To want to win the lottery?

[PoppingOneOutIn2020]

Light hearted threads but I've just played about 6 lines on the set for life lottery.

Were expecting our first baby and I just keep imagining how comfortable we would be of we had 10k a month every day for 30 years! Even the 10k a month for 1 year would be a dream. We're not well off in the slightest, were barely comfortable, DP more comfortable than I am and I always wonder what it's like to have disposable income and to not have to worry about money.

We cant all get what we want, but for £9 I may aswell try! 😁😯

What would you do with 10k a month for 30 years?!

Oh god that’s awful. That’s really terrible, I feel so sad for you. I don’t really know what to say, given that you’re already pregnant and presumably feel/want to be stuck with him for the foreseeable. I just know I couldn’t sleep next to and raise a child with a guy who can say to his pregnant partner ‘you’d just be taking my money’.

I’d go so far as to say that if it does pan out the way he wants and while on mat leave you haven’t two pennies to run together while he’s doing fine that’s a form of financial abuse. And he can’t claim it’s unknowing.

I’d rather go it alone than stay with someone like this whose true colours I’ve finally seen :( but I’m not you. You have some serious thinking to do.

Makes me feel a bit sick and really sad to think of anyone in the position you’re in. What kind of options do you see as open to you now you’ve had this discussion?

I was really hoping he just hadn’t thought about money much but clearly he’s harboured very strong views about how what’s his is his irrespective of you, his child’s mothers, struggles. I just can’t believe he would say that to you re maternity leave.

Not sure if you’re close with or have a decent family, but I’d urge you to talk about this with them instead of hiding it. I don’t like the sound of the position you’re in.

@ChilliAndRiceIsVeryNice

I'm very taken aback. Hes always reassured me that he would help in any way. But when it comes down to it and him actually being asked hes gone the complete other way, still offering to help but it means I have to ask, and have mo financial independence of my own.

There no I in team.

I really do hope one of my lines win on.thw lottery now. So when he expected the millions to be 'ours' he has another thing coming!

I'll make sure my mum, brother and his wife and my niece are ok, give my sister some. Then tell him if he wants something all.he has to do is ask

It would kill or seriously damage my love and respect and says so much about someone’s character I think I’d find it almost impossible to come back from, even if he begrudgingly did a u-turn.

What are your options?

I really dont know. It hurt that he looked hurt that I'd even asked, he made me feel abit like a gold digger! I mentioned I've read quite a few other people do this and it's the normal thing to do when in a serious and committed relationship. It hurt more that he didnt even hesitate to decline, he wouldnt even consider.

I dont know what my options are. Yes, I've struggled financially, but he has always helped me out, regardless of paying him back he has helped.

He has said that when on maternity he knows that I'm going to need money and in this period he wont expect anything back.

He is genuinely so lovely in every other aspect of our relationship, I know he really loves and cares for me.

I dont think leaving is an option, yes it hurts, but at the end of the day it's his money, I understand why, from his point of view he wouldnt want to share his income. To leave and raise our baby on my own, and split a brewing family over money is probably something I would regret later on.

However, our conversation isn't finished. I have too many hormones to settle it tonight. But I am going to make him aware of how upsetting his reaction was to me.

I'm going to lay down some laws when I'm not an emotional wreck.

1. I earn half of what he does.. therefore my share of the mortgage and bills should be less, to begin with.

2. if and when I run out of money, I dont want him to send me the odd £5 to pop to the shop to get veg for tea, then the odd £10 for fuel the next day. When I run out of money I want to come to a compromise of a sum he will answer me that will last me until payday.

3. the next time he takes out a 10k loan for a fucking engine he better buy me something shiney!

I would be content to win enough to be mortgage free
Any more and would do a bit of DIY and maybe a few holidays
Millions would be able to help those I love n mean I wouldn’t have to worry about retirement

£10k a month for a year would make me,mortgage free so that would be nice. However, we need to upgrade soon so saving it for a year or 2-would let us put a huge deposit down on the next house. We could keep the house we're currently living in & let it out. Lots of possibilities certainly with 10k monthly for 30 years.

Thinking that money solves your problems makes you poorer. I know this is light hearted but thinking patterns like ‘I want to win the lottery’ or ‘I want a raise’ make you poorer because they prevent you from asking yourself ‘how do I make the money I have into more money?’ or ‘how do I make myself never need more money again?’ Etc etc. I know I’m being a nag but thinking patterns are so fundamental. If you think in statements that end in a lack of action (or even worse stupid actions as it has in this case) then you’ll never solve you problems. If you ask yourself questions your brain is prompted to find solutions.

Thinking that money solves your problems makes you poorer.

Patronising twaddle spoken by someone who has never felt the gnawing fear of living without sufficient money.

@BogglesGoggles

"How do I make the money I have into more money"

Well the only reasonable answer to this is to plant my money in some top soil and hope for a fucking money tree.

Thnx tho.

@PoppingOneOutIn2020 well clearly your attitude is why you are short on money then. You invest in cash generating assets or you invest in growing assets and sell them on. For instance, you could have spent the money you used on a lottery ticket on a share. That’s how people get wealthy. They end up either with passive income or with an asset pool they can dip into when they need it. Please rethink your thinking.

Hi OP, I play the euro millions every week without fail. Its part of my budget. The most I've won in a week was £220 across a few tickets. When the prize goes over 60mil I buy lucky dips as well

I've always had a feeling I would win some day and I've played the same numbers since I was 16. I think a lot of people feel the same way but I'm a bit of a dreamer.

Ive got every penny planned out and would never go public if I won. Our family is the 6 of us under this roof. Me and my boyfriend + 4 children. Though I do have one auntie I would do anything for so I'd make sure she's set up. All our friends live in a different area of the country and are already quite wealthy so we don't think we'd have any trouble hiding a win, we're both entrepreneurs and could easily blend the new car and new house in as a business venture paying off.

That or tell them great uncle so&so left us a house.

Would you/could you stay anonymous?

I'd like to stay anon. But like I said before I'm far far from wealthy or comfortable at the moment so I think it would be impossible to hide I'd we came into money x

I used to think about it all the time, but while I still play, I try now to think of ways to earn more money instead. It got to the point where I almost was using the lottery as my future plan which is daft given the odds. I’d love to win and share it with friends and family. Money doesn’t make happiness, but it gives you choice and security which definitely helps!
I also second persevering with your finances and partner. In our house everything goes into one pot and once bills, food, savings etc are taken care of we split what’s left. Then we can do what we like with that money. You really need to be a team. Good luck with the baby.

I would love to win! Not even millions, a couple hundred grand would change our lives for the better. But if I did win millions I'd love to help a few people out, if you land something crazy like 40 mil you could give most of that away and still be very wealthy, I really think they should break the prizes down more, no one needs that much!