to feel sick that my ex is now married? *warning, discussion of exes like of 'jailbait' and young girls*

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I split up with my ex partner because I found his 'primejailbait' account. This site thankfully doesn't exist anymore. He had numerous photos on there of young girls, fully clothes but in skimpy outfits. Scarily, these had been stolen from peoples facebooks by the looks of things and were all of girls in dancing outfits, bikinis on the beach etc. He had a thing for shiny materials hence. The girls he was looking at were young, in the range of 4-8.

Shockingly, the police weren't interested as the images hadn't been downloaded and weren't illegal as the children were fully clothed. I left him. Felt sick I had been with him for so long. Told very few people and confided in those I trusted and put it to the back of my mind as there was absolutely zero I could do.

He's now married. I've just seen on Facebook as a mutual friend left a congrats message. There are comments on there about how they'll be having babies soon and I feel sick.

I don't know how to get rid of this horrible feeling and even though I did all I could to get the police involved before, I wish I could've done more.

She probably has no clue that her husband is in to this shit.

Do I just put it out of my mind and carry on with life?

@itwaseverthus what?

He had a primejailbait account looking at pictures of 4-8 year olds? Yes, this particular "man" is shit

i like jameswong's idea. but would change the letter from 'his ex confided me' to like 'it has been noticed by us that your dh had been looking images of young children'. so it wont look like its from your friend but from someone very unanimous.

Sorry but I disagree with "planting a seed" in her mind. Poor woman. So she has to be tormented for goodness knows how long, never knowing if what you said is true or not? That's psychological torture and I think it would be a horrible thing to do.

By all means, contact the police again, ask Social Services for advice, or the website a pp linked. But don't torture this woman when you have no proof to give her.

I don’t understand why the police didn’t act before. He possessed images surely

And if he ever divorced this woman do I just keep chasing down every woman he ever dates? Such a head fuck.

This WILL destroy your mental health

You can of course tell his wife , he has not committed any crime - you however are likely to arrested for harassment if it back tracks to you. . You really do need to take a step back and stop thinking about vigilantism.

I hate this egging on to do things anonymously - that in its self is a vile and cowardly act. One thing I have noticed about this forum is that some posters, from the safety of their keyboard, will goad others into endless criminal or violent act; its horrendous the advice and suggestions given out here willy nilly at times. I think they live vicariously through fantasies.

I don’t understand why the police didn’t act before. He possessed images surely

Not indecent ones.

He had numerous photos on there of young girls, fully clothes but in skimpy outfits.

"Even if she thinks youare.thecrazy ex. So fucking what. It will always stay in the back of her mind".

^This.

Id want to know before i had children with him.

He may well end up hurting his children

Not that you want to make anyone paranoid or worry unnecessarily, but it means if he does do (or she finds) anything else inappropriate, it'll be harder for him to worm his way out of it, if she knows he's been accused previously (she'll put 2+2 together). She'll probably dismiss it but brood on it in her head/be more observant of him, but that's surely better than being blissfully unaware.

I'd rather know if my ex had been accussed or this, than not know (even if it turned out to be a lie, I'd rather judge the validity of such rumours myself).

A few people I know, waited until my ex and I were broken up, (mainly due to DV, though he cheated too), to tell me about how he'd been violent with his partner before me, and that he'd been a creepy womaniser, with a penchant for 18-21 year olds, for years. If they'd told me while I was with him, it would have been harder for him to gaslight me and I'd probably have left him sooner.