to be stupidly quick to make my mind up

[BoudiccaKate]

about men on Tinder? I've been on it for about six months and I'm pretty quick to dismiss most men on there, sometimes on their profile, sometimes when I've spoken to them. Would you also swipe left for the following?

1. Giving the finger in a photo (too aggressive)
2. Sticking tongue out in a photo (too childish)
3. Hardly any text (too lazy)
4. Saying 'no psycho bitches'' (I may well be a psycho bitch, but I swipe left on this because its so negative about women - we're psycho bitches because men are fucking arseholes to us)
5. Holding a fish (that has to be some kind of freudian phalus thing?)
6. Anything smutty in the text (don't disrespect me before you've even met me)
7. Photos from the angle of being shot up the nose (do men have NO idea how makes them look?)
8. More photos of their car than of them (they clearly aren't packing much and they're sensitive about it)
9. When their age is 48 and they're clearly not a day under 63

10. When they tell me they ride (I have a horse, they're clearly trying to impress when they've actually only ridden once, when they were 12 and hated it)

AIBTU? I suspect I'm probably still in love with a man I dated at the beginning of this Tinder lark, and no one is going to come close.... Fucking nuisance!

I'm being tongue in cheek by the way....

Boudicca there is definitely hope! And it definitely doesn't involve settling or lowering standards. I can't help feeling it's a bit random / by chance though, and so IME the good thing about tinder is the chance to potentially meet a lot of people that you might not otherwise do (albeit it took a LOT of frogs, and periodically I went through phases of absolutely having enough of the frogs). None of my DP's photos were very close up, but he looked nice from what I could tell, also he was in a kilt in one and I'm a sucker for a man in a kilt. So I swiped right. We started texting, he could spell and use correct grammar and pronunciation and no 'hi gorgeous' type openings, which was a good start, he was also interesting and funny and seemed kind, and the rest, as they say, is history.

I used to (obviously...) swipe right on the men whose profile pics were so clearly them on their wedding day with the photo cropped - wtf?! They don't think it's obvious??!!! And gym photos.

Agree on all of those! And also, if they put '...' or 'ask me' or 'fill in later' for their bio. Make an effort!!
Or, photo of them in bed with a sheet over their groin 😂
Or, photo taken in the toilets, with urinals behind them🤢
Omg, there's some classy guys out there 😂

Stay picky ladies!

Otherwise one day you will be here talking about your problem relationships with men whose disruptive hobby you cannot name as it will be too outing (but fishing, cycling, motorbiking etc is a given)

if they can't control feeling bad about having a tiny penis, its not my job to make them feel better about it

That is a pathetic assumption based on them having photos of their car.

My ex husband really liked a porn film that involved dead wet fish. He tried to persuade me to watch it once. This wasn't actually the maim reason he'd ex husband. But probably a red flag.