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To think schools policy is disgusting?

51 replies

Cocoloco2019 · 04/07/2019 10:55

I have a much younger sibling (17 years my junior) who is currently at school. My brother (8 years my junior) also attended said school and when he was there my mother had various issues with some teachers and their way of behaving towards the students - but that’s another story.

The school have some ludicrous policies in place which I can’t believe parents don’t challenge. I’ve asked my mother why she doesn’t challenge this and she honestly can’t be bothered with the agro. It’s a catholic school and a lot of the teachers are extremely confrontational.

One of the rules (bearing in mind this is a primary school) is if a child is late on more than one occasion then said child will be given a detention after school for 30 minutes. How on earth can you punish a child for being late when it’s the parents that drop them off at school?! Surely a small fine to the parents would be better rather than punish a child for their parents actions? They refuse to take into account other children, late busses trains etc. And again, children of this age are not taking themselves to school!!

The other policy is, if a child has a passion/hobby for something but they are not good at it, they are not allowed to join that team/after school club. However if they are good at something, they have to join the team

Example: child loves to play football, isn’t great at it, but is quite good at netball but they don’t enjoy it. Said child would be forced to join the netball club and wouldn’t be considered for the football club.

Aibu to think parents need to stop lying down and letting schools dictate their child’s upbringing?

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bfordmama · 04/07/2019 11:13

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MereDintofPandiculation · 04/07/2019 11:33

Depends whetehr it's a "team" or a "club" ... if there's any competitive basis to it, is doesn't make sense to include people who enjoy it but are no use at it.

Making you join something out of school hours, just because you're good at it, is not acceptable. And wouldn't work for older children, who would very quickly learn not to display any ability whatever at the activity in question.

MereDintofPandiculation · 04/07/2019 11:34

But "disgusting" is a bit of an over-reaction to the second policy.

Nesssie · 04/07/2019 11:47

Disgusting is an over reaction.
The late policy is standard, yes its up to the parents to get them there on time but they can;t put the parents in detention. And the added palava of having to pick the child up at after detention should hopefully make them buck their ideas up.

The after school club thing is unfair though

Waveysnail · 04/07/2019 12:05

Is this private school?

NorthEndGal · 04/07/2019 12:07

I think you need to look up the meaning of disgust and of annoyance.

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Cocoloco2019 · 04/07/2019 12:24

@NorthEndGal I think you should look up the meaning of hyperbole and literal

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Cocoloco2019 · 04/07/2019 12:25

No it isn’t private, just lead with an iron rod as it seems

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Gulsink · 04/07/2019 13:44

I'd drop them off late on purpose to get the free 30 minutes childcare after school.

GabriellaMontez · 04/07/2019 13:50

Which country? I've never heard of detention for primary children. What's the point?

herculepoirot2 · 04/07/2019 13:51

The rules seem strict. Wouldn’t go as far as to say disgusting.

MyOpinionIsValid · 04/07/2019 13:54

Or as our Deputy Head used to say "Johnny, ther's nothign to stop your mother taking yo uaway from this school, would you like me to ring her?"

TBH I dont know any school that doesnt dish out detentions for lateness. I dont think faith has exclusivity on this one. If the parents are doing the drop off and pick up, it will inconvenience them more.

NewGrandad · 04/07/2019 13:56

Confused as to what it's a Catholic school has to do with anything.

LightsInOtherPeoplesHouses · 04/07/2019 13:56

Depends whetehr it's a "team" or a "club" ... if there's any competitive basis to it, is doesn't make sense to include people who enjoy it but are no use at it.

It's a primary school. How on earth does anyone know if the child has any ability in a sport if they're not allowed to join the club/team and practice a bit?

JacquesHammer · 04/07/2019 13:57

I dont know any school that doesnt dish out detentions for lateness

Ours are just marked late in the register. They’re also sensible enough to accept trains/buses sometimes (read often Grin) go awry and that isn’t the kid’s fault.

OP - sounds draconian. How long has your sibling got left?

JacquesHammer · 04/07/2019 13:58

And yes for a primary school lack of inclusion in sport is appalling.

Theimpossiblegirl · 04/07/2019 13:59

TBH I dont know any school that doesnt dish out detentions for lateness.
I've never heard of this in primary. Secondary, fair enough.

Northernparent68 · 04/07/2019 14:00

I’d leave it to your mother to deal with, it maybe you re more upset than your sibling

CaMePlaitPas · 04/07/2019 14:10

You need to back off, this isn't your child.

xyzandabc · 04/07/2019 14:10

TBH I dont know any school that doesnt dish out detentions for lateness

TBH I don't know any primary school that gives after school detentions for anything at all. Perhaps kept in a break or lunchtime for poor behaviour or forgetting homework but not after school at primary.

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 04/07/2019 14:10

Gulsink that's good thinking!

MrsSpenserGregson · 04/07/2019 14:11

If it's so awful, why has your mum chosen to send not one, not two, but three of her children there?!

I don't disagree with you about the school, those policies are indeed ridiculous - but your mum has made this choice....

JacquesHammer · 04/07/2019 14:12

but your mum has made this choice....

You express a preference when it comes to picking a school. It isn’t a choice!

BarbarianMum · 04/07/2019 14:18

I reckon if parents knew their primary aged child would be getting a half hours detention for being late, 90% of chronic lates would disappear just like that. It would be really tough on the remaining 10% though.

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 04/07/2019 14:18

Well it’s your mums child and she doesn’t care enough to challenge it so can’t be that bad. Plus she currently has 2 children attending the school.

Maybe not the best policy but far from disgusting

Maybe you just needed to work yourself up about something today?