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Neighbours parking driving me mental!

69 replies

WeCameToDance · 07/07/2019 11:44

I would really like some opinions on whether I am being petty here, I'm wondering if I've lost all perspective. Also I know there should be a diagram, my ds has hidden every pen in the house so all I can do is apologise Grin
I live in an estate with alocated parking. I live in a cul de sac with three houses in a row, each with one allocated parking space. I don't drive but I do have family/friends over several times a week who obviously utilise my parking space. This means that my space is empty more often than not. I have no issue with residences guests using it every so often, I expect that but there is one neighbour who basically takes the piss. This neighbour is coincidentally the only one who has an allocated drive so never has the problem of people parking in their space.
They have 2 cars so can't fit them both on the same space. They are both big cars, 4 door big things/large family style cars. When I moved in they always parked one car in my space meaning that I had to go round and ask them to move everytime I had a guest round. This carried on a while until I had enough and asked them to refrain from parking there at all. They got a bit huffy (I suspect they don't see the problem because it's empty most of the time and far more convenient for them to use it) but did stop. For a bit. It's now the same old routine. They stop for a few months, then start again. I ask them not to, they don't for a few months and then start again.
It is driving me mental. I find it so rude. They literally use it as their second car parking space. I am sick of the sight of the bloody green thing in my space all the time! So aibu to be annoyed? I don't see why I should have to knock on the door and hope they are in and haven't gone out in the other car when I need to have access to my space. But I'm fed up of asking them! Half of me wants to leave it because I can't stand the hastle and the other half once to tell them in no uncertain terms to pack it in!

OP posts:
cakeandchampagne · 07/07/2019 12:31

Have you just allowed others to use your spot, or have you actually told them it was okay?

WeCameToDance · 07/07/2019 12:33

With the nice neighbours they don't park there very often. Maybe once a month for a couple of hours if that. It's not obviously noticeable.
When not in my space they block themselves in. So the bigger of the cars parks on their drive and the slightly smaller one blocks that in. I think they find it difficult as they come home at different times so if the smaller car is there first they have to go out and maneuver the cars around. They have 2 small children so I can see why they want to avoid it.
Buzz I get the feeling of being forced to put up with it. When dh has asked them to move it in the past he reports that they seemed off and put out by it. They know it bothers me hence the many times I've asked them to move. They are not oblivious, they either don't care or can't see the problem.

OP posts:
Pythonesque · 07/07/2019 12:37

Try putting your space up on a parking site perhaps? Then instead of asking them to move you can tell them they need to book and pay if they want to use it, and when it is not available (according to your needs put into the booking system) they may not park there and will be asked to both pay and move the car?

Might be a bit of a sledgehammer option, depends ...

RebootYourEngine · 07/07/2019 12:38

I would just get your guests park in their space.

SaveKevin · 07/07/2019 12:39

Yes get an Aldi parking bollard.
Or b and q have some nice big planters, they are on wheels so you can move them. Hopefully it would be enough of a pain for them not to move it to park.

Or passive aggressively set up a hammock and paddling pool. next time they go to park just be sitting out there with a massive cocktail, big hat, big sun glasses.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 07/07/2019 12:39

Just put a bollard or a planter in.

Whatver their reasoning they are wrong, it is your space to do with as you will. If they cannot get their heads around it then tough!

Though I do like the idea of putting it up on a parking site! That would pay for the installation of a bollard Smile

NoBaggyPants · 07/07/2019 12:40

Sensible answer - bollards.

Less sensible answer - park on their driveway before they're due home.

Or both. Bollard up, your visitor's car on their driveway.

My neighbour and I allow each other to use our allocated spaces and it usually works fine. But she has one particular visitor who insists on parking over both of them. One day his car is going to get accidentally keyed...

thedevilcamefromthehimber · 07/07/2019 12:40

I would put a planter or rock in the middle of the space and when you have a people visiting go out and move it. They can't park there is something is in the way.

Gth1234 · 07/07/2019 12:40

is there an estate manager you can complain to.
alternatively, maybe a solicitor can send them a bill for trespass/infringement of your rights.

HappyHammy · 07/07/2019 12:42

If it's your private land they cant park there without your permission. Put bollards up and a no parking sign. Best check your deeds and maybe the council first. CF

AuditAngel · 07/07/2019 12:42

Ask them to move, every single time

WillLokireturn · 07/07/2019 12:44

OP, what they don't understand is that whether you have a car or not, it's your space and is putting off your visitors who frequently visit. It's awkward that they are stealing your space and you have to ask them to move from your space. They are hoping you don't make a fuss, they have no right to get angry at being asked not to park on your paid for or rented property.

SoupDragon · 07/07/2019 12:47

Instal a parking post. After they've parked on your space.

DishingOutDone · 07/07/2019 12:47

So OP, that Aldi parking pole looks ideal. Why can't your DH fit that this week? Problem solved?

RainbowRun · 07/07/2019 12:53

Get a parking pole.

ForTheTimeBeing · 07/07/2019 12:57

Is there anything in the deeds about making a complaint? Bollards would be the most effective strategy, but it's so unfair that you would have to spend this money.
Can you ask a friend to park in their space for a whole day and night to drive the message home? You could block your own space during that time with 'stuff', or get another neighbour to park in it.

BuzzShitbagBobbly · 07/07/2019 13:00

It boils down to this: if they wanted space for parking two cars without having to juggle or swap, they should have got a home that offers that.

It is not your monkey. You could set up a tiki bar and learn to juggle on your space if you wanted. It is not their space to use. Full stop.

GeorgiaGirl52 · 07/07/2019 13:00

Send the rude neighbors a rental agreement allowing them to park. Put a reasonable price on it -- say 5000 pounds, renewable annually. that might make them more considerate.

ForTheTimeBeing · 07/07/2019 13:02

Also, give them hassle. If they park in your space, ring their doorbell late at night or very early in the morning and ask them to move the car immediately. Stick A4-sized notes on all their car windows asking them to move their car, using glue that is difficult to remove but doesn't cause damage.

missfatty · 07/07/2019 13:04

Does it really matter if you don't have a car?

CuriousaboutSamphire · 07/07/2019 13:07

Does it really matter if you don't have a car? No! Much as it doesn't matter if you don't read all of the OPs posts...

Jux · 07/07/2019 13:12

Charge them for use of it. Send a note round saying something like "Due to overuse of our parking space, we have regretfully decided we must charge for parking on our land @ £x per day. We note that you have made use of our land x times this week/month, which would amount to £thismuch. Charges will apply from this day forth."

Warn your nice neighbours, in case the CF mention it.

Alternatively - if you don't want all out war - you can put a chain across for cheap, or put in those things which sink down at the touch of a remote button.

CacenCrunch · 07/07/2019 13:13

The pole is the obvious solution. Failing that, get your visitors to park on their drive, or across the bottom of their drive if one car is on it, blocking them in. If they have a problem with that, they need to get out of your space

QuickQuestion2019 · 07/07/2019 13:18

@DishingOutDone errrr why does the DH the OP May or May not have need to fit the bollard? It's not 1934 you know...

stayathomegardener · 07/07/2019 13:18

The perfect solution is install the Aldi parking bollard (I love that 100+ people are looking at that right now)

Then leave it down permanently so your guests/nice neighbours can access it.

As soon as CF neighbours park there flip it up and lock it.

Sit back and wait...

I suspect it will only happen once more.