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To think it’s selfish to sit on someone’s shoulders at a gig?

77 replies

Diamondeye · 01/07/2019 18:54

Watching Glastonbury highlights (very jealous) and tbh I’d be pretty annoyed to have my view blocked by someone sat on the persons shoulders in front of me.

Kind of like an I’m alright jack situation.

Or maybe I’d just be thankful a bottle of piss hadn’t hit me yet.

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RavenLG · 01/07/2019 21:16

I’m 5 foot so this wouldn’t even be on my radar as 99% of people block my view. I find it more selfish when tall (usually men) people weave their way in front of me, then turn, look down at me an turn around. Like I’m a piece of shit. Even worse when they’re trying to get their mrs a good view.

DinosaursWouldEatYou · 01/07/2019 21:17

I feel sorry for the other persons shoulders....

NewPapaGuinea · 01/07/2019 21:39

Think of the poor person having their time ruined having another grown adult hanging off their shoulders. Get off and dance!

Piglet89 · 01/07/2019 21:49

I struggle to imagine anything worse than attending the Glastonbury festival.

RomaineCalm · 01/07/2019 21:52

Every year I look at Glastonbury and think how much I'd love to go, be part of it all and see some of these bands.

Then I remember all of the reasons why I'd hate it - the shoulder lifters, the flags, the people with blankets and chairs, the noise, the toilets, the rubbish, the 'look at me' crowd, the phones, the campsite, the crowds...

BBC coverage again next year for me.

Jocasta2018 · 01/07/2019 22:03

It's as annoying as not being able to see the stage due to a sea of phones/tablets (with bright screens shining in the darkness!) as people film the gig.

ballsdeep · 01/07/2019 22:05

I was thinking that today watching Glastonbury. There were girls in bikini tops on shoulders waving their hands about and the poor man underneath the one in the orange looked like he was going to pass out. He was the colour of her top!!

stucknoue · 01/07/2019 22:07

I know what you are saying but outside it doesn't make as much difference, I'm just jealous I've never been light enough to sit on someone's shoulders unless they were an Olympic weightlifter!

Rocketpants50 · 01/07/2019 22:12

Yep noticed that to though I was fascinated by the strength of them to hold up another human (not always so tiny) who was dancing around, for such a long time. I cant even carry my light 6 yr old on my shoulders, am I just weak? Surely it can't be comfortable and prevents the carrier from seeing, why would you do it?

aliceinwonderlandbrum · 01/07/2019 22:18

I'm 4ft 11, I've never been to a festival, am I short enough to qualify for a shoulder-non-wanker or would I be too tall and end up verging on a shoulder-wanker anyway Blush

annikin · 01/07/2019 22:24

At 5ft, I literally can't see any of the stage itself, only the TV screen, at any concert I've ever been to. If I didn't sit on someone's shoulders (only ever for one or two songs in the entire concert), I might as well have watched it on TV. I guess I view this like so many things - in moderation, not a problem. As for those saying it's selfish, I'm afraid to me, it's more selfish for those (tall) people who can see the entire concert, to begrudge short people to be able to see for one or two songs. Sorry, not sorry!

Justathinslice · 01/07/2019 22:28

Seriously? They’re just having fun. You sound like a boring old fart to me

That is literally the point if this thread. People who only care about their own fun, with no consideration for others.

I'm short too, and I also agree with the poster who mentioned tall men, who see you as an easy mark, and work their way in front of you, and just stand there.
They seem to want to completely take over your space.
I tend to be a most accommodating neighbour Wink

Toitoitoi · 01/07/2019 22:29

I always feel a bit sorry for the bloke Grin
They obviously really fancy the girl and the girl has no interest in them apart from as a vehicle to watch their idols!

HopelessLayout · 01/07/2019 22:32

Wankers every time.
I always wanted the artist/performer to tell them to get down and stop being so selfish. That never happened of course.

Slat3 · 01/07/2019 22:39

I’m just jealous ill never be slim enough to sit on anyone’s shoulders Grin
Envy

Far2go46 · 01/07/2019 22:44

Could stand some somewhere else? Or do it properly and take enough drugs so you don't know where the stage is?

Far2go46 · 01/07/2019 22:46

Hopeless, tell them yourself, you're not not a passive observer, you're part of the show

GabsAlot · 01/07/2019 23:58

I never undertand why festivals allow flags on poles where in a normal gig it wouldnt be allowed

SundaeMorning · 02/07/2019 00:02

Yes, annoying, selfish show-offs!

alltoomuchrightnow · 02/07/2019 00:03

Selfish, look at me, and gross, who wants a sweaty clunge stuck to their neck?! It's Glasto, people won't be fragrant!

Artykitty666 · 02/07/2019 00:05

I did aged 18. Probably wouldn't now but at a 5ft 2 7 stone something teen it seemed like the only way to see the concert. They kept losing me if someone didn't have me on their shoulders!

Artykitty666 · 02/07/2019 00:07

I'm going to a classical gig in a few weeks and definitely won't be getting up on my dps shoulders, even if I can't see!

GarethSouthgatesWaistcoat · 02/07/2019 00:22

Chair wankers/picnic blanket wankers (they get so pissy as the space around them begins to fill up Grin) and phone/tablet wankers are my nemesis.

Do people still use selfie sticks to film? That was a low point. When the crowd is tight you can't really move away from them and it ruins the view for rows and rows behind. The screens are very distracting at dark gigs.

Agree with poster who said no-one is ever going to watch the videos including them!

I can mostly cope with flags and up-on-shoulders wankers as I like to go pretty far forward and can mostly avoid them/ reposition.

I'm 5'6" but inevitably a tall bloke usually pushes through and stands in front of me seconds before the band starts Sad
I kind of feel bad for them because where are they supposed to stand but it's soul crushing all the same when you've arrived early and been guarding a good spot! When the band starts up I try to dance into a spot beside/in front Wink

Does anyone remember when girls on shoulders used to flash their boobs to the cameras on the big screens? Grin
Maybe it was a Reading/Leeds/Download thing!
I'm wondering when it changed as it doesn't happen anymore!

PissOffPeppa · 02/07/2019 00:24

I went to a festival a few years back with my very pretty friend. Some strange man next to us offered to put my friend on his shoulders. She agreed and readily hopped onto this stranger’s shoulders, leaving me standing around awkwardly like a twat with her bum in my face for half the set.