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AIBU?

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Original poster

To be worried he will cheat on me tonight when out?

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tallyol · 06/07/2019 15:56

I know I shouldn't but only been seeing each other a little while.
He checks out women all the time,he's got the "chat" so to speak.
He is out tonight with his friend and I know I won't hear a peep from him.
Aibu ?

OP posts:

Moominfan · 06/07/2019 17:25

If he can forget his own daughter what chance have you got?

Marmozet · 06/07/2019 17:27

He forgot to look for his child!? Lmao wtf!

recklessruby · 06/07/2019 17:28

OP you are only a few years older than my dd and i wouldn't want her wasting her time with a guy like this.
Been there, done that and ended up with really low self esteem!
Dont do it to yourself, there are much nicer guys out there.
And hope you re better soon x

SoyDora · 06/07/2019 17:30

He sounds like a real prince among men.

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tallyol · 06/07/2019 17:37

He literally came back and I said "where is she,you went to find her?"
He said
"Oh I forgot to look,I went to the bar"
I do really like the guy,but I'm not sure if it's worth all the stress etc
I think tonight I'm just going to relax with some movies and forget about worrying about him.

OP posts:

EKGEMS · 06/07/2019 17:42

If he means anything to you he would still come by to check on you,bring you flowers or a card let alone the mistrust you feel

Sparklesocks · 06/07/2019 17:50

If you don’t trust him, don’t stay with him. It’s just not fair to put yourself through it if that’s the case.

Marmozet · 06/07/2019 17:53

Look there's no point worrying as you can't do anything about his actions. You can't control them.

NannyRed · 06/07/2019 17:59

With no trust, there is no relationship.

You either have to learn to trust him or let him go and find someone you do trust.

AhhhHereItGoes · 06/07/2019 17:59

He sounds really immature.

He's at least early 30s I'm guessing if he has a 13 year old DD.

Yet he 'checks girls out' in front of his supposed girlfriend, doesn't bother looking for his DD when he takes her out (what happens if someone dodgy approaches her and he's not there to see it as he's too busy drinking or eying up girls).

I get some people like to go out once a month for a drink or two with friends and catch up. But that's totally different than chatting girls up, making immature and misogynistic comments, getting so drunk you likely loose your belongings and your inhibitions - it just sounds like my friends and myself at 18/19ish.

newmomof1 · 06/07/2019 18:02

How long have you been together?
Does he actually check women out in front of you or are you a bit paranoid?
Why should he have to text when he's on a night out with his friends?

However if you can't trust him, there's a reason. Bin him.
Hope you feel better soon x

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 06/07/2019 18:52

Leave him and work on your self esteem. Believe you are worth more than this.

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tallyol · 06/07/2019 19:17

He is always loosing his phone on nights out.
He goes through so many mobiles.
He actually checks them out,a couple of times he has tried to dance with them too whilst we have been out in a group of friends so it's deffo not just me being paranoid.

OP posts:

SoyDora · 06/07/2019 19:19

You keep updating the thread with more and more information about what a twat he is.
Why are you with him?

AcrossthePond55 · 06/07/2019 19:48

I do really like the guy,but I'm not sure if it's worth all the stress etc

Answer: He's not.

You're welcome!

Didntwanttochangemyname · 06/07/2019 19:58

OP, do you hear yourself? Stop being an idiot and raise the bar!

Sparklesocks · 06/07/2019 20:01

OP it’s quite simple, if every time he goes out you want to spend your time agonising over what he’s doing and if he’s cheating, stressing yourself out and getting worked up - then stay with him.

If you want to be happy, and be with a man who makes you feel secure and happy, then leave.

Only you can make this decision.

Merryoldgoat · 06/07/2019 20:09

What’s wrong with you? Seriously?

He checked out other women in front of you.
He goes goes hot and cold.
He doesn’t look after his daughter properly.
He gets drunk in charge of a child.

And you ‘really like him’?

Seriously - what is wrong with you?

BananaFace5 · 06/07/2019 20:13

Have my first LTB....seriously, you are better than this

Windygate · 06/07/2019 20:22

Do you actually have zero self respect?

Wherearemycrayons · 06/07/2019 20:38

Get. Out.

WipeYourFeetOnTheRhythmRug · 06/07/2019 22:11

Talk is cheap - anyone can send a bunch of texts it takes seconds. He’s shown you who he is. You’re way down the list of priorities.

Stillstrawberrywater · 06/07/2019 22:15

Once the trust is gone the end is nigh I'm afraid

ScruffGin · 06/07/2019 22:38

You seem to have no self respect at all, you know he's a twat but you "really like him". You need to find someone who is worth your time because I can guarantee he isn't

notmuchmoretogive · 07/07/2019 06:26

He sounds like an alcoholic to me. All that memory loss and forgetting about you/losing morals is awful.

Run like the wind he is not worth it.

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