Yesterday me, dp and 2 ds’s went to the pub for the afternoon with 2 other couples.
Dp went in rounds for drinks with the 2 other men. When it was his round he would go to the bar and buy 3 pints. Both other men would ask if anyone else wanted a drink when it was their round. For five hours dp only bought his own drinks and I had to go to the bar for my own and the kids drinks. I don’t mind buying my own drinks but it was the lack of even asking that I just felt was really disrespectful to me. One of the couples have recently split up and her ex still had the manners to offer her a drink each time he got up.
At 12 I bought the kids a sandwich each for lunch and as we were still out at 5 I said he should order them some dinner, he had drank quite a lot by this point which is not something he normally does and he said quite loudly that they didn’t need to eat again as we only have one meal on a Sunday, this is true when at home as we would have a large Sunday roast around 2:30 then just a snack later if we felt hungry but as they had only had sandwiches for lunch they definitely needed a dinner.
I had had enough by this point so took the kids home for dinner leaving dp in the pub. I heard him come home at 9pm and throw up in the kitchen sink. He didn’t come to bed and slept on the sofa.
This morning I expected him to apologise, I honestly thought he had acted like he was a single man out with his mates rather than with his partner and kids but instead we have spent the whole day in silence.
AIBU in thinking he was rude to me or did I overreact by coming home with the kids and leaving him at the pub?