Spiking tea with breastmilk

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This is my first AIBU so I’m a bit nervous but I’m genuinely wondering if I am being unreasonable!

I just watched an Instagram story where someone made tea for someone and used their breastmilk instead of milk. The told the person what they had done after he drank the tea.

They thought they were being hilarious but it feels wrong to me. If someone asked to taste the breastmilk fair brought but to “spike” the tea for a joke seems wrong to me.

So AIBU to think she shouldn’t have done it?

I have done it myself to DHs tea. But I knew he would find it funny.

I couldn't ever do that to someone else without them knowing. It would probably gross most people out. Myself included if I was the tea drinker!

I have ran out of milk before and had to put breastmilk in my coffee, it is so watery, I needed a cup of half milk and half coffee to make it look like a normal coffee. The jokes on this woman if she's happy to waste 4/5 Oz of breastmilk for a joke! Not gross because it's just milk but definitely not appropriate. I wouldn't say it's the same as other bodily fluids but agree with the woman and the comparison to giving vegetarians meat juices/gravy to trick them. It's still food but not a food you agreed to!

YANBU. I breastfeed DS, but the man didn't consent to having breastmilk so it's very inappropriate. If she knew he wouldn't like it (as opposed to thinking he would laugh) then it's exactly like sneakily giving a vegetarian meat. DH thinks my milk is too light and sweet tasting for coffee.

You know the milk we usually put in tea is a cow’s bodily fluid don’t you

Not straight from the cow it’s not!

Pasteurising cows milk is a relatively recent phenomenon. Humans drank it for thousands of years without that.

I agree it’s not an hilarious prank, but also don’t think it’s that big a deal. Yet again it demonstrates how we’ve totally normalised the equivalent substance from cows. That’s the weird bit.

If someone was vegan and you sneaked cow's milk into their tea pretending it was oat milk then that's just the same and is a horrible thing to do to someone. It's perfectly possible to support breastfeeding and think the woman behaved badly, this really isn't a breastfeeding issue.

It's someone else's body fluid never mind if it's vegan or veg or whatever.

I wouldn't want their blood, urine, or saliva in my tea either.

But we’re ok with cows body fluids?

I expect we're happier with steak from a cow than from a human as well. Human breastmilk is for babies and toddlers, if an adult wants some then that's their choice, by nobody should be tricked into drinking some.

Yuk. I wouldn’t find this funny at all. And anyone who has done this / finds it hilarious needs to give their head a wobble.

'But we’re ok with cows body fluids?'

I'm absolutely fine with that

It's screened

Random breast milk isn't.

by nobody should be tricked into drinking some.

I don’t disagree with this and I don’t see anyone else doing so.

However I don’t get the ‘ew bodily fluids’ argument if we’re all a okay with bodily fluids from a cow.

I've breastfed my children well into toddlerhood and I'm a milk donor, and I think this is so wrong. People should have autonomy over what goes into their body, and rightly or wrongly most adults would not want to ingest another humans milk. Also, breast milk can transmit diseases; before donating breast milk I had to have a blood test for this reason.

For thousands of years it wasn’t screened and that was culturally fine. And people do still drink unpasteurised cows milk. I’ve had some, it’s delicious.

Yes I'm aware of unpasteurised and 'raw milk'.

Superb

'However I don’t get the ‘ew bodily fluids’ argument if we’re all a okay with bodily fluids from a cow.'

What is there not to get?

A random persons body fluid has not been screened I don't wish to have that in my tea.

I drink cows body fluid in my tea and I choose the screened type. I also eat steak. I'd be a little squeamish at meat from a human too.

Well she replied to me ... he’s her cousin and he didn’t care.

The steak argument is in no way analogous.

There are strong taboos put in place against the consumption of human flesh for good cultural reasons.

Breast milk on the other hand has always been consumed by other humans and not just by babies born to that individual.

i drink cows body fluid in my tea and I choose the screened type

So what if the breast milk had been screened? Donor milk is.

Would you have been okay with that?

Human breastmilk is for babies and toddlers

And cows milk is for calves!

My point is really that it’s only cultural conditioning that makes us fine with consuming cow’s ‘bodily fluids’ but disgusted by the human equivalent.

'So what if the breast milk had been screened? Donor milk is.

Would you have been okay with that?'

No I'd not be 'ok' with 'donor breast milk' in my tea either.

My choice

Moo juice all the way for me

Totally agree LaurieMarlow

For goodness sake why are people going on about cow's milk?

If someone spiked someone else's tea with cow's milk that's not ok either.

Basically, you don't spike other people's drinks with anything.

Just....

Leave my tea alone