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More of a WWYD but I'm annoyed

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User9999999 · 03/07/2019 16:14

Today DD had her school fete. Her class had a stall where it was one of those name the bear things and she was very excited about it. Anyway I couldn't attend as I'm working so my mum went with her.

My mum dutifully named the bear on her behalf and lo and behold she won. However another child's parent with the same name as my mum took the bear and buggered off home with said bear Shock.

DD is really upset and my mum has ordered her another bear online as she feels so bad.

I don't know the mum well enough ask her about it and I certainly don't want to drag DD's teacher into it. I'm just pissed off because surely you would know that you hadn't chosen that name and had taken something off another small child (they are 6).

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HarperIsBazaar · 03/07/2019 16:15

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SoupDragon · 03/07/2019 16:17

I doubt the school had anything to do with it, it would have been the PTA.

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User9999999 · 03/07/2019 16:18

It wasn't the PTA, it was done directly by DD's class teacher and the kids as part of their class fundraiser.

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Oldraver · 03/07/2019 16:20

Of course you should say something, she stole the bear and she knows she stole the bear

dudsville · 03/07/2019 16:20

Do you assume the other parent did it on purpose? If not then I'd let it go and talk with my child about how life isn't fair and take her or for a treat.

MonkeyTrap · 03/07/2019 16:21

Could she not have been paying much attention and this just be an honest mistake?

CuriousaboutSamphire · 03/07/2019 16:21

Tell the teacher and the Head.

Or put out a facebook plea, explaining the 'mistake' and asking her, by name, to bring back the bear

Bring Back The Bear....

leghairdontcare · 03/07/2019 16:25

Why didn't your mum sort it at the time?

I think it would be quite easy to take the bear, maybe only hearing "the winner is Amelia" etc. Especially in the hustle and bustle of a school fete.

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 03/07/2019 16:25

I too would assume it was a genuine mistake. Chances are she didn't pay much attention to the name chosen or the teacher recognised her name and assumed it was her who had won?

By all means speak to the teacher but I doubt it was done deliberately.

Chamomileteaplease · 03/07/2019 16:27

Definitely talk to the teacher about it! Confused. I mean why wouldn't you? It was a class event that has gone horribly wrong.

It's nice of your mum to buy her another one but personally I feel it is important that we show our kids that we can stand up for them and help to sort things out when they go wrong. Ejspecially when they are 6!

Loveislandaddict · 03/07/2019 16:27

Sorry, did two people name the bear with the same name, or were there two Mrs Jones?

Sinn · 03/07/2019 16:28

Act dumb and say your DD got the name right and when can she collect the bear?

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 03/07/2019 16:34

or were there two Mrs Jones

I assumed that this is the case. Each chose a different name for the bear but when they winning name was chosen the other parent didn't register the winning name or the teacher gave it E.g. Sarah's mum as she knows she is Mrs Jones rather than making the connection that your daughters Gran was also called Mrs Jones.

MT2017 · 03/07/2019 16:37

I think they would have just said 'and the winner is Sarah Jones!'

And the other lady assumed it was her.

Nice of your mum to buy DD another one Bear

BumbleBeee69 · 03/07/2019 16:39

that's Shit OP, but what's worse is you'll do nothing about it.. WTF Confused

AnAC12UCOinanOCG · 03/07/2019 16:41

I would talk to the teacher and ask for the bear to be returned.

LoHe19 · 03/07/2019 17:04

Can you play ignorant and speak to the teacher and say you’re waiting to collect the bear and hope they put two and two together?

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User9999999 · 03/07/2019 17:05

I’m on my way home and will get the full sp from my mum then on exactly what and how it happened.
that's Shit OP, but what's worse is you'll do nothing about it.. WTF
I genuinely did not want to trouble the teacher with this and cause her issues as teachers have enough on their plate. I guess I’ve underestimated the situation

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User9999999 · 03/07/2019 17:08

I think it’s putting the teacher in an awkward position to ask the other mum to bring the bear back. Suppose she says to the teacher “prove I’m not the other Mrs Jones”

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Ambydex · 03/07/2019 17:14

Could well be an honest mistake... The trouble is, the only way forward other than just ordering a second bear would be taking the first one off the other six year old!

Pringlemunchers · 03/07/2019 17:20

In the whole scheme of things , forget it. I'm sure the lady who was given the bear didn't even know the name chosen. Probably had a million things in her head and said 'oh thanks' and she will put it with hundreds others at home. Honestly,shit happens sometimes.

MyOpinionIsValid · 03/07/2019 17:24

How do you know which Mrs Jones the bear was for?

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 03/07/2019 17:25

It sounds like a genuine mistake. My memory of school fetes is that they are total chaos and half the people aren't in the room when prize announcements are made. If the teacher knows one Mrs Jones and doesn't know your mother maybe she just spotted the other Mum later on and said "Mrs Jones here's the bear your DD won"

SunshineCake · 03/07/2019 17:26

It souls be mentioned t the teacher so that next time they can take the names as Mrs Jane Brown and Mrs Kath Brown.

Ambydex · 03/07/2019 17:29

It will go down in family folklore as the bear that got away.

If someone has nicked the bear then it's a bit rubbish but don't make a drama out of a crisis, or whatever the phrase is.

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