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Neighbours parking driving me mental!

69 replies

WeCameToDance · 07/07/2019 11:44

I would really like some opinions on whether I am being petty here, I'm wondering if I've lost all perspective. Also I know there should be a diagram, my ds has hidden every pen in the house so all I can do is apologise Grin
I live in an estate with alocated parking. I live in a cul de sac with three houses in a row, each with one allocated parking space. I don't drive but I do have family/friends over several times a week who obviously utilise my parking space. This means that my space is empty more often than not. I have no issue with residences guests using it every so often, I expect that but there is one neighbour who basically takes the piss. This neighbour is coincidentally the only one who has an allocated drive so never has the problem of people parking in their space.
They have 2 cars so can't fit them both on the same space. They are both big cars, 4 door big things/large family style cars. When I moved in they always parked one car in my space meaning that I had to go round and ask them to move everytime I had a guest round. This carried on a while until I had enough and asked them to refrain from parking there at all. They got a bit huffy (I suspect they don't see the problem because it's empty most of the time and far more convenient for them to use it) but did stop. For a bit. It's now the same old routine. They stop for a few months, then start again. I ask them not to, they don't for a few months and then start again.
It is driving me mental. I find it so rude. They literally use it as their second car parking space. I am sick of the sight of the bloody green thing in my space all the time! So aibu to be annoyed? I don't see why I should have to knock on the door and hope they are in and haven't gone out in the other car when I need to have access to my space. But I'm fed up of asking them! Half of me wants to leave it because I can't stand the hastle and the other half once to tell them in no uncertain terms to pack it in!

OP posts:
Harveywallplanner · 07/07/2019 13:19

The only solution is the bollard.
If you start parking on the driveway, blocking them in, charging them etc it will only get worse.
Who cares if they get huffy, they hope by getting huffy it will stop you asking. Even if you don’t have guests coming get them to move.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t have a car.

greenwaterbottle · 07/07/2019 13:24

Offer them the space at £x a day paid in full a month in advance.
If not, stick a Bollard in and apologise to the nice neighbours and tell them, them at no x are taking the mickey.

WeCameToDance · 07/07/2019 13:27

missfatty (feels really insulting to write that, sorry!) That is why I have let it go for so long and not kicked up a huge fuss. I have worried that I was being petty. Most of the week it lies empty but I have visitors around 4 times a week. I don't want to have to go knock there door and ask them to move everytime I need to use it. Also if I go shopping and come home with loads of bags why should I then have to lug them further to the front door because neighbour thinks they can have both spaces?
The cars out at the minute, I am going to try one more time of asking and explaining the reasons why I don't want them parking there when it returns. If that doesn't work parking bollard will have to be considered.

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BrienneofTarthILoveYou · 07/07/2019 13:29

Another who agrees you need to get sorted now as it will only get worse. I'd ask them to move it every single time it's parked there, regardless of whether you need the space or not. I'd also deliberately knock in the middle of the night or at 5am to give them hassle (hassle for you but if you do that a few times, they should get the message). They're totally in the wrong so I'd have no issue bothering them at unsocial hours!

sunshinesupermum · 07/07/2019 13:31

Another one saying bollards. It's the only way they will get the message. As for your other nice neighbours, their visitors will have to find somewhere else. One bad neighbour spoils it for everyone else by being dickheads.

Nanny0gg · 07/07/2019 13:41

Petty?

You've paid for that space. It's your property. It wouldn't be petty if someone parks in your garden!

Are they ever out? Get a friend round to park in their drive!!

BTW where do they park the other car if not using your space?

Jux · 07/07/2019 13:42

It's the same principle which applies if a ndn decides to have a nice picnic on your front garden several times a week. You may not want a picnic there at all yourself, but you don't want them there and you don't want to be always telling them to leave when you're about to mow the grass or prune the roses...

WillLokireturn · 07/07/2019 13:47

@WeCameToDance
Write them a letter as suggested earlier (brief, polite and concise) and take photos with dates and times. Show them you mean it and are fed up.
It's ok to be clear. They can deny chats at door occurred.

LadyRannaldini · 07/07/2019 13:48

Get your friends to come round in the middle of the night, a knock on their door to shift their car at 3 am might do the trick.
You may 'accidently' drop a box of tacks in your space, whoops.

LadyRannaldini · 07/07/2019 13:52

www.aldi.co.uk/parking-pole/p/017006280867600?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIi9nHr-yi4wIVLLftCh1t9gelEAAYASAAEgIzuvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Is this the parking post being referred to?

Butterfly84 · 07/07/2019 13:54

Definitely install the parking pole. This is your property.

skybluee · 07/07/2019 13:57

People like this only change when something happens that totally inconveniences them. Talk to them about it one last time, emphasise that you want full use of your space.

If they park in it, block them in. And go out. Believe me, they'll stop doing it.

Theworldisfullofgs · 07/07/2019 14:06

Bollard.
The only way to deal with stuff like this is a clear boundary that you enforce. Otherwise it may get better for a while but then it'll go back again.

GabriellaMontez · 07/07/2019 14:11

You're not being petty. They're cheeky fuckers . Get the bollard.

bluebeck · 07/07/2019 14:13

Why would you bother asking them again?

Just order the bollard - problem solved.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 07/07/2019 14:19

Just get the bollard

It is a highly visible deterrant (so they cannot blame you if they come home late/in the dark and find a rock or a planter)
You don't want to be shifting plantars/rocks when you have guests
Charging will give them a sense of entitlement (even worse than now) that they have paid for this spot. How would you get the money? What if they left the car for weeks planning to pay you 'later' .

Don't go down the line of using their drive . Involving your friends or family will create such bad feeling all round .

Easiest all round is the bollard (Penguin or otherwise Grin )

Mosaic123 · 07/07/2019 14:20

That parking post seems like a perfect solution. I'd be tempted to tape a giant artificial flower to the top of it too. Just for fun.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 07/07/2019 14:23

Is there any non-allocated parking further away?

Harveywallplanner · 07/07/2019 16:26

I can see why they think they can get away with it. You’re being too soft and they know it.

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