To think names don't need to 'go together'?

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Time after time I see requests for names suggestions that must 'go' with the names of their siblings. Why?

Another twin set in a younger year called Astrid and Aspen come to think of it and I know siblings born a year apart called Millie and Mollie .

Arabella and Lucy. What's wrong with that?

@Sparklingbrook I just don't think thry go. One is much longer and more flowery, one is short and plain. Which is fine cos I wouldn't name my daughters them and you can.
There's nothing wrong with having Balthazar and Finn, it just wouldn't be my choice

I teach two twins calls Randy and Randelle. The dad is called Randy.

I agree with pp, sometimes it's important for the child.
Yes, they're individuals - but you don't know what they are like when you name them.
So for some siblings with very out of kilter names, it feels like you are sort of stereotyping them into roles when they are just a baby - the pretty one, the conventional one, the quirky one, the dual heritage one...

Well Arabella would immediately be shortened to Bella by everyone presumably. Bella and Lucy, Arabella and Lucy both sound fine to me.

Alas I have only sons who were given names 17 and 20 years ago when I was blissfully unaware they had to match. So no daughter naming angst here.

Alas I have only sons... So no daughter naming angst here

Well given I said earlier There's nothing wrong with having Balthazar and Finn, it just wouldn't be my choice I'm not sure it's a girl thong
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Yes, it's all a bit odd whether boys or girls. I am very happy with my name choices even though I was unaware of the matchy rules at the time.

If/when I have DGC I will make sure I make the DC aware.

I'm confused... When you have kids with same initial... How on earth do you sort out mail??
Someone I know has Jenna, jorgia, Jordan, and jen Smith (not exact names...)
All young adults now... And all living at home...

There are two different things being discussed here. Matching / alliterative names, like say the Kardashians and names that are a certain style. Which are two different things. I don’t necessarily like ‘matching’ names but I do think it’s odd when children in a family don’t have names in the same style. For example I have a friend with 4 girls. 3 of them have really hard to pronounce, unusual Irish names. And the 4th is called Zoë. I think that’s unusual.

To be fair,’I have two very straight forward, biblical but not unusual names for my two sons.

I know it’s considered a bit of a name on MN but if this baby was a girl, I loved the name Harper but my OH felt it was too different from our biblical names to one which is associates with a celebrity!

The Beckhams definitely got the 'matchy names' memo.

I know a woman who has called her two daughters Kayleigh and Kylie. Please don't even ask what the third daughter is named as it's too outing, but it sounds like a brand of trainers.

K-Swiss?

The main reason why is that you'll be yelling them together, one after another across assorted playgrounds parks and maybe beaches etc for nearly two decades.

They don't need to be matchy matchy, but they shouid actively fight, and I think they do need to pass the yelling test

I never realised it was a thing! We just picked names we liked!

Tbh, I doubt it's much of a thing outside of Mumsnet. The angst over names here is sometimes hilarious. I think there are very few mumsnetters in my area due to the lack of Clementines, Constances and Ottilies.

"Tbh, I doubt it's much of a thing outside of Mumsnet."

Nah - people don't make this sort of stuff up for MN (no comment on creative writing trolls). People are describing what they think is important.

One of the great strengths of MN is that it can widen your viewpoint beyond your probably very endogamous RL

It does slightly indicate people who don't fully understand that their children will be (god willing) independent adults for much longer than they live under their roof, and therefore won't give even a mouse sized shit how their names goes with their siblings'........

@AuntieStella, I could see that as an argument for avoiding very similar names which could sound interchangeable when shouted over a distance — I know someone who wishes for this reason that she didn’t call her sons Jude and Luke as all that transmits up the stairs (according to them) is a vague ‘ooo’ sound — but I can’t honestly see it as a rationale for not calling your children Tom and Persephone, or Ambrose and Ace.

I don't get it. I literally named all my children when I looked at them and thought they looked like a ...... The names don't all match. But they do suit the children...

People really should think about surnames as well. This week I have met 2 little boys named jack. I know the mums last names and they would go with the names but they are not married and the kids have their fathers surnames which are Spratt and Russell..... poor kids

I think sometimes the last child of three or more gets the horrible name because the parent who didn't want Bartholomew or Bethesda gets worn down and gives in!