People not saying thank you

[gollygoodnessgraciousme]

Does anyone else get irrationally angry when people don't say thank you? I.e. when you let someone out in to the traffic while driving and they don't acknowledge it or when you hold a door for someone and they just walk through ignoring you.

Both these things happened to me today and I massively wanted to scream at them "YOU'RE WELCOME!!" but actually I don't say anything and just quietly seeth about it for the next few minutes.

AIBU to let this reallllllly wind me up?!

YANBU.

And I do quite often say You're Welcome very pointedly to them.

But then I'm quite passive aggressive...

^YANBU.

And I do quite often say You're Welcome very pointedly to them.

But then I'm quite passive aggressive..^

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Manners don’t cost a thing!

You're letting them wind you up, while they're carrying on with their day, oblivious. Yes it's rude, but unless you say something at the time, it's you ruining your day.

YANBU. I live in an old historic town with narrow streets so walking with a pushchair can be quite interesting at times! I’m always polite and will let others past where possible but almost nobody says thank you. It’s so fucking rude, I hate it.

Or when someone bumps into you and you automatically apologise and they don't even though it was their fault I always want to shout after them it was your fault you bollox.

It annoys me too!

Yesterday I was about to try go through a door at work and there were a group on the other side, so I held it open and let them go first and not a single one thanked or acknowledged me. Not saying I need adoration for every action I take but it’s rude to not acknowledge.

Haha yes to the saying sorry for bumping in to someone when it was their fault! So bloody British!!

Hmm Yeah, I don't let it ruin my day but it does give me a few moments rage and if it happens a few times over the course of the day I guess it could affect my overall mood.

I'm with you. We had this thing at my last workplace where everyone is holding a door for a person walking behind, so it doesn't swing in their face. Regardless of gender. Most people would say thank you, you turn to them and smile. But those who didn't - I'd always NOT hold a next set of doors for them.

It’s a bit annoying and I do notice it but it doesn’t make me irrationally angry.

I say something unless it's an elderly person because I never argue with the elderly.

Just a "you're welcome" usually makes people embarrassed. DH says I'm a dick for doing it, but I don't care. If you don't have basic manners you have no business using doors.

Haha yes to the saying sorry for bumping in to someone when it was their fault! So bloody British!!

I read something somewhere about a woman who decided that she was going to stop moving out of men's path when she was walking down the street, and the amount of men who gave her shit for it was astonishing because they simply expect people (women) to alter their own path for them. I don't think it's a British thing so much as a woman thing. I'm sure it was called Manslamming (I know that's not the topic here, but it was very interesting).

Bad manners annoy me and I drum good manners into my children. We gave a friend's 9 year old daughter a lift home for nearly a year and she never once said "thank you" or "good bye". She wasn't a shy child, rather the opposite and she would talk constantly for the whole journey, then just get out. It annoyed me every week.

Another thread about this??

Another thread about this??

It looks like it, and I have read it all, but you don't have to look if you don't want to

FudgeBrownie2019
That thread had Patriarchy Chicken in the title, it was all about deliberately not moving out of men's way.
Yes, some people are extremely rude, I always say thank you quite loudly if someone hasn't thanked me.

I say "You're welcome" after them. They either ignore me or say a belated thank you. I might be punched for it one day but better than seething and wishing I had said something every time!

I normally do the “You’re welcome” with a sweet smile on my face too - it has embarrassed a couple of people.

The worst incident of not saying thank you was in my local Tesco a few weeks before Christmas last year. I nipped in to buy a new kettle and was carrying it out in my hands. The store had started putting up a display of selection boxes next to the entrance/exit and people (with their trollies) were stopping and blocking the entrance. I must have let about 8 people in and only one said thank you, everybody else either looked at me and then quickly looked away or blanked me completely, in the end I had to ask if someone could let me and others behind me out. A “lady” stopped I walked through and said thank you, she then started shouting at me that I should have let her into the store and that I was rude!

Everyone just needs to give and take a bit more and show more consideration and then hopefully the world will be s nicer place.

On the theme of not moving out of people's way, I don't move if someone is staring at their phone and on a collision course with me. Also probably going to get punched one day by some twat who drops their iPhone.

@gollygoodnessgraciousme YABU to seethe for a few minutes. Try a few days like I do.

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I shouted boo at someone once who was doing that - he did apologise.

DS is currently on crutches and the amount of adults who just walk at him expecting him to dart out of their way is unbelievable

YANBU, there's not a morning that goes by that doesn't see me sarcastically mouthing "you're welcome" at drivers that go past me without a finger raise when I've let them through.

My son thinks I'm a loon.

@ambereeree I do a lot of driving for work so best to let it go after a few mins so I have a few mins not angry before it happens again 😂

It makes me mildly irritated, I don't get the thing on here where the slightest thing results in people being angry, fuming, furious, enraged for the smallest of reasons. It's really OTT and must be exhausting.

Having said that, people without manners, which includes those who don't say please or thank you are ignorant.

I get irrationally angry at people who get the arse about me not saying Thank You. Typically b/c I'm trying to manage 2 preschoolers & not run over your toes with my buggy, or something else equally has my attention.

I beg you never do anything nice for me again. Your heart lies in being a jerk if you could only possibly get away with it so please get on with it. Don't do the fake nice thing. It doesn't suit you. We'll both be happier if you could just be your true self. You enjoy being a resentful git so do it properly.