To not be able to fathom one single fuck

[TiredTiredandABitMoreTired]

First trimester with my first and I am so. TIRED.

My house is a tip and needs a proper clean, I need to wash my hair, I could do with a proper scrub myself to be honest, the washing needs doing, you get the picture, I'm basically a slob right now.

AIBU to not give a single fuck though? I have never experienced tiredness like this (I'm sure there will be worse to come), it's like I get in from work and I just can't move. I can't muster the effort it takes to care that I could do with tidying up etc..

H works longggg hours and is often away through the week so it's not like he's here to do everything instead.

AIBU to just fester for a bit?

Enjoy a little fester. For me the complete exhaustion faded by the second trimester and by the end of the second trimester I was full of life. Don’t beat yourself up. Maybe have a wash yourself though, it might help.

My first trimester was the worst, I was exhausted like you describe. Have a nice bubble bath and a takeaway perhaps.

Yanbu. I almost feel asleep on the grass while walking the dog. It is bone wearying exhaustion. It does get better-around 16 weeks for me.

Get someone in to give the place a clean. Just the once. It'll make you feel better.

Fester all you can! That first trimester is so energy sapping. Make the most of it. If you have a second you don't have the luxury of festering so listen to your body and do nothing (except maybe have a long, warm bath as you'll feel more human when you're clean)

Nope.
Enjoy your festering!!!
I’m 30w with DC3, feel like I haven’t slept properly since the first one was born, DH is working away, DC1&2 are losing their minds and it is safe to say, my fucks have runneth dry
I’m festering too.

More important to look after yourself. Nature sends that tiredness for a reason.

Could you afford to hire a cleaner for a bit?

Have a nice bubble bath and a takeaway perhaps

I've been thinking about a bubble bath all day but now that I have to peel myself from the sofa to run it, I can't seem to do it

Takeaway sounds good though. I wonder if I gave him a little extra he'd come in and dish it up for me so I don't need to move at all 🤔

I will add to that though: I’m literally counting down the milliseconds until these small people go to bed so I can de-fester myself and just sit in the bath and give my hair a good scrub.
I’ve been rocking the famous “mum bun” for 2 days

I feel you. That tiredness. Feels like it's steam-rolling you. You couldn't fight it if you tried. As long as you are ok, the house and everything else can wait.

I feel like my legs are literally vibrating from the effort it's taken to hold me upright all day.

I remember that (old gimmer) There is no tiredness quite like it. I used to stagger home from work and pass out on the bed or sofa. Just could not stay awake or vertical one more second! It does get better by the end of the first trimester in my experience. Listen to your body, it's doing this for a reason. Do what you can and ask for help with what you can't. Lots of luck and good wishes, first pregnancies are so special!

Omg I remember the first trimester exhaustion - it was like someone had injected me with a drug. There was no powering through and I also had awful HG throughout my entire pregnancy (4 times....) Anyway, fester away while you can - I remember having to sleep with clingy 18 month old DS1 on my chest while pregnant with DD1, anything so I could just sit and rest! I agree with PP - get a cleaner in and run yourself a lovely bath. Your DH can help with laundry - yes he’s tired but this is totally different; you’re making a human and it’s bloody beyond exhausting!

I have to say, I never knew fatigue like that first baby/first-trimester fatigue! I remember it sooo well. And that's 18 years ago. And then I had it right at the end too. I was in my first trimester in the summer too... when the air is close and sticky. My flat was like a hotbox. 2001 that was! Seems like yesterday.
I think that once you know this fatigue and once you've had a baby and done all the night-of-the-living-dead midnight to 6am feeds, it doesn't seem as bad the second pregnancy. I mean, the fatigue is there in every pregnancy, but that first trimester of your first pregnancy takes the cake! I really feel for you, OP, because I can totally relate to how knocked out you must feel.

Now I've got menopause fatigue! That's a whole lot of other fun waiting for you years and years down the line. Our bodies cope with so much throughout our lifetimes. Cherish yourself, OP. If that means not moving from the sofa for the next ten hours, go for it! and congratulations.

Oh I remember this tiredness. Leave the house, no one will die. You need to rest if you're tired. Don't sit down, lie down. Hire a cleaner or a housekeeper if you must. And your do should do it all when he is there

Nah take it easy. With my first I was dog tired like that. Would regularly conk out in the evening and wake up after 12 hours sleep feeling I'd had none. It will pass though.

Check and make sure you are not anemic common in pregnancy, just try and do one task a day so you don’t get totally bogged down.,

I ate chip shop chips most nights due to sickness making everything else too hard to keep down and I slept more than I ever knew was possible for a grown up. DH was absolutely doing his best but this was my third pregnancy and with no other family help he was just doing what he thought needed doing. I cried about my skirting boards on the phone to Dsis one night (hormones, I'm normally fairly rational about what actually needs doing) and she was there the following weekend like a night in shining armour armed with zoflora. It does ease up about 4 months in in my experience so hoping it goes fast for you OP!

I was the same. You think the extreme exhaustion will just get worse but it seems to be hormone related and lifts in the second trimester. I felt so much better both times. Just focus on looking after yourself, don't worry about anything else.

Out of all the things on that list, the one that will make you feel better is crawling under the shower. Literally if necessary - I'm a huge fan of taking a garden chair into the shower room when I feel like crap, or I'll stick the plug in the bath, switch the tap to the showerhead and just sit down (yep, I'm lucky with two bathrooms).

Then go to bed.

Hopefully, come the second trimester, your energy will go back up again, especially if you rest as much as possible whenever you get the chance.

Now I'm disabled, I go by the principle of Maximum Energy Conservation - if you can sit down somewhere, always sit down and if you can lie down, always lie down, preferably with your feet/legs up. It means I will quite happily sit on the floor at work, rather than crouch or bend repeatedly and moving things involves shifting them to staging points to minimise the effort in one go.

Oh bless you! I remember first trimester. My job entailed lots of driving (social worker) and I was coming back from work at 10pm when the police pulled me over cos I was driving 'erractically'. Explained I was pregnant and tired beyond belief. I wasn't speeding btw!
Don't worry too much. Veg/slob out for now - Your energy will increase and then you'll have a lovely little one to run around after and be back to square one - exhausted . Hope I've cheered you up! 🤷‍♀️

Fester! Everyday of my first trimester, I used to get home from work and sleep until my husband got home and cooked me dinner. Too tired to do anything else. I fell asleep against the wall of the loo cubicle at work twice. I was a disaster!

Oh god there is no tiredness like it! It's even worse than when you've got an actual new baby. Just absolute, can't keep your eyes open exhaustion (plus constant nausea in my case, for the absolute win, ugh). You rest up, sleep sleep sleep x

With my 1st, I’d finish work at 4pm, home for half past, tea done by 5pm, in bed for half past and sleep until the alarm at 6.30am.

I was so, so tired all the time. Luckily at 14 weeks it switched off like magic along with the nausea. Fingers crossed it does for you OP.

I was expecting the same with my second, but I was just normal.