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Original poster

Rude or am I over sensitive?

28 replies

SuzieQQQ · 07/07/2019 04:15

I went to a party recently for a 5 year old and a few of my friends also attended.

Present opening commenced and when the little girl opened the present we had bought (my friend knew it was from me) she said in front of everyone
“ oh that is a waste of time! We’ve had so many different types of ..... and they always break. I’m so over them”.

This is in front of the birthday girl and all the other guests. The birthday girls mum looked a bit shocked and thanked me for the gift and said how great it was.

For the record it is good quality and we have one ourselves so know it’s fun and has lasted ages. It’s also age appropriate.

Was my friend rude or am I being over sensitive? I didn’t say anything as I didn’t want to make a scene but I was annoyed.

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b0bb1n · 07/07/2019 04:18

YANBU that's really rude!

AnAC12UCOinanOCG · 07/07/2019 04:27

YABU for the pointless coyness over what it was.

Original poster
SuzieQQQ · 07/07/2019 04:28

Didn’t want to out myself! It’s a toy lots of kids have.

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BlackCatSleeping · 07/07/2019 04:38

It was rude, but I’m laughing at you worried about outing yourself when it’s a toy lots of kids have. Surely the friends rude comment is the outing part of the story?

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SuzieQQQ · 07/07/2019 04:51

Haha @blackcatsleeping you’re probably right!

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HennyPennyHorror · 07/07/2019 04:53

Whatever the toy was I bet your "friend" was jealous because it was a well thought out gift and better than hers.

Don't call her a friend any more OP. I wouldn't.

firstimemamma · 07/07/2019 04:59

I has to read that twice because the first time I read it I thought the child had said the comment (not that that would be ok either!). It initially didn't register with me that an adult would be so rude.

Yanbu, that's awful!

She could've just smiled and said something polite and what a terrible example she's setting for her child.

Original poster
SuzieQQQ · 07/07/2019 05:01

@HennyPennyHorror thanks for affirming what I suspected. She’s done lots of things like this before and I can’t be bothered with it any more. Now I’m getting older my tolerance for this type of thing has gone down a lot. I just want to hang out with nice, kind, fun types without the drama.

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Original poster
SuzieQQQ · 07/07/2019 05:04

Thanks @firsttimemama if I hadn’t been in a big group of people I would have said something along the lines of “well lucky i didn’t buy it for you” with a smile and tinkly laugh. Or “wow how rude” followed by laughter.

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Billben · 07/07/2019 06:23

Wow, time to cut her lose

Lola999 · 07/07/2019 06:39

With friends like that..............

LinoleumBlownapart · 07/07/2019 06:44

Does your friend usually show a complete lack of social etiquette or was this a one off?

Yanbu, sounds very odd!

CareBear50 · 07/07/2019 06:46

Incredibly rude

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/07/2019 06:51

Need you ask really? As my dd is 11 idk what the toy is. You do know children grow out of things. What is it?

ProteinshakesandAntonsAss · 07/07/2019 06:51

Who said it?

I am really sorry and I keep rereading it. But I dont get it. Was it the birthdays girls mum who then apologised?

rwalker · 07/07/2019 06:51

She made herself look a complete twat sure everyone thought that too.

newmomof1 · 07/07/2019 06:51

Your post reads like the little girl made the rude comment and then your friend said how great the present was. I don't understand.
Or was it a different friend who made the rude comment?

Marnie76 · 07/07/2019 07:01

The birthday girl opened it. Horrible ‘friend’ made the comment. Birthday girls mum said it was lovely.

ProteinshakesandAntonsAss · 07/07/2019 07:04

Ah right a 3rd party said it was crap.

She is a shit. You would have absolutely fine to say something infront of everyone.

Original poster
SuzieQQQ · 07/07/2019 07:21

@newmomof1 it was a different friend, not the party girls mum that said it.

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newmomof1 · 07/07/2019 07:23

Ah ok, then yes she is very rude, and I would no longer call her a friend!

Marmozet · 07/07/2019 07:23

Yeah say goodbye to that friend, she sounds really spiteful.

itsabongthing · 07/07/2019 07:32

Wouldn’t expect that from an adult, but in general this is why we open presents after the party when everyone’s gone - thought everyone did that?

WishICouldThinkOfAGoodName · 07/07/2019 07:52

She’s a cow. Also, what a terrible example to set the children at the party.

MajesticWhine · 07/07/2019 08:30

I would be tempted to call her out on this and say something. And forget the friendship.