AIBU to refuse to take a pregnancy test?

[Thecatsslippers]

I am 4 days late.

Been trying TTC for almost a year now. All the excitement has drained out of me and I've lost count of the amount of times I was a couple of days late, POAS, and then had AF turn up.

Right now I am schrodinger's cat, both pregnant and not pregnant and I don't want to remove that tiny piece of hope.

Go buy a test so you have one ready, then take it on the 7th day.

Always took being at least a week late for me to get a positive.

Fingers and toes crossed for you

I'd do the same as you OP, hold off for as long as you can, at least wait for a week after you are due. Keeping my fingers crossed for you though :)

I do feel sick when I think about the amount of money I've wasted on tests. Always frers as well, so not cheap.

I know a year isn't long, but it feels like a lifetime. Everyone bar 2 women I personally know fell pregnant very quickly, so I suppose I expected it to happen by now. I mostly feel flat and sad about it, but this little ray of hope is keeping me going.

Thank you so much for your kind comments and understanding

Well, its a personal decision, but FWIW, I believe knowledge is power when it comes to TTC.

If you do detect what turns out to be a chemical pregnancy, whilst very upsetting (I know, I've been there), this does give you lots of useful information about your body that will prove invaluable if you do seek help with TTC.

You will already know that you have at least one functional tube, you're ovulating, your DH sperm are swimming etc. It will save you the pain and expense of a lot of tests if you already have that info.

Still a rubbish situation though - I hope you get the result you hoped for.

I know it sounds silly but I refused to test until I knew it would be positive when I had my two. I didn't want to deal with the disappointment. Once I was around a week late and showing symptoms I tested first time, second time I was trying to wait until I was more late but I was sick as anything so took the test.

I was in exactly the same position as you. Also my cycle went very skewed which didn’t help.

Not testing saved my sanity. When I eventually got my BFP I was more than 2 weeks late and symptoms were getting very obvious.

Best of luck

Yes I found the negative pregnancy test so very gutting, that I did everything to avoid.

OP better to spend money on FRER than vodka. Or crack.

There's far worse things to spend money on.

Good luck.

After an early miscarriage, the second time I waited too.

Oh I feel for you. If you can wait for a week then I'd do so. It took me many years to get my +ve test and when it came to test day (IVF) I didn't want to do it because I was so scared of getting another -ve result.

Can you hang on just that little bit longer?

I think Shrodinger's pregnancy is the best description of that terrible time. You don't dare get your hopes up in case you tempt fate. You dread testing. Yet there's this kernel of hope - because that's what keeps you going.

Slightly dramatic, but after 2 years and 3 miscarriages that's exactly it.

Sending you love. Do what you need to.

Poundland pink dye tests are good. Best of luck OP, I feel for you

I thought this was going to be a new conspiracy theory.

Best of luck OP x

I went through a similar situation trying for DC2. Had endometriosis and been trying for 15 months.
Took me three weeks before I plucked up the courage to test.

AF just came

Ah well. Here we go again.

You have far more restraint than I used to have when ttcing (I was ‘relaxed’ for the first 6 months of the 2.5 yrs but anyone who tells you to stop overthinking or stressing has never had to ttc long term!!) and I love the Schroedingers cat analogy!!
Leave it a couple of days then consider it.

Shit I didn’t read your last update. I’m sorry xx

So sorry. Try to do something nice tonight

I totally sympathise with you. We've been ttc for nearly 3 years and about 4 months ago my period was 2 weeks later than normal! I was so reluctant to do a test and the day I finally caved and did one, my period showed up about an hour later :( do whatever feels right for you. And I really like your schrodingers cat take on it :) good luck op

You didn’t waste a PT, that’s a bonus. Do something nice, have a few drinks.

At this point I used think of what I could do to mix it up for next cycle. Would that help.

OP I could have written your post five years ago. We TTC for a year, every month my period would be late, I would hold off a week, then ten days before testing, and but bam, negative every time. I went for private fertility tests and discovered I had PCOS (explained the periods being very irregular, although I have none of the other PCOS symptoms). A lot of people told me I was crazy to go to fertility doctors after only one year of trying (I needed to just relax! FFS.) but I'm glad I did, because after a course of the drug Clomid I fell pregnant straightaway. I hope you have a wine or whatever you enjoy tonight xx

Miskate

That's very interesting. My periods are also irregular but I don't have any other symptoms, so I didn't think it was possible.

To be honest I think I will need to go for tests too. I'm sick of being told to relax.

If your periods are irregular you may not be catching the fertile spot. It’s roughly 2 weeks before AF comes and not in the middle if your cycle is longer than 2 weeks. Ovulation test sticks can help. Took me 2 years to get preggers - drive me batshit! Happened in the end thanks to ovulation test sticks (read the instructions!)

I'm sorry to hear she arrived Wishing you lots of fertility luck in your future x

I'm in the same position, OP. Recently had a MMC and have all.my pregnancy symptoms back. I'm really scared at the prospect of having another miscarriage.