AIBU: swearing ban at work

[JammieJones]

We’ve all recently been moved around offices and I’ve ended up in an office which has a swearing ban. I’d been there 2 hours when I was told by member of staff that she doesn’t like swearing and doesn’t want it in her office. I hadn’t sworn she was just letting me know.

We are the same level at work and after asking other members of staff who’ve worked with her for a long time she really really hates swearing and pulls people up on it.

Fair enough she doesn’t want people screaming fucking cuntbadger across the office but crap, damn and bloody are also on the banned list.

I realise I’ve come into “her” office but AIBU to think she can’t police other adults language (especially as we are all the same grade). I don’t particularly like the egg sandwiches she eats every day but I’m not going to ban them!

DocusDiplo

What type of places do those of you in sweary places work in out if interest??

Probation: we swear a lot. And discuss octopus porn...

Your remark has just made me belly laugh! Thank you for brightening my very shitty day.

My partner doesn’t allow swearing at her company and I agree with her. It is not professional as far as I am concerned. I am very far from a prude, I worked in the adult industry for years where swearing was a requirement of filming , but when it is in an office where customers may be on the phone or visiting then it doesn’t look or sound right.

guido My office also swore while discussing octopus porn, I was sure that it was unique to us but obviously not!

What type of places do those of you in sweary places work in out if interest??

The arts. Very sweary!

dreich

We also thought we were unique.

It is all well and good guido until you are on a home visit and notice the ornamental octopus collection and dare not even look at your colleague for the rest of the visit for fear of cracking up.
It's a hidden job hazard.

The police. It is mandatory to read out to the manager what a suspect said when he called someone a fucking cunt. Also, we have daily practice scenarios with someone playing villain and shouting “fuck off” while struggling with the trainee officers trying to detain them. It’s brilliant.

Can you put a poster up one day reading ‘ cunting egg sarnies are fucking banned!’

What type of places do those of you in sweary places work in out if interest

I work in a Police Control Room. Most of our bad language comes out when 'log it with 101' type calls hit our screen!!

I work in politics - no way in hell anyone would go an hour much less a day without swearing. Funnily enough if someone tells me “language!” (Like my MiL) it makes me swear more than usual somewhat subconsciously..

Can't wait to hear the next address from the Queen telling the country that we are all a bunch of lazy ungrateful cunts

A lot of comments here need to be read in the light of the fact that the UK had a foreign secretary who has gone on record saying:

Fuck business

and who has made no apology - either for the language or the sentiment.

So I think "fuck" is certainly an acceptable everyday word now.

I don't think we should be losing our standards to that of the foreign secretary.

I love a good swear, but it's not asking much for a professional environment to not be littered with fuck and cunt every 2 minutes.

I don't think we should be losing our standards to that of the foreign secretary

How about the teachers up and down the land who are expected to use politicians as people their charges should aspire to ? Obviously not in state schools I grant you.

There are 8 of us at work - in 3 years I have heard the boss swear once, and one of my colleagues maybe 3 or 4 times - she is known as "the sweary one"

Some people work in sweary environments, some don't, sometimes there are people who swear, some people simply don't. I'm glad my environment is not full of swearing, as I am not a sweary person.

I was brought up in an environment where swearing was impolite and marked you as a "not nice" person. Rightly or wrongly the view is in my DNA...

I swear at work (hospital - operating theatre) as do my colleagues. It’s a sign of intelligence :)

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/swearing-study-intelligent-intelligence-university-of-rochester-a7916516.html

My dad always said it was a sign of a limited vocabulary! He was very well read and very smart (quite a gent) so always had a witty quote or saying, but we all swore like troopers so would usually reply ‘you’re not fucking wrong there dad!

Her - 'LANGUAGE'
You - Yep it's English - you'll find the word in the dictionary.

I wouldn't be dictated to like that - apart from by my mother.

OP what you said about egg sandwiches, I would just say that to her.

There is no way I would give up swearing at work. I don't swear at home, my kids have never repeated a swear word... but at work I should be allowed to mutter "for fuck sake" when something goes wrong

What type of places do those of you in sweary places work in out if interest??

Housing association, but the very sweary team I was on worked in homelessness prevention for vulnerable people, so very challenging.

That team has shrunk and the office is now almost entirely used by managers hot-desking, so I've had to put a bit of a lid on it.

What type of places do those of you in sweary places work in out if interest??

I don't any more (work alone at home, so swear in my head most of the time, with impunity ) but I have had sweary workplaces in publishing and educational admin. Both pretty fluent and creative in swearing style.

Ooooh! She really needs to read Gill Sims wonderful book "Why Mummy Swears."

She'd faint out cold - I swear it!

What type of places do those of you in sweary places work in out if interest??

Finance

I would try and refrain from saying 'fuck' OP, but the more mild swear words I'd not bother moderating.

I'd tell her she doesn't own the fucking office and ignore her forever more.