To say that women often look better as they age!

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I keep hearing that men get better with age! Society seem to promote this belief and at the same time, suggest that women get worse with age!

AIBU to challenge this? At almost 40, I have DC that sleep, disposable income to spend on skin care, treatments, clothes and hair! I have time for a proper exercise routine. I definitely look better now than at 30.

So where does this ridiculous saying come from? AIBU to suggest it is absolutely untrue and lots of women do actually get better with age

Best thing is your eyes get worse and you think you look better.....until you put your specs on!

Confidence and being comfortable in your own skin are very attractive, though, and many people do get more relaxed as they get older.

I don't agree. I think the late 20's to late 30's, are better.

Agreed.
When I was 18 to early twenties I was awkward, less confident, and would follow the most popular trends to fit in regardless of how they suited me. Now I know what flatters me more, have a better posture and physique

Also, most of the people I grew up with look so much better now than when they were 18-25. Again, they seem more confident found their own style and can afford to spend more on grooming

(I’m in my late twenties)
Vast majority of my celebrity female crushes are in the late twenties to early thirties bracket too

I was beautiful when I was younger. I disagree women often look better with age. I did, however, immensely enjoy myself during that stage of my life and didn't believe I was 'fat' (I wasn't) or ugly or hide myself, on the contrary. But on the whole people don't look better as they age, IMO.

I think it depends on how you view wrinkles. People tend to think George Clooney's (insert any popularly attractive Male celeb) wrinkles give him "character" and the bits of grey look "distinguished". Positive descriptors of women's appearance age usually "youthful", "wrinkle free" and "glow". If I were a man I'd be attractive, but as I'm a woman I look aged!

I look better now , at 54, than I did in my 20s.
I am healthier and happier .
I have better style and know how to apply make to suit me .
I enjoy life by suiting myself now that my children are older .
My marriage is strong too .
All helps to make you look better regardless of age .

Disagree . Most look older which is normal

I think the idea that men get better looking with age only really applies to men who were already incredibly good-looking, like George Clooney, not regular Dave who’s just gets fatter and balder

Yup. I discovered this when I joined Facebook in my 30s. All my female friends who I reconnected with looked like essentially the same people I remembered. And while some of my male friends did too, some had already really aged quite poorly. The way men put on weight is less forgiving, and this is true of how it changes their faces too. Many guy were losing their hair and while they might have looked nice if they leaned into it and cut it tight. Instead many try to grow it longer in places and hide the hair loss, which really doesn't look great.

I know one guy who was so, so good looking in the 90s in a David Boreanaz (Angel from Buffy) way. And for the last 20 years he's worked in sports, so still really fit. And he's the only man I know in real life to have gotten better looking with age. The wrinkles around his eyes suit him, his hair greyed from the temples and gives him gravitas.

For me personally, I look good at 40. I have big features and high cheek bones, so from a distance I'm deceptively youthful. I've found my sport, so I'm in the best shape of my life. My body looks great (if you can't see the awful pregnancy damaged skin on my stomach). But there is no getting away from the fact that I was better looking in my early 20s. The loss of collagen on my face takes it's toll and in the last year or so the wrinkles around my eyes and mouth have become more obvious and my facial skin is just more papery.

I think women on average age better, most men age quite badly but the people who genuinely get better with age are mainly a small handful of men.

I look worse with every passing year

Hence my username

So I started this thread, but I definitely don’t agree with people saying that to look more attractive you have to look younger or not have wrinkles. A quick google search gives you a whole host of beautiful older women, who don’t look young but are extremely attractive. Like this one

No most women don't look better as they age, but a lot of men do.

Having said that, a lot of hairstyles etc were unflattering in the past compared to what is acceptable now so that might be why some women appear to look better.

If they are lucky enough to keep their hair, that is.

No, I was prettier when younger but never realised it although people told me. Now I look horrible in my fifties, not genetic I don't think because my bio-mum looks pretty good (adopted).

I think sometimes stresses and strains of life take their toll on you. We had to take on the care of our grandchildren and had a terrible time in family court and I mean terrible. Although my gs1 is now in his late teens we still have probs with his violent dad and I am often scared in my own home.

I keep my weight down etc but I do not look great at all although my gc's helpfully tell me I look good for an old woman. I love the honesty of kids, can't beat it.

I think I look better at 47 than 37 then again I started running at 38 and lost 7 stone so that helps hugely.

I use simple wipes and e45 for skin care and people say I look 10 years younger than I am. I don't believe we need to spend a fortune on skin care.

Most people do not look better as they age.
For me people peak at:
For women I would say around 25
And for men I would say around 30

Thats not to say that an individual that's lets say 40 can't look better than they were at 30 if they suddenly looked after themselves, got in shape etc. But if they had done that when they were 30 then they would have looked even better still.

So I would say when you are younger you have a lot more potential whether you reach that potential is up to the individual

A quick google search gives you a whole host of beautiful older women, who don’t look young but are extremely attractive.

Not one single person said that older women can't look attractive. But almost universally we looked more attractive when we were younger. That's true of everyone male and female except some very good looking men who do improve with age.

God 18 to 25 🙈🙈

I had very little dress sense. Terrible make up. Bad skin. Put on 30lbs due to depression and other unhappy things. Drank copious amounts of alcohol. No sleep routine. Ridiculously stressed and anxious.

Now, I'm 31 and I look after myself much better. I do my nails, I actually have a skin care routine. I get clothes that fit and flatter me. I get my haircut regularly. I workout regularly. I eat and drink so much better. I consume barely any alcohol (thanks motherhood). I'm actually looking forward to my mid 30's and early 40's if I keep feeling like this - happy in my own skin and body.

I'd say that 18-25 thing is bollocks.

Hmm. Early 20s I was too skinny, had terrible (badly) home-bleached hair and couldn’t afford nice clothes. Late 20s admittedly was the time I looked best in a bikini, but I had bad skin for a few years, and I could afford to get my hair done properly but it was too dark and too short to really suit me. Now in my early 40s I no longer look as good on the beach and I wouldn’t mind being half a stone lighter, but a decade of decent skincare, money for good quality clothes and knowing what suits me goes a long way. And I think similar is true for a lot of women- you develop a better sense of style as you get a bit older, and that and increased confidence do a lot that plump skin and a pert butt can’t.

I look more polished now than I did 10/15 years ago. I am far more aware of what suits me and I am willing to step out of the box. Previously I played it safe due to my lack of confidence. I wore a lot of black. I wear less make up now and know how to accentuate my best features. I am slimmer (one dress size down) which certainly helps.

I think people generally gain more confidence the older they get. That is a massive generalisation and definitely won’t be the case for everyone but I have asked a few people what the best thing about ageing is and they all say no longer giving a shit what people think.

Mixed bag of opinions, it seems.

I was invisible in my teens and 20s. Seriously overweight in my 30s. Turning it round in my 40s. I'm 52 now and in the best shape I've ever been. My face is still 'meh'; can't do much with that. But the legs are stunning, hence the user name

Women do look better when they are older, they also exude an air of confidence, smart and well groomed. That'swhy so many young blokes hang around them!

At the risk of generalising, I think women carry on looking after themselves longer than men. Although I know a few 20 year olds (men) with beer bellies that used to be the preserve of 50 year old men.

That'swhy so many young blokes hang around them!

Oh, please, some of them do because the women have more money, don't/can't get pregnant, don't want commitments or are, erm, easier to bed.

Generalisations are just that.

I'm in great shape for my age and so far not too many wrinkles, but nowhere near as beautiful as I was when I was younger. The quality of one's skin declines, for starters.

I don’t think I agree. I feel better about myself now (age 45) than I did in my younger years but objectively I was more beautiful when I was younger. I am happier and more confident now though and that does count for a lot.

I am fatter it look better, better grooming etc