To consider a nose job/rhinoplasty? Photos

[Fawnsett]

So I have been bullied for my nose in school, and although externally I stayed calm, it was pretty hurtful. I know it's not the worst nose in the world, but I keep coming back to an idea of rhinoplasty. I'm 29, and after a considerable break (8 years!), I am going to start my masters this September (and I am very anxious about it).

I don't have spare money, and initially, I thought that I'd do that later on in my life.. But the closer to September the more anxious I am.

My friends say I am an idiot. My husband says go for it if you feel better that way (although I wish him to say the same things as my friends do)...

I know shorter nose will look better on me..also the hump. But do I need it? What do you think?

If that is you in the pictures, you look great as you are. However I imagine it is not you so I can't tell.

Much as I believe people should be happy in their own skin, if it would give you more confidence to have a nose job, go for it.

Do remember that the delightful Jennifer Grey, who played 'Baby' in the original 'Dirty Dancing', had a nose job after making that film. She ended up looking just like every other Hollywood starlet and didn't achieve the success for which she was destined.

I was ready to come on here and say life is too short to be unhappy about such things but was then baffled by your photos. You have a lovely nose op. However do what makes you happy.

Your nose is fine. Your self-esteem needs surgery.

I could’ve written this myself. Never really liked my nose, thought it was holding me back iyswim. My hubby has also said same as yours, and I’ve known him for 20 years, so I know he’s only agreeing in part, as he says, if it makes you unhappy, I’ll support you in changing it.
I’m a wuss though and the thought of surgery when it’s unnecessary puts me off. As does the thought of it going well and wanting to “correct” more of my body. So, I think I’m going to love the skin I’m in. Also, I realise, as my nose has a bump (minor) and I don’t like the tip, it’s something I scrutinise and isn’t noticeable to anyone else.
Don’t let bullies win. Love yourself for who you are not how you appear to others.

Ok you don’t have a tiny snub nose like Michael Jackson. But that would look daft on you. You are beautiful and I think maybe you feel a “perfect” tiny identikit nose would complete the picture, but it wouldn’t. As others have said, the nose you have works with your face and gives you your own kind of beauty, I really would not do it, especially considering there’s a major cost as well as a risk.

You have to own your own look - you look amazing.

here is a woman with a nose extraordinaire and a major hump. She’s Anna Akhmatova the poet who was renowned for her beauty, charisma, sexual magnetism and endless affairs!

I had the surgery in 2010.

Personally I think you look beautiful already BUT I understood friends and strangers said the same of me, but when I looked in a mirror all I could see was my nose and it's imperfections taking over my face. So I had the surgery (recovery was a breeze but it was expensive), and can honestly say it's made a world of difference for my self confidence.

So really it comes down to if you can afford it and if you think it would make you feel better, whether or not you need one being up for debate.

I am reading all your comments in an utter shock. Thank you so so much!!

I am by no means a model, I am biologist, well I want to be one, so chasing my dream, though I am a mature student now.. long story short, when I moved to the UK I could not afford tuition fees. Now my son is going to start the reception and I will have time to continue with my career/education. So it's not a professional thing.

I know about fillers but I always thought it only would make my nose bigger.

It is expensive, even though I considered the less traumatic procedure (I have found a couple of reliable clinics abroad) A couple of surgeons named a price of 3k euros for it.

But I read all your comments and feel so stupid. I wish I could debug my brain.

In terms of photographs, I do have a good camera as photography is my hobby and I wanted to have good photographs of my son. I swear these pictures are not professional at all, I just used them to show real proportions, as focal distance affects facial features a lot.

In terms of confidence I have decided to "fake it till you make it" in school, but still faking it, now just a bit more skillfully. I also don't feel threatened in a familiar environment, new social setting is a huge challenge though!

Thank you so so so much again!!!

Please don't 😀. Your nose is absolutely normal and in good proportion to you face.

If you feel bad spend some money on counseling instead, the bullies dented your security and self esteem, it's a better way to fix the real problem.

AND do you have any idea... Lots of people would love to look as young, fresh and pretty as you do.

Best of luck 😀.

OP, you already have quite a small, thin and elegant nose. I wouldn't think getting a nose job is very wise, because you risk ending up making yourself look older. Because you would need to get the tip reduced and thats the part that supports your face. You could end up with a large gap between the end of your nose and your top lip which might look silly or odd. I would hope that no respectable surgeon would take on your case because its not really going to be improved by surgery. The odds of you ending up looking worse are fairly high.

You have a beautiful nose op...dont change it you lucky thing!

OP, don’t touch your gorgeous nose. If I had a nose job that’s the sort of nose I would want, and there’s nothing wrong with mine. You look beautiful. Please don’t do anything that drastic to your face, you’re stunning.

If you'll pardon an old geezer of late sixties vintage so therefore had a lot of experence of looking at the female form i'd comment that;

You are bloody gorgeous!

Leave it all alone its very well formed and proportioned!

There, tis said:)

Oh come onnnnnn

I wish I could debug my brain

Yess well thats where the problem is, as the problem on your boat race just aint there:!

Not a bad photographer either! Best of luck in your chosen profession:)

I realise this is probably not a humble brag because some people do suffer from dysmorphia or simply just low self esteem. As people have said there’s nothing wrong with you and more than this really as saying that can still be interpreted negatively as not bad but not good for certain mindsets. For things like breast implants even when the assets are ample they can have a positive impact if it changes the mindset. I don’t know if this will be the case with your nose however unless this is the absolutely only thing you’re bothered about and are completely happy with everything else physically. And as previously said, surgery is not risk free and could possibly turn a perfectly pleasant feature into something less so.

Up to you though. I’ve rarely seen surgery improve people but maybe if the treatment is really good I just haven’t recognised it being surgery in the first place. Cosmetic type surgery is obviously vain and whilst I think people should embrace imperfections I understand why people get crooked noses straightened or flappy ears pinned back but in your case I don’t really know what you’re looking for

I don’t think op should be made to feel silly for worrying about it. She’s been bullied and it’s well known that people can obsess about body parts and start to see them in a distorted way. We see a beautiful woman, op has just been seeing a nose she associates with bullying and feeling horrible.

Op it’s just your feelings about it you need to change, but you shouldn’t feel bad for asking about it on here.

Your nose is actually one of your best features. It matches your face perfectly. You'd look odd if it was shorter. There is no bump.
The bullies were just jealous. People on masters courses are intelligent adults not silly children, they won't care about your nose.

Please don't get a nose job. I was expecting to come on here and see a giant hook nose and I would have said "life is short so go for it if it will make you feel better" but seriously there is nothing wrong with your nose.

Surgery can go wrong, especially the cheap overseas options your are referring to. And then you go from having a normal nose to having a horrible nose with scarring that is extremely expensive for someone to try and fix, and usually isn't fixable to a natural looking standard.

You have a pretty face and a normal nose so you have a lot to lose here. Please think about the risks involved and what the end result will really look like.

Also don’t really understand your husbands comments unless he’s sick of hearing you complain and thinks it will honestly help you mentally. Shouldn’t be validating your negative thoughts but don’t want to slag him off as perhaps has told you not to worry loads of times then though fuck it if it’s going to make you happier I’ll support you

Two words for you to Google................Jennifer Grey

This, completely. She's still a very attractive woman, but she needed that nose to stay just as it was.

I also think that noses like your's 'age' really well. They give a sort of architectural structure to the face when lesser noses just sort of splodge everywhere .

Don't flippin' touch it OP!

Personally I think you have a lovely nose. And while I'm not against surgery, I actually don't think this is something you should do without some counselling. Because of the bullying, all your anxiety about being in a new social situation is being funnelled towards your nose. You may make changes and find you still carry the baggage from your past. Or perhaps you will feel like you don't look like yourself which may bring up more issues.

I think your husband is trying to diplomatic. He doesn't want to tell you not to do something if it might make you happy. But remember he fell in love with you, I'm sure he doesn't think you have a horrible nose. Regardless, at the end of the day, it's you who needs to make this decision. Just make sure you make it for the right reasons.

Good luck with your studies.

You’re bloody gorgeous! Don’t mess with your face, please!!!!

From a site about celebrity cosmetic surgery:

Jennifer Grey’s before and after pictures show two different people. This is because the nose is a prominent feature in everyone’s face. It is at the centre of the face and any changes to it will be easily recognised. Her old charm that accompanied her original nose bump has gone missing ever since the day of the surgery.

Jennifer Grey shared about her rhinoplasty experience openly. She said “I went in the operating room a celebrity and came out anonymous. It was like being in a witness protection program or being invisible.” Clearly, she was not happy with the operation and it was rumoured that she underwent revision rhinoplasty as at the first rhinoplasty was not successful.

Though Jennifer Grey made a comeback in a different way through Dancing With the Stars, her acting career went down with the rhinoplasty surgery. Jennifer Grey’s cute nose was what the goofy smile was to David Letterman, or the mole to Eva Mendes. To remove her trademark nose feature is to remove her total identity.

In terms of bullying (and among other things), those were drawings of me as a witch with a large crooked nose and the Gruffalo's wart (because I have a light coloured mole in the centre of the tip )🤷‍♀️.
Perhaps that was just because I could not change it. Bullying happens because bullies just can do that..
I am not lying, just don't have a reason to do it..

Fawnsett, I had something very similar happen to me at (primary) school, except they drew my ski-slope nose in an exaggerated fashion. There were probably jibes at secondary school too, but I'd made new friends there and was less bothered.

I realised a long time ago that they were jealous of me.

Please don't let school bullies from years ago determine how you feel about yourself.