AIBU to believe...

[Charlieandthechocolatecake]

That those that vote YABU or YANBU on an extremely obvious YANBU/YABU post should be banned from Mumsnet...sometimes!?

I love this site and the difference of opinions. It's extremely refreshing. Just the other day I voted YABU on a post only to find out later on that I was BU. And said so myself on the thread!

That said, there are some posts where the OP is beyond reasonable/unreasonable. I don't want to link any posts but for example, OP asks 'AIBU to ask if I should leave DP because he beats me if I don't do the washing up by the time he gets home?' and there is a percentage of voters who say they are being unreasonable. Or 'AIBU to report my neighbour to social services because they don't give their DC's 15 portions of fruit and veg every day?' and there is a percentage of voters who say the are not being unreasonable?

Apologies for any typos...I work nights...been awake since 7pm last night...I don't think I'm being unreasonable though!

In my opinion it's an eye-opener to some people that use Mumsnet. Were not all genuine. FYI my house is worth £50million and my kids go to a private school in Switzerland where I do drop offs and pick ups every day...from Kent where I work full time on NMW.

Some context for you...

Some people are just wind-up artists. And others click the wrong button, I have seen quite a few posts apologising for having done so. And still others are hard of thinking!

You're suggesting a poster who cannot see that they're in an abusive relationship should be banned.

Give your head a shake.

I'm being unreasonable...ouch!

You are WAY overthinking this one.

@nobaggypants I'm not suggesting the poster should be banned at all! Just those that say she should stay in an abusive relationship!

Did I word my post wrong?

Given the resounding response that you are being unreasonable, then either you are being unreasonable, or you've worded your post wrong. Or both.

Are you saying that some people are deliberately pressing YABU when everyone is pressing YANBU?

@nosauce YES! For example, if OP asks if they should leave their DP because DP slaps them every time they drop a crumb on the floor, guaranteed some will vote YABU. OP will see that and think 'I might be unreasonable'

Thing is OP not everyone thinks the same, mnhq can’t be banning people because they voted wrongly.

Ok...maybe not banned...but isn't the new voting thing a good way of keeping an eye on those that consistently vote the other way?

I have legitimately just pressed the YABU button by mistake

I don't really get the voting thing. It's been puzzling me. When did it start? I went away for a while and when I got back there it was. Surely comments are more helpful?

That's life though isn't it, some people have absolutely insane ideas, the world would be much nicer if they didn't, but there they are.

Perhaps MNHQ will take that into account now if they have reason to suspect a poster is dodgy. If they don't have any reason to suspect that, I think it'd be a bit much to police anyone's opinions (even weird, counter-intuitive ones) on a public forum.

but isn't the new voting thing a good way of keeping an eye on those that consistently vote the other way?

You do sound rather like the Stasi. So what if people are contrary fuckers? Takes all sorts.

I am struggling to understand what you are talking about.

I think the horrible examples you have used of a woman being abused are not very good examples.

Are there really people encouraging other to stay in abusive relationships?

I've not seen one of them threads where anybody has advocated this.

Thing is OP not everyone thinks the same, mnhq can’t be banning people because they voted wrongly

Exactly. What's blatantly obvious to you may not be to me .....

AIBU to only allow my DC sweets one day a week?

YABU 35%
YANBU 65%
300 votes (most likely genuine replies with a small margin of error on both parts for hitting the wrong button)

AIBU to report my neighbour for leaving her 3 year old in the back garden, half dressed, til 10pm at night in the middle of winter?

YABU 10%
YANBU 90%
600 people voted (nobody in their right mind could think it U, so 10% of voters either hit the wrong button or are being petulant for shits n giggles)

AIBU to really love chocolate?

YABU 3%
YANBU 97%
30 people voted (slight error margin and maybe some petulance, maybe a few people don't like chocolate freakin weirdos )

What I'm trying to say is that it's all very well having the voting option, but the person posing the question then has to use critical thinking to understand the outcome.

There will always be people voting opposite to general consensus and it will be down to 1) genuine belief 2) pressed wrong button 3) people with an axe to grind 4) childish attempt at messing the vote up.

I don't know how MNHQ could possibly sort the wheat from the chaff in the instance of 3 and 4.

Honestly, so many of the voting posts are unclear about which button indicates which response that I think it's not surprising people are clicking the wrong one half the time.

I've seen a few posts where the Op has rambled too and fro so much that by the time they are at the point of asking AIBU? I've no idea what they're actually asking me to vote on!

I'm not getting voting buttons on the mobile App so it's not representative

I'm getting it on the mobile app.

I suppose it is never going to be truly representative because not everyone clicks on every thread and users can pick and choose which topics they see on Active Convos.

So it's only ever going to be as good as the audience that clicks.

I get all of your points...I would never want Mumsnet to be Stalin-esque...I'm just concerned about those that are in extreme situations that take into consideration the minority view...