People not saying thank you

[gollygoodnessgraciousme]

Does anyone else get irrationally angry when people don't say thank you? I.e. when you let someone out in to the traffic while driving and they don't acknowledge it or when you hold a door for someone and they just walk through ignoring you.

Both these things happened to me today and I massively wanted to scream at them "YOU'RE WELCOME!!" but actually I don't say anything and just quietly seeth about it for the next few minutes.

AIBU to let this reallllllly wind me up?!

I get treated like poo at Waitrose for some reason, and whenever I'm paying for my shopping (after the cashier either points at the till or tells me the total sum without saying "please") and they don't thank me I give them a really warm "you're welcome! ". That's when they usually snap out of it and say thanks. I'll admit I'm passive aggressive but I hate unnecessary rudeness.

@lljkk I often have my 4 dc 5 years and under and still manage a thank you. Nothing fake about it. It's nice to be nice and if someone has done something (no matter how small) that is kind you should say thank you. How defensive!

It’s rude, but sometimes people are, and you dont know who they are or what sort of day they’re having. I’d notice it but not seethe. Having said that, I do get a bit angry when people are pushy and aggressive (in traffic or otherwise) and I don’t know what sort of day they’re having either.

It all starts at home when they're children! I'm a Primary School TA in yr6 & the number of 10/11 yr olds who don't say please & thank you staggers me on a daily basis! I'm SO annoyed by the sheer rudeness that I make a point of it every single time - I take things back out of their hands & look at them until the penny drops!! The amount of times I have to give several prompts before they realise what I'm waiting for!! Shocking.

YANBU...however I am generally a polite person and have always taken pride in saying thank you and letting others go and then one day I realised I had been so consumed with thinking about other things that someone had opened a door for me and I had just strolled through without a word. I genuinely hadn't realised what was happening as I was just thinking of a massive to so list and somehow didn't even think how was the door open.

It was only a couple of minutes later I realised and felt mortified at what I had done. After that day I've realised people aren't always being intentionally dismissive or rude sometimes it's just busy minds.

Another thing to mention is before my epitome my husband always said to me the reward in being polite isn't in someone thanking you it's in knowing you was raised correctly and are proud enough to behave correctly. I think there is some comfort in that too.

Life's too short to be annoyed by how others behave

Some of it might be cultural too - some cultures don’t use please and thank you all the time like we do.

You are being passive aggressive and you know it.

Only do nice things because you want to be nice. Don't pull this "Oh wow what a great chance to cop a resentment!" gleeful self-righteous act afterwards. You never wanted to do something nice at all, did you?

Snowflakes who fall apart b/c somebody didn't thank you, oh dear. Poor things.

I don't get angry with it, but I do feel a bit 'disappointed' when people don't observe the normal courtesies and acknowledgements - and am definitely noticing that it is getting rarer.

(God, I sound old LOL.)

Not being passive aggressive in the slightest. It would be passive aggressive to say "you're welcome" when not thanked but I don't do that, even though I want to. And I'm no snowflake, just think manners cost nothing and make daily life a bit more pleasant.

Everyone just needs to give and take a bit more and show more consideration and then hopefully the world will be a nicer place.

This, with bells on.

I do the "You're welcome" thing as well. Some do say thank you belatedly and a small minority pretend they haven't heard me.

Manners cost nothing but mean everything.

I don't move out of the way for phone starers or cyclists on a pavement though. Still haven't been punched for that yet.

This drives me mad! The thing is I generally let people go when waiting to get into a space in traffic, but because of the lack of Thankyou I get now, it's putting me off doing it. Same with holding doors open for people.

I loved that us Brits are/ were so polite.

I do the passive aggressive "You're welcome" too.

However I get ludicrously irritated by people holding open one side of a seat of double doors and creating a contraflow when they could just walk through towards me and I can walk on the other side. Those people don't get thanked, they get a raised eyebrow and wry smile as I walk through the other door.

I drill it into the DC, there is a really rude lady in our local shops, I always do my best not to thank her but I can't help it, she'll never say thank you, she throws your change in your direction.

I work a call centre I got use people not saying thank you. I often say please and thank you during the call, I always end saying thanks for your call, some rude people say right go on then, or the mc rude callers often say yes okay hmm goodbye.
I usually eye roll, but I do appreciate all the kind callers.
Manners are free.

lljkk you can dial down the sarcasm, it’s not being a ‘snowflake’ to hope for basic manners. No need for such a sneering post.

I change between ‘your welcome’ ‘my pleasure’ and ‘not a problem’ I hate bad things manners