AIBU to refuse to take a pregnancy test?

[Thecatsslippers]

I am 4 days late.

Been trying TTC for almost a year now. All the excitement has drained out of me and I've lost count of the amount of times I was a couple of days late, POAS, and then had AF turn up.

Right now I am schrodinger's cat, both pregnant and not pregnant and I don't want to remove that tiny piece of hope.

I have whacky cycles. Between 21 days and 54 at their longest. OP go to.amazon and get a bulk pack of the cheapie ovulation tests. Take one every morning and tape them one after the other to a piece of paper. Then you'll have a better idea of when you ovulate and if you're late or not.

I'm sorry AF came.

I feel your pain as I've been there myself. That limbo am I/aren't I is so exhausting.
I was also irregular so, like you, wasted a fortune on tests.
I started keeping a temperature chart so that I knew when I had actually ovulated. That way I reduced the am I/aren't I to two weeks a cycle (and I use cycle rather than month deliberately) it was a sanity saver.
Invest in a reasonable thermometer and take your temperature immediately you awake before you get up for the loo or have your morning cuppa for best accurracy.

I can completely understand. I held off for 7 days when my period was late. I was convinced it would be like all the other times and the test would be negative. I’d even poured myself a glass of wine in preparation for the inevitable. I got the shakes when I poas and two extremely dark positive lines turned up! I hope it’s the same for you OP!

Aww OP, I’m so sorry, you poor love. Just be really kind to yourself.

@Miskate and @Thecatsslippers I also didn't have the symptoms of PCOS other than irregular periods and after 1 and a half year I saw a fertility doctor who confirmed I had it :( 5 months of Clomid and we had our DS2, I wish I went to the doctor sooner

@Thecatsslippers it only cost about £500 for the tests and another £350 for the treatment. That was a lot of money for us but I genuinely don't think I'd have fallen pregnant without Clomid, so worth every penny. NHS would not help until we'd been trying for over two years, as I was only 28 at the time. @Lorddenning1, had you previously been on the pill for a long time? I'm seeing research that shows PCOS can be caused by that, particularly if you have no other PCOS symptoms.

@Miskate I am not sure if it's linked, I haven't looked into it, I thought u was born with it and it was inherited. I have been on the pill since I was 14 and I'm 31 now.
My doctors will refer you after 1 year of trying or 6 months if ur over 35.