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Original poster

To think you don't buy someone chocolate for their birthday then try to eat it?!

65 replies

WaterOffaDucksCrack · 04/07/2019 22:12

I know this is really a non issue but it's my birthday. One of the presents my partner bought me was 2 bars of chocolate. He's just come up and tried to take one of the bars downstairs (I've just come up to watch tv as im 31 weeks pregnant and in a lot of pain so I'm just trying to get comfy).

All I said was "please don't take that!" He said "there's another bar!" So I said "can you take the other one instead as this one's my favourite". He's gone downstairs in a huff calling me ungrateful Confused

As I said I'm aware it's not a big issue (and yes I have many "real" problems to worry about) but come on! And going off in a huff is just deeply unattractive!

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Squigglesworth · 04/07/2019 22:50

Why in the world would someone buy someone else an edible gift if they intended to eat it (or even just part of it) themselves?! He should have bought an extra bar of chocolate for himself-- or given you just one of them. Sorry, but he's weird.

Sparklfairy · 04/07/2019 22:54

Jayaywhynot that's awful Shock I would be furious, Lindt is an expensive rare treat here!

origamiunicorn · 04/07/2019 23:03

*Kill him

Not a jury in the land would convict*

You're pregnant, blame your hormones.

Bunnylady53 · 04/07/2019 23:04

At the beginning I thought this was going to be lighthearted but it really isn’t! Does your DH often behave like that? How on earth are you ungrateful if he bought the chocolate for you then took it for himself?!

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 04/07/2019 23:09

I would go with Sweetooth suggestion.
Freeze the bars , gie 'im malky

It'll snap it into neat, servicable pieces.
Eat them.
Blame the baby and Sweet

Job done

Bunnylady53 · 04/07/2019 23:19

By the way, Happy Birthday OP 🎈🎂💐🎉🎁🎆🎇🍾🥂

Areallthegoodnamesgone · 04/07/2019 23:48

He’s a brave man trying to take chocolate from a pregnant woman Shock

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WaterOffaDucksCrack · 05/07/2019 09:23

Jayaywhynot I would be fuming at that! They're my favourite!!

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Pinkmalinky · 05/07/2019 09:26

Let this be a lesson to him: DON’T MESS WITH A PREGNANT WOMAN’S FOOD! Grin

I became very emotional about food when pregnant, it was probably the main source of my tears...

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WaterOffaDucksCrack · 05/07/2019 09:26

Bunnylady53 Thanks! And yes he does behave like that a lot! I have coeliac disease and he'll eat my things first before he eats his so I'll end up with no treats and he has double. It does my head in but I feel petty bringing it up as it's just food!

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YouTheCat · 05/07/2019 09:30

It's not petty! He's being so disrespectful to you. Lock your treats away for a start and call him on this every single time.

Interested to know who the 3% are that think you're being unreasonable.

Stressedout10 · 05/07/2019 09:32

@youthecat
Men

YouTheCat · 05/07/2019 09:35

My partner offers his chocolate to me. I'd never dream of taking it.

Add in that OP is pregnant, has coeliac disease and it's her birthday and you have one very selfish arse of a husband there.

NoSauce · 05/07/2019 09:35

He’s rude. If I buy DH chocolates for his birthday I wait till he opens them before taking some.

mussolini9 · 05/07/2019 09:36

He's gone downstairs in a huff calling me ungrateful

Hold on. He buys you chocolate, tries to eat it himself instead, then calls YOU ungrateful?

Why would you be grateful to someone who has nicked your present back? He's being a twat.

BeanBag7 · 05/07/2019 09:37

Buy a box of milk tray. Eat half of them yourself. Present him the half-empty box as an apology for being ungrateful. Call him ungrateful if he complains.

Bonus points if you actually eat the entire box.

Jimmers · 05/07/2019 09:39

LTB!
Only needed the thread title to know YANBU.
And having read your update on him nicking all your treats, definitely bury him under the patio Grin
Happy birthday Flowers

chocolatemademefat · 05/07/2019 09:47

There’s no discussion required. It’s yours. My DH would never go there. He just knows. You have to train him better.

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WaterOffaDucksCrack · 05/07/2019 09:59

Well we're not married so it will be an easy split Grin

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Juells · 05/07/2019 10:06

FatThor
Kill him

Not a jury in the land would convict

^^ This

Prick. That's like giving your partner a present of a book you want to read yourself, or a household gadget you want. 😡

MrsLinManuelMiranda · 05/07/2019 10:07

Am I the only one who wants to know which sort of chocolate they were, and which was your favourite? My DSD often gifts my DH chocolate, he really isn't that keen so I normally eat most of it.

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WaterOffaDucksCrack · 05/07/2019 10:10

MrsLinManuelMiranda well I would say but I'm worried it may out me Grin

There's a plain galaxy bar and a caramel one. Caramel is my favourite. The kind of middle size bars, not individual sized but not massive?

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Juells · 05/07/2019 10:10

I have coeliac disease and he'll eat my things first before he eats his so I'll end up with no treats and he has double.

Hang on, the chocolate bar was just about funny, but that's seriously fucked up - most coeliac stuff isn't that nice, so why is he taking it before the ordinary stuff?

It's sounding more and more about control, or being a bit spiteful, not accidental at all.

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WaterOffaDucksCrack · 05/07/2019 10:12

Juells it's not even specific coeliac stuff! We might both choose crisps we like but he'll eat all mine leaving his which I don't like or can't eat!

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Munchkingoat · 05/07/2019 10:19

I know it sounds like a minor thing but that's appalling behaviour, so selfish! Especially now you've said about the coeliac stuff. His lack of consideration for you is awful.