Midweek wedding

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Midweek wedding (Wednesday) during school holidays - all our guests bar two live in the local area. It’s a significant date for us as a couple. I’m willing to accept a lower No of guests as I believe my closest friends and immediate family will all be able to attend. But there is an option for us to have the ceremony on the Wednesday followed by a evening party on the Friday of the following week but it seems a lot of hassle to get dressed in our wedding outfits twice, hair and make up twice etc. Is a mid week wedding totally unreasonable? Anyone been to one before?

Midweek weddings always strike me as a bit "we don't expect you yo attend, just send a gift" tbh.

How about a v small midweek wedding just for closest friends and family and a bigger party on a Friday night for everyone?

Splitting it is really weird and unnecessary. Most people would hate the hassle of having to attend the same wedding on two separate days, not a good idea whatsoever.

Midweek wedding during the school holidays with enough notice is fine.

I do wish people would at least read an OPs replies even if they don't read the full thread.

OP, one of the nicest weddings I ever went to was a surprise one. A couple who had lived together for some time contact about 30 of us to say they were going to have a party at their house next month, height of summer, hopefully with good weather (which it was). Was lovely, everyone pretty much knew everyone there, lovely spread of food. Then the couple announced that the previous Thursday they'd gone and got married and this was their reception. It was bloody lovely, low key but so nice. They both been married TWICE before (they were in their 60s) so didn't want to make a big thing of it. They got married in the registrar's office with just their children and grandchildren and then had lunch with them. They went away for the weekend and then had all their closest friends round.

I've not been married before, but I think that's what I'd prefer than any big do, so I think you getting married "alone" and then having a party a a day or two later is the right move OP.

Just get married quietly on the special day and have a blessing/reception on the Friday.

I know you want a quiet do in the afternoon but is that what your guests want? Maybe the Weds might work but depends on your demographics. Immediate family and friends will suck it up no doubt Anyone with children or teachers might have things planned or the school holidays , other people could be fed up having to book leave etc.

Trouble is no one who feels put out will tell you to your face. They’ll either decline or turn up and moan about it privately.