My neighbour is a 70 y old lady with several health issues. She was pretty neutral to us when we bought the house next to hers, but when she found out that I was expecting, she got very excited. So since our baby was born (now 21 months), she started coming to hold him. Many times it helped me when she would play with him, my son loves her and I know she loves him. Many times, she would just enter our house (our door was often open) whenever she felt like seeing our son. I'm an introvert, so while I like her overall and I know that it's good for my son and for her, as a lonely elderly person, I sometimes felt annoyed with this.
5 weeks ago, she fell in our house and broke her hip. We visited her at the hospital and I come to visit her in her house every other day. She can not get out of the house for now, so I imagine that she feels lonely. I make her tea and put her dishes in the dishwasher.
However, she has 2 loving daughters, 2 loving teenage grandchildren (who loved when she was visiting them, but are not visiting her, only calling), 2 sisters and 2 brothers, as well as sisters in law and a niece. And friends...And a boyfriend who visits every day.
Well, she is pretty insistent when she wants to see my son or feels bad. Now, she started calling me out from her balcony when she hears our voices in the house. She even got a "cow bell" so I can hear her. Today, she called once and was told by my husband that I was cooking. Later, she called me again, when I didn't answer, she rang to ask when I'm coming. I do visit her, but when I feel like it. She has a big family and is not the typical lonely elderly person. I have things to do in the house and I don't always feel like sitting in hers. I want to visit when it's convenient for me, not when I'm being prompted several times. That actually makes me uncomfortable, because I feel like her family should be the first people she should be insisting with.
I also have a 70 year old mom who lives 35 min away (without trafic) and I can't visit her so often.