DH annoyed at me for my family using affectionate abbreviated name for DS

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My husband is annoyed at me and has said I don’t respect his feelings or views because I haven’t called my family out for using a shortened version of DS’s name (he’s 3).
What they say is (in my opinion) an affectionate shortening of his name, that they use sometimes. I won’t say the name but think “Jason” and they call him “Jasey”.

I respect his choice to be bothered by it but I think he’s overreacting slightly.
I think they’ll grow out of using it but he wants me to tell them now.

You know that name is just an example, Ihatehashtags?
He isn't actually called Jasey...

Its not worth getting stressed about - personally I spent a lot of time choosing the names for my children (ok so their dad helped too!) and want them to be called those names. But all 3 have had various shortenings and extensions of their names by school friends! They are still called their proper names at home.

My sister has 3 children with lovely names but all 3 regularly use a shortened version of their name which I can't get my head around. Unfortunately I still find myself calling them their 'proper' names which is just as bad as calling someone a nickname when they use their full name!

The point in having a name is that its yours (or your parents') personal wish to be referred to that way.

If a friend of mine insisted on calling me something different, I'd think them pretty disrespectful.

It annoys me when people cant manage to know how to spell the name of a loved one.

Its disrespectful and laying claim to making their own name up. This is one of the privileges of parents, to name their dc.

Its a common problem from abusers,that they will call you what they want, and not what you want. It just shows lack of respect for others.

Its not just one person, but the whole family are doing it! No, they're rude, changing your dcs name instead of acknowledging given name.

Avoiding name-shortening is part and parcel of name-choosing, in accepting, that matthew will likely be called Matt at some point, or even Sophie, soph (which sounds horrible).

Its to be expected from strangers at school and even work, but your own family?

It very much depends. If you both chose and wanted the name Christopher for example and they were calling him Chris then you could say no we dont call him Chris. He would still become Chris at school though. If on the other hand they were calling him Chrissywissy or some equally daft name then I think let it go they will soon grow out of it.

I think YANBU. I would have no problem with this - I think nicknames are a way of showing affection. I spent half my childhood wanting a nickname that had naturally evolved!

If your DH really has a problem with it I think he should speak to your family about it. No need for you to get involved if it doesn't bother you!