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To wonder about if I should complain about the homophobic bullying/ language my son has been subjected to at school yet again

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Sl33pingfox · 29/06/2019 06:31

15 year old ds is gay. Suffered homophobic bullying at school( physical, verbal and cyber). School were very good and robust in its dealing with it both individually and on a whole school basis. My son received counselling and mentoring as it hit him hard.Low self esteem, anxiety, hating being gay etc.

He is very low at the moment. He is bright and not achieving expected grades in several areas although doing ok ie keeping his head above water and focusing on reaching his high targets with some success.He has also suffered two bereavements this year and has cut himself off from all bar one of his friends( who is also gay). Anyhow he has just told me again how he hates being gay, has low self esteem, is feeling anxious sad etc. Turns out some boys were saying how being gay was unnatural etc in conversation with him and his friend has been pushed out of the way in corridors, told to “ get out of the way you gay......”

Really don’t know what to do. Have told him to go back to the councillor but do I complain to school again too? The homophobic language really gets him down but he is going to sadly have to live with it as it’s everywhere. That said being at school you are a captive audience and children really should be able to grow up feeling confident in themselves.

So tired of this and angry too. I hate seeing him sad and suspect it’s having an impact on his grades and general well-being . School must be a bit weary of it though and it sounds so trivial when it isn’t you as a person who is dealing with language like this.

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SimonJT · 05/07/2019 11:11

@Sl33pingfox have the school stepped up at all?

Oldraver · 05/07/2019 11:21

DS was subjected to homophobic hate speech by charming individual for a while.the last time I witnessed it and gave him a stern talking to. Happened to come across a police car on our way home so had a word.

They took it very seriously and had I/DS wanted to, would of taken it further. As it was the child was 'known' to them and was having a meeting the following morning with police so it was added to their list of complaints.

We live in a small town so not sure if they would of been so bothered elsewhere but the local CS officer did have a word and said any further instances would be taken further (and we would of made an official statement). He did say realistically he wasn't sure it would go as far as prosecution but hoped a telling off would make them realise it wasn't on

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