I need a sense of perspective here. So please help me, but please also be gentle with me.. it’s been a tough week with other unrelated horrid stuff.
So, I received an email from a parent that said that my daughter had “pinned” her daughter “up by the throat and tried to throttle her” against a wall in school. This was then confirmed by “several mothers”. According to the email.
My daughter has been telling me for the last three months that this child has been systematically bullying her.
Numerous complaints have been made (by my daughter) to the school. It includes minor stuff like.. she gave me her pencil and told everyone that I stole it. That kind of petty, unprovable stuff. But it happens daily.
So, after I received the email from the mother, we spent the entire weekend traumatised. My daughter specifically. She cried the entire weekend believing that this girl’s “lies” would get her expelled. We were led to believe that a clique of girls were backing up and holding this story together.
I know this sounds a bit rubbish, but I know my daughter. She can be fiery, she can be horrid..like all of us can. but she would never do this. I trusted her.
So.. on the Monday morning, the school interrogated every girl and they all confessed that it didnt happen. The girl in question said that it did. By lunchtime she finally admitted that it didn’t.
Everyone’s happy... my daughter isn’t the, about to be an expelled psycho, out to kill her classmates that she was accused of being.
However, we aren’t.
She’s been traumatised by it. Like every adult that is falsely accused of some terrible crime.
I really don’t expect this girl’s head to be put on a spike.. I know that she must come from some pretty messed up stock.. but how do we cope? How do we heal from such an awful and very flippant allegation?
PS the mother has been informed that her daughter was lying.. funnily enough no apology has been forthcoming.