About men walking around without shirts on?

[sunniepoppie]

My dad used to do this all the time and so I grew up not really thinking anything of it, but I do remember being refused entry to restaurants when abroad.

I also found it embarrassing as a teenager when friends would come round and my dad would always have his top off.

I’m now trying to encourage my son to keep his top on. AIBU?

Okaaaaaaaay.

Where’s the confusing bit?

Your thought process.

I agree that in public on the streets shirts should be worn. If you want to go topless, men, do it in your own homes, please, to spare us women!

Although even that can be yuck. I remember as a girl hurting my arm fairly seriously arms being taken to my uncle's house (he's a GP) for him to examine. He came in from the garden topless and I remember him examining my arm and feeling so embarrassed about his bare chest near my hand I wanted to pull away. To be fair, it wasn't like he was expecting us to turn up but I can remember it after nearly 30 years.

I think it's vile, and that includes attractive and fit men as well as the flabby unfit ones.

It always feels micro-aggressive too - "I'll do what the fuck I like and you can get knotted if you don't like it!" male entitlement.

The sun comes out in the UK and so do the moob s!
Even if they have a great body , I still hate it.

On the beach or round the pool it’s fine. It’s just about ok in a park if you’re lying down sunbathing, but if you get up to get an ice cream, you should put your shirt back on. Anywhere else, it’s not appropriate. And that goes for topless men and women in bikini tops.

See it a lot at footie matches on TV. Several overweight blokes parading bare breasted for the cameras.. Gross

Like it or not, women's breasts are seen as sexual and thus not suitable for public display. Men's are not.

Isn't that kind of the issue though?

I think it’s grim OP and am with you. Not something I’d want my hypothetical son or husband doing unless by the pool or at the beach (and my husband is in great shape!)

But whenever I see men doing it in they usually have a fag hanging out of their mouth/can of beer/a beer gut/icky tattoos/similar props so I think that’s given me a sort of image of men who do that.

My Dad never did, unless on holidays on the beach or on our balcony and even then he sometimes did have a shirt on but unbuttoned.

It honestly doesn't bother me and, like PPs have said, have often wished I could go topless myself .

Funny enough I just saw my neighbour out topless (him not me!)

He has a physical job so he's in pretty solid shape but he had that kind of swagger where he was walking belly first and he just looked like a stereotypical lager lout out on the lash.

If I didn't know him he would have looked quite intimidating.