To be fucking sick of show offs

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I'm sitting near a very loud group, in twenty five minutes I have heard all about their holiday cottage Cornwall , their two night trip to a theme park where they will easily spend £500, their expensive trip to an adventure place where they can be like bear grylls, how only children at their expensive private school go to such places as it's not really for state school pupils, daily mail sad faces over parking charges (hello if you are on mn and lower the volume, I can hear you on the tables by the outside bar), long haul foreign holidays etc etc. Ffs shut up bragging.
Oh and you don't have OCD.

I know that all the stuff he was boasting about is commonplace and nearly every academic does it: she'd been on 'Women's Hour' (as are many humanities/law/historians in academia at some point - either that or 'In Our Time' - and it's really no great shakes

Commonplace to get on Radio Four? Really? It sounds to me as if that man was justifiably proud of his daughter or granddaughter. Maybe if you hadn't wanted to hear about it, you should have been more assertive and closed him down.

People can be pretty mean spirited. But people can also be pretty insensitive to what others don’t have.

They sound loud and annoying but I’m not sure they’re actually bragging, sounds like they’re all pretty affluent and are just discussing their day to day lives.

I agree even people on quite a modest income could afford these things. I have some friends on quite a low income with a Merlin pass who go to theme parks constantly (they are crazy in my eyes).

Sauna convos can be awkward! I have one of those ‘please tell me all your problems’ faces and usually end up discussing someone’s life story whilst sweating on a shelf

Loud groups can be a pain. Maybe their hobby is meeting to out-do one another? It would touch a nerve for me as well - not precisely envy, more a frustration that success is measured in material things for so many people, and then a recognition I measure success in achievements so is there a difference?

Owning a cottage in Cormwall is normal?? Might be if your'e Cornish, but otherwise...

I must admit I was thinking of a rented holiday cottage rather than owning one.

Some of the funniest conversations I’ve overheard are like this. Once, a couple of business men sitting at an outdooor cafe in a market town, boasting to each other about how much square footage their different businesses had let in London and how many millions they had made. Except one had made quite a bit more than the other and the other got quite despondent.

so where are you op that you have to listen to this every week ? it is the loudness of the voices that grates on me, but i'd rather listen to your lot than a group of people getting drunk, shouting swearing and shrieking with laughter at every little thing.

@MarieIVanArkleStinks that man just loves and is proud of his granddaughter. It’s pretty likely she would be mortified to hear him talk about her in that way and if they are, has almost certainly told him that the things she does are ‘normal’ for her chosen career. But whether they’re normal or not, I think it’s wonderful that he is so proud of her achievements that he wants to tell strangers about them (and to be honest she should be too, the vast majority of people don’t write books and aren’t enough of a subject expert to be interviewed on Woman’s Hour).

Being proud of your kids is part of being a parent/grandparent, surely? Do you not feel that way about your children? Or other family members? My

OP; you just need to get better at zoning out stuff that’s irrelevant to you. It’s not helping anyone. I agree they sound annoying though.

But if I don't let everyone in a 200-mile radius know that DD is learning Sanskrit and was nominated for the Baby Booker, then... what's even the point?

Cornwall? Not France? That’s Brexit for you.

@MarieIVanArkleStinks I listen to people all the time without saying that I actually do what their loved one does but "better" because they are proud of him/her and love to talk about them. I don't think of what has been achieved as "no great shakes" whatever the level, field etc.

OP it does sound like the group in question are loud which I would hate, but I really doubt it's to be overheard. That doesn't sound plausible. Having a holiday home is really hard work (even with managers etc) and spending £500 at a theme park depressingly easy when you add it all up.

Are they showing off or just talking?
Cottage in Cornwall? WoW not very impressed. Month holiday in Far East yes impressed.
£500 for a couple of days in a theme park is that it? Come on that’s not showing off that’s just talking.

Don’t let it get to you they probably still go home at the end of the night and worry about how they are going to pay for it.

Cornwall? Not France? That’s Brexit for you

France? How common !

They might not be showing off, could just be sharing what they enjoy with people of like mind. When there is a group being enthusiastic it's bound to be noisy. You often hear people say that certain others are showing off when they're not really.

If it bothers you that much could you not go at a different time when they aren't there?

Only on Mumsnet does everyone own a holiday cottage in Cornwall haaaaa

YANBU I hate show offs too OP! They can really ruin what would otherwise be a haven of me-time.

They might not be showing off, could just be sharing what they enjoy with people of like mind.

Really? When they are talking extremely loudly and going into detail about how much they spent on lunch, how much the hotel cost, how the place they go to isn't really a place where state school pupils go to? How they are have spent £200 on a day out one week, another £500 the next, then going to the holiday cottage, then a foreign holiday? All that at loud volume and they are not showing off?

I can't go at a different time because it is a fixed time activity with limited seating. They are like it every single week.

They can be as enthusiastic as they like without going into the minutae about the cost of all the wonderful activities they do and how much they spend on school fees and how the kind of things they do just wouldn't appeal to state school pupils.

People on here really don’t like people who have a bit of money do they?

I know some people like this. It's annoying but also stressful hearing them talk about money all the time. I worry for them because I think it's sad they need to boast about this to feel validated. Also, I know they aren't loaded and renovated their whole house on a credit card. I would never want to put my self in that financial position. Or in that social position... I.e. Being so irritating towards others and only having one interest. Just doesn't impress me. Some others lap it up though. Each to their own.

People on here really don’t like people who have a bit of money do they?

They can have the money but do they really need to brag about it? We had a day out the other week and I told friends about it when we were chatting but money didn't come into the conversation - why would it?

Oh OP ignore the "green eyed monster" type comments . Some people on here are just GFs

YANBU . Bragging about money spent is classless in my opinion.

Op and Marie I'm completely with you, my FIL is a terrible show off and it's such an unattractive trait.

And you know when you've met a bragger rather than someone just proud of their kids, it's palpable.