To want to scream when they all follow me?!

[Mummy1224]

I’m a SAHM of a 1yr old and 3yr old. Spend 50hrs a week with them; when DH comes home I often go into the kitchen to make dinner and put a little tv on in there, hoping for 10 minutes peace/time alone. Then they all burst in to start playing in there with me....also happens at the weekend when I go upstairs to get dressed.
When this happens I honestly could just scream with frustration! I want to be ALONE for ten minutes (and I’m making the dinner, not like I’m actually relaxing!). I don’t want people asking for snacks and driving toy cars into my feet and telling me about their work day, just for TEN MINUTES!
Please tell me I’m not a totally selfish unbalanced cow, and other MNers feel like screaming sometimes too?!
Maybe a lock on the kitchen door.....

YANBU. I sometimes ate my breakfast locked in the car because it was the only place they couldn't get at me. 😳

Teenagers can do this too. Normally when I'm in the bath so I can't get away.

'Can I show you this mum', 'listen to this about people you don't know mum'

Saying that, when they're not in I miss them.

Ah I love Five Minutes’ Peace!

We’ve had a lot of family around recently and they ALL do this and it drives me bonkers. Especially when I know that the adults just want to help/be social and the children just want to see me, and I just want to watch TV in peace while I’m cooking. “Can I help with anything?” Yes, GO AWAY!

Can’t you stick them in front of the tv for an hour during the day?

Oh God, my many years as a SAHM are all coming back to me. Mine are now all teenagers, and it's better than it was. I promise. Instead, it's actually quite boring because you do quite a lot of not being able to do much, but not being actively needed (except for the moment when you decide to go out or ring a friend or some such).

Go to the look for 15 minutes, it works for lots of men.

My kids are the same age as yours and so I definitely feel your pain. I bugger off to do a workout the minute dh gets in. He will feed the kids dinner and I get 30 minutes of peace to focus on me. Sometimes I use the time to do a facial or pedicure instead. I am quite an independent person and have always enjoyed my own company so being constantly surrounded does get to me sometimes. Yanbu x

I’ve started doing this to DH when he’s trying to get ready or do something. Think he is realising how bloody annoying it is

YANBU.

Sit down with your DH and tell him how you feel. Ask for 45 minutes completely alone. Give him time alone too or time to decompress from work when possible if he feels he needs that.

As for the children - this is what TV is for.
Seriously, it won't hurt them to be glued to the box for a bit every day and there are non-commercial programmes available.

Whenever I watch one of those home buying shows or some show where someone is redoing their house I laugh and make sarcastic comments when they talk dreamily about kitchens where everyone can congregate while they're cooking.

I was totally the same then in the really lovely moments would feel so guilty! When preschool comes it's a huge shock to the system, you get to run around and get things done while they're out, then collect them and slip into happy mammy mode!!!

As soon as you conceive you will never be alone again

Mine range in age from 8 to 14 and still, the moment my butt touches the toilet seat even just for a wee, I can almost guarantee a voice will say 'Muuummm!' and it's usually the oldest.

If I got for a poo, one will find a topic that simply must be discussed there and then and come and sit on the towel chest to discuss it will me.

I go out into the garden to peg some washing out for 5 tranquil minutes and someone will 'Mum' me or 2 will fall out the door screaming, mid scrap and need breaking up.

At least they are all too big to join me in the bath now but unless I wait until they are all in bed, one will sit there talking at me about something or other.

When my oldest 2 were little I used to go to the shops as soon as dh got in. In actual fact I used to drive to country car park, listen to the Archers and eat biscuits. Sometimes I would have a little snooze.
I still consider alone time as golden time.

I feel your pain. Pre DC DH used to follow me round the house to talk at me while I pottered. Then the dog would follow him. Drove me crackers.

I finally lost it the day they both followed me upstairs with a basket of washing, then followed me down again. Words were had.

This

I used to shut myself in the kitchen and mop the floor. Quietly. On my own.

Now I shut myself in the bathroom with a deep bath, wine and the iPad- DS still wanders in to talk to me about lego sometime though......

@Ambydex I’ll get you to give DH a call!

He is very good at giving me time alone if I say I’m particularly in need of some, maybe I’m getting to the point where I need a half day of peace again to recharge....the mini meltdowns come around occasionally otherwise!

@Allfednonedead i LOVE that book, read it as a child and now read it to my own, I am definitely going to start shouting “I want five minutes peace from you lot!”, I think they would totally get it and I agree, it’s a much nicer alternative to “why are you fucking HERE?!”

@Disfordarkchocolate 😂😂

I do use the TV and it works well, although the 1yr old is in the habit of climbing all over (and falling off) the sofa so I keep sticking my head in every couple of minutes....

It’s so nice to hear I’m
A) Not alone
B) Not a heartless cow for wanting them all to bugger off sometimes

Mine are all adults and still do the same thing........ I was trying to cook the other day with a kitchen full of people and nearly lost the plot!!

I adore them all don't get me wrong, but thank god we've got 2 dogs as I can take them out to get away from the noise at times and just have some headspace.

As a Mil, I've been in my DDIL's house when she had their first baby, my DS would get through the door after work and she'd hand the baby over and say I'm off out for a run. Never mattered if she didn't run, they always made time alone for each person a priority. And I was in awe of her for openly stating her needs. Op you matter, you're important too.

I've been beaten to it but yes - 5 minutes peace is the go to book to read to your little ones. Mine totally got where I was coming from after we read this a couple lots of times.

They are all grown up now but they all remember that book!

Mummeeee mummeeee mummmeee” is all I’ve heard all day! DS1 went for a nap this afternoon and I bribed DS4 with a chuppa chup and Toy Story to keep quiet...I’m such an awful parent! I felt terrible as it’s such a nice day outside and I’m there bribing him to sit still and be quiet!

Take up running

At this stage, the gym is a life saver.

I remember a time when a traffic jam on the way home from work was absolute heaven.

The only time I had alone was in the car on the way to work and the way home. The longer it took me to get home the better I liked it.

@Littlecaf it’s called survival!

@SpitefulBreasts thank you, I (probably lots of others too) forget this sometimes, thank you for reminding me!

Whatever you do don't get a dog OP, because he'll follow you around as well.