How do I respond to this?

[fedupntired]

Bit of background, DH & had a huge row last night, he's still asleep and I slept in spare room. Will probably be resolved this morning.
But he got this text from his DD24^^ (my DSD) during the heat of it.
I have no idea what she means by recently and I really want to know .......

Don't jump to conclusions.

There are only two ways to find our, ask dh or ask dsd!

Does DSD live in the same house? Did she hear the row? Do you row often?

Have you read his messages?

Maybe something written in the heat of the moment, although it doesn’t Look good.

Has there been problems for a while, or is it a one- off arguement? Do dad like you or are jealous? Ie, any reason for them writing this?

Does he know you read his texts?

Does he always run to his daughter when you have an argument? 🤨

You don't respond, it was a private message between a young woman and her Dad.

Does she have a point? You are checking his phone after all.

That says a lot. Why are you reading his texts? I would say she may have a point?

How does it fit into context with the other messages and his reply? What has been happening recently? Is she affected, did he show you these texts?

How you respond depends on much more than one text.

So was she in the house and sent this during the argument? I can understand her involvement if this is the case.

Do the arguments happen alot?

Agree it's absolutely contextual! Are there young children in the house during these rows, what are they about, and why are you going through his phone!

Ouch. Where was she texting from? Did she hear the row or did he involve her?

Well, if it's his phone then you don't reply, because it's not a message to you.

Was she in the house and heard the argument, or did he tell her about it?

What did he say in response to her saying that OP? It looks like he said "I can't:

I think it's the same person asking/assuming "can't answer above...?"

@HennyPennyHorror that's her saying she can't answer the phone
He's had an argument and tried to call his daughter 🙄

Sounds like she's sick of hearing arguments. And she's obviously going to side with her dad.

Say nothing about that. Just deal with the row with him and those issues.

Echoing others to say did she witness the argument (any of them?)

DP could be telling her about the arguments and blowing them way out of proportion - especially if he is venting whilst angry.
Does he know you check his messages? Is DSD right?

You need to speak to your partner.

How did he reply?

I think you probably need to work on rebuilding a positive relationship.

I don’t think you need to respond at all - it’s not your message. Maybe your stepdaughter thinks her dad needs to leave you because you’re the kind of person who goes through your partner’s phone?

Wow, loads of responses, thank you all. To clarify a few points:
~She no longer lives with us, she has her own home with her partner and is planning their wedding.
~ we haven't had a huge row in over a year but we do row yes (we find it clears the air)
~ we are fine this morning
~ he doesn't necessarily run to her but they are close and they do talk
~ he and I have talked {everything is fine with us} and he is going to ask her what she meant

{am on phone so shall look back over other comments to see what I've missed}

~ She was at her {prospective} in-laws so couldn't answer.
~ she did offer to come and get him
~ I read his texts and he reads mine, always have. We don't have individual emails, just one.

I asked him if I've been doing anything 'recently ' and he said not at all. We have had a very tough year and I have posted about DSD and how crappy our year has been before,possibly under a previous username.
Someone mentioned rebuilding our relationship, that is something to work on.

In summary I won't be texting her back, I will leave DH to talk to her about ant issues she had with me and go from there.
Thank you all.