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Parking Space

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JorlyWood · 10/07/2019 17:32

So I asked my partner to drive me to Tesco to pick up something for dinner (I don't drive). We popped our little girl in the car seat without her trousers or shoes on as I was planning on just running in quickly. When we got there he pulled into a parent and child space and I reminded him I was going in myself and would prefer to park somewhere else. He thought that since we had our child in the car we could park there but I disagreed explaining the reason they are there is for extra space getting prams and whatnot out. He refused to park anywhere else and said it's here or home. I told him I wasn't going in without her and as she didn't have her trousers or shoes I couldn't take her in so we would have to go home. The bastard actually drove home instead of just parking in any of the other free spaces.
So, was I being unreasonable? Should I have just broken the law and gone in? We have food but not anything my DD will eat and as she has been poorly I wanted to get her something nice.

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MammaMia19 · 10/07/2019 19:24

I think people get too carried away with p&c spaces! I don’t think it mattered that the child wasn’t getting out of the car. If it’s a big supermarket and someone needs extra space that badly they can park at the back or take up two bays in a quiet corner of the car park. You was both as bad as each other

changeyoursheets · 10/07/2019 19:26

Omg ywbvvvu
But I'm also pleased to hear other couples have arguments over pointless things. Not just me then lol.

Grumpelstilskin · 10/07/2019 19:28

Learn to drive if you are going to be such a pain in the neck about such a total non-issue.

Pinkyyy · 10/07/2019 19:29

I'd have taken you home too. You were being awkward and annoying.

ChihuahuaMummy1 · 10/07/2019 19:30

As far as I'm concerned if you've a child in your car you can park in them,you were being daft

BarrenFieldofFucks · 10/07/2019 19:33

So much unreasonableness.

You more so I think. He probably resented being told what to do, even if he had parked in the wrong place. You could have run in with or without child...if there really was nothing proper to eat why or earth would you have refused to go in until he moved? If necessary, take child without trousers!

BjornAgain81 · 10/07/2019 19:33

He was being an arse but tbh I really hate back seat drivers telling me where to park etc.

AJPTaylor · 10/07/2019 19:34

Do you frequently row about such inconsequential nonsense in front of your child?

BuzzShitbagBobbly · 10/07/2019 19:35

Why didn't you just send him by himself?

Yabbers · 10/07/2019 19:42

We have food but not anything my DD will eat and as she has been poorly I wanted to get her something nice.

You were being pig headed and your DD was the only one who lost out. Hopefully you learned a lesson there.

You could have easily made your point and still gone to the store. To not do so for fear of someone looking at you funny is ridiculous.

Therealjudgejudy · 10/07/2019 19:45

You both sound ridiculous and immature. How do you manage day to day life?

AdobeWanKenobi · 10/07/2019 19:49

My local Tesco have taken to fining cars in P&C and Disabled spots as well as cars not parked in bays or straddling bays. They have a private company round a few times a week and they go to town on them all. The fallout in the local Facebook group is outstanding.
Of course, this is a private fine so not really enforceable.

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JorlyWood · 10/07/2019 19:54

No we don't frequently argue about inconsequential nonsense in front of our child. Thanks for your input

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ladygracie · 10/07/2019 19:58

He won’t go shopping? Why not? He is not coming across well here in other areas I don’t think. Today you were both wrong but if he will have a strop about shopping even when you are ill, then that’s a problem surely?

Bourbonbiccy · 10/07/2019 20:00

I think you are both as bad as eachother, you have both left your child with nothing she likes to eat over a car parking space.

I do completely agree with your logic over the parent and child parking space (although not illegal) just common courtesy.

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JorlyWood · 10/07/2019 20:12

Honestly the food isn't a major issue. There was plenty to eat but she is a toddler so she likes rice, macaroni and cheese, chicken nuggets and tomatoes. Everything else is a bit of a battle but she will eat it with enough persuasion. As she had been poorly over the weekend and finally starting to feel better I wanted to go and get her something there would be no fuss over. She has had a pizza though that was in the fridge so she is not missing out on dinner. She actually thoroughly enjoyed her pizza and is now in bed happy.

Partner is a grumpy arse and I make plenty allowances for his grumpiness and usually he is quite understanding of my general worries about pointless shit. There have been some past mental health issues but I thought I was strong and sound of mind enough to be able to come off medication but after feedback and thinking about this situation and how I would have handled it differently a few weeks ago perhaps I do still need to be taking the medicine.

Again thanks to those who understand the basis of my logic even though it did get mangled a little by my thought processes.

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jelly79 · 10/07/2019 20:14

I think you were right in your point to tell him not to park there but I'd of called him a 'stubborn prick' and gone in to get whatever you needed. What did you need to go for?

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JorlyWood · 10/07/2019 20:18

Didn't NEED anything to be honest, that was probably a factor. Wanted a newspaper, something nice to drink and also something for DD's dinner. As explained above there was food to eat in the house but was going to get her one of the few things she liked as a sort of treat.

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 10/07/2019 20:21

You don't have a parent and child parking problem, you have a dp problem.

jelly79 · 10/07/2019 20:21

@JorlyWood sorry I just seen the pp. nothing unreasonable there so he should of happily given you a lift or just refused if he was going to be so grumpy.

Don't let it get you down or stress you out if you are having a tough few day though

MummytoCSJH · 10/07/2019 20:24

Sorry but YWBU. He was a dick for driving home but surely you know it's not illegal to park in a p&c space regardless of the circumstances. They are a courtesy only, they're not the same as disabled spots. You had a child with you and she was sick so couldn't get out of the car, plus you were only going to be a few minutes.

Childcar12 · 10/07/2019 20:27

Yeah it’s not illegal...moral of the story; learn to drive??!! (Providing there is no medical reason)

Sirzy · 10/07/2019 20:28

I would be a bit pissed off at being expected to drive to the shop because my partner wanted a newspaper to then be complained at when I got there.

You need to either learn to drive, walk to the shops or be more organised shopping!

NoSquirrels · 10/07/2019 20:33

He hates driving but we don't have enough money for me to learn.

Ah, cut him some slack. If he doesn’t like driving then having already parked, in a nice accessible bay, he probably really didn’t fancy tooling around to re-park.

Say sorry to each other and move on.

Isatis · 10/07/2019 20:50

How many people actually need parent and child parking spaces in the evening anyway? It's highly unlikely that you were preventing anyone else who needed a P&C place from parking.

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