To think names don't need to 'go together'?

[pancaketits]

Time after time I see requests for names suggestions that must 'go' with the names of their siblings. Why?

How did I forget SIL's friend who's got a son and a daughter, Sam and Ella.
She gets really really ratty if anyone says anything and insists on them being called Ella and Sam, not Sam and Ella.

I've known of a Laurel and Harvey.

I once taught siblings named Michael and Michelle then a few years later a Shaun and a Shauna (father's name was Sean). No twins, several years age gap in both cases. I found that very odd!

My kids are individuals and so are their names. They don't match in person so why should their names?

Oskowski I had to say that out loud before it clicked!

Sounds like it failed to occur to the parents beforehand to do just that....

I don't see the problem with wanting the names to flow nicely together.
A family we know has (similar to) Lee, Leanne, Leah and Jane. Jane just sounds like such an after thought.

A family I knew in my teens had Daniela, Gabrielle and Jane. Why? Would you want to be Jane in this family?

I knew a Stella and Foster. Mum was pregnant with number 3 and I've always wondered if the name theme continued, but I left before #3 was born.

I wanted my children’s names to ‘go’. I know sisters who have a very ordinary 80s name (like Kelly but not) and then her sister has a very unusual name (not Xavia but close). And it’s odd.

It usually just happens naturally I think. You tend to like a particular style of name.

My boys names are -

the chavviest name according to mumsnet (already been mentioned on this thread numerous times)

A K name.

2 biblical names - not popular when they were born but more popular now.

A name that has often been called pretentious and try hard on here.

So a real mix! And I don't suppose they "go" together but I didn't choose them for that reason I chose them because they were the names I liked at the time.

No one's ever said anything about them matching. At least not to my face anyway.

But no one who called their first child Ptolemy is ever going to consider naming a subsequent one Jayden, not if they’re as signed up to the doctrines of naming and social class as virtually everyone who posts on the baby names forum on Mn.

And to those who mentioned adoption, actually naming does come up as a concern for some adopters, on security grounds — two unusual first names hyphenated together could make the child very easy to trace online by birth family — or simply because it’s a completely different style of name to their birth children and they don’t want the child to feel anomalous within the family. Adoption social workers tend to be firmly against changing children’s names, but families sometimes do.

I had the exact same problem osowski, my eldest is Sam and we really wanted to call dd Ella until I said them together and realised how it sounded

I've known sibling named:

Justin and Justine

Christopher and Christina

Stefan and Stephanie

Dated one, one's a parent of mine, another were two kids I went to school with.

My mother for her first 4 gave us somewhat traditional names think

Alexander
Harry
Penelope
Elizabeth

And then for some unknown reason my mum gave my 2nd sister a really mismatched name amongst us all. Think something like Rain.

She absolutely hates her name and doesn't get why 4 of us got "normal" names that all go together, and she gets saddled with a ridiculous name.

So when people on here ask for a name that will go with a child they've already got, that's what I imagine. Not rhyming or same letters.

It’s the not jarring thing. Wanting a similar style. I was reading someone’s holiday blog and they had 2 sons one called a traditional name like James and one called Trayvon. It did strike me as unusual and indeed the boys turned out to be from different mothers which explained the non matching names.

Mine both have matching names, not matching as in James and Jamie, but matching as in they sound lovely together.

For the first 18 year of their lives they'll be known as part of this unit; our names are in every card for every celebration, I like that the DC's names sound nice together.

If I've got to shout for them in a park or something I can't be shouting for Hannah and Anna, I'll barely be able to say it for a start. Equally if I have a Hannah and River surely that's asking for trouble when they grow up and Hannah wants to know why she has a boring name and River wants to know why she's got a more unusual name? Better to stick to a fairly consistent theme surely?

Never understood the matchy names thing. Your children are individuals who’ll grow up to have a life apart from their siblings, it matters not a jot whether their names match or not.

I have kids names that don't 'match'. People ask about it. They soon shut up when you say, yeah, I didn't choose hers. Her birth mother did

I agree. It's never occurred to me that names need to "go together". It's only something I've seen on MN. Never in RL.

Names do tend to go together though; all mine are biblical names (of the modern variety, not the Balthazar, Nebuchanezzer variety) , so its highly unlikely that I would have eg Peter, Mohammed and Jayden-Kai isn't it?

I agree (although, Peter is a biblical name).

I know a family of six:

Tommy
Tiffany
Theo (but it's Feo in the local accent, so only fits the pattern on paper)
Tiaa
Taiya
Tina

I agree names need to go. I like names like Blair and Quinn but I have a Jessica so will stick to names that have the same feel

I know of a family who have a Rachel, Tom, Lucy and a Tiger Lily

There's a balance - the family down the road with Lilly, Milly and Billy I do thing is a bit odd.

However we probably wouldn't go Arabella and Lucy even tho both are lovely because they just don't feel right together

Nobody worries when they marry someone if their names go together

I have a friend named Ashlie who married an Ashley .

I honestly have no idea but there’s twins at my DD’s school called Willow and Meadow, I definitely think the Mum thought oooh twins, matchy matchy.