongoing music would bother me much more than the bar.

CallMeOnMyCell · 10/07/2019 21:05

YANBU but the novelty will wear off soon.

allthewaytorenooo · 10/07/2019 21:05

The sexism of this would bother me: 'he has invited DH and DS1 over to drink one night this week'

Why aren;t you invited?!

CuriousaboutSamphire · 10/07/2019 21:17

I wouldn't be so sure. DH has a friend whose family have used his garden bar for decades. It has grown, got a better roof, more lights, better music etc etc. How their neighbours put up with it I will never know. The yhave all lived next door to each other for 30+ years and it started as a kids area that grew up as the kids did!

Semi detached house in a quiet suburban area.

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