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Original poster

To ask if you can regift a present when the child who gave it may be at the party?

29 replies

drspouse · 28/06/2019 12:42

It's definitely not the same child's gift as we have two parties coming up and one child wasn't invited (other class in the year group but they are doing a whole year group party, mad people) and the other child couldn't make it to my child's party.

I wonder how many times this gift can go round the class? Mind you we are now in June so there aren't many left in the school year.

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aPengTing · 28/06/2019 12:44

What’s wrong with you?! Just buy a nice gift for the child.

So utterly rude to do what you are proposing. Smh.

soulrunner · 28/06/2019 12:44

I think it’s fine if a duplicate or just not your dc’s bag. If it’s a bit shit then yabu to regift it, whether or not the other dc is there.

TokenGinger · 28/06/2019 12:45

I can't make head nor tail of that. Can you explain it a bit more?

Cornettoninja · 28/06/2019 12:46

As long as it really is just not to your child’s taste and not complete shite you’re off loading I don’t see the problem personally. If anyone did say anything or raise an eyebrow just say how much your dc liked the one they got.

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drspouse · 28/06/2019 12:48

What’s wrong with you?! Just buy a nice gift for the child.

So what do I do with the brand new gifts that our child was given at their party which as soul says were either duplicates or just not something our child would ever play with?
Throw them in the bin?

Token
20 DCs came to our DC's party despite 30 having been invited. A was invited, but couldn't come. Our DC is going to A's party.
B invited our DC to their party too, though wasn't invited to our DC's party. Our DC is also going to B's party.
We have 4 or 5 "DC will never play with them" brand new gifts in the wardrobe.

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Original poster
drspouse · 28/06/2019 12:48

If anyone did say anything or raise an eyebrow just say how much your dc liked the one they got.
Ha! Not sure I could style that out but good call!

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Thehop · 28/06/2019 12:50

Perfectly fine to regift and much better for the environment than buying more.

BiscuitDrama · 28/06/2019 12:51

Child at the party won’t see the present being given. So it’s fine!

Sparadrap · 28/06/2019 12:52

I’ve just regifted a present. My son was given 2 of the same Lego sets. It’s a really nice present. The kid likes Lego and it’s something I might have picked out anyway.

On the other hand if it’s a crap present then Yabu.

newmomof1 · 28/06/2019 12:52

The children don't open presents at the party do they? If not it's fine because nobody would know.

LizzieSiddal · 28/06/2019 12:52

Is the gift something the child will like and play with?

If so, I would give it to them.

And I'm so glad that when mine were young, the 'in thing' was to have around 8 children back for tea and a few games. The whole class, inviting the whole class thing, is ridiculous and expensive.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 28/06/2019 12:53

Unless you're seriously strapped for cash, get another gift

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 28/06/2019 12:54

Which is it though? A duplicate or something your child wouldn't play with?

badg3r · 28/06/2019 12:54

Of it is something fairly common I would say it is fine. We have bought presents for DC friends that are duplicates of toys they have, precisely because they have enjoyed them so much!

aPengTing · 28/06/2019 13:02

So what do I do with the brand new gifts that our child was given at their party which as soul says were either duplicates or just not something our child would ever play with?
Throw them in the bin?

Sell it, give to a charity shop, give to a raffle, give it to a refuge...

checkeredredshorts · 28/06/2019 13:03

There's nothing wrong with regifting as long as it's done discretely and the original giver won't find out.

There's no point wasting perfectly good gifts that were duplicates of just not something your child would use.

dimples76 · 28/06/2019 13:03

I just had my son's whole class party and the amount of gifts he received was crazy. I did separate out some of them to regift - all nice presents just not right for DS. I have a list of who gave what to avoid giving it back to the recipient/someone close to them

TokenGinger · 28/06/2019 13:18

@drspouse Thank you! My brain just wasn't processing the first post.

I can't see any problem really, so long as it's a nice gift.

BarrenFieldofFucks · 28/06/2019 13:20

What on earth is wrong with re-gifting?! Confused

AlaskanOilBaron · 28/06/2019 13:22

I love this from a green perspective but have I got it right that it’s out of its packaging?

I don’t think I’d do that. Maybe if you have a v bohemian circle....?

Kungfupanda67 · 28/06/2019 13:28

I’ve done this, because as previous poster said presents aren’t opened at the party. Well at that party they were 🤦‍♀️ Luckily it was a duplicate gift that we had regifted, so when the original mum saw the present I just said my child loved it so he chose it for this gift, and next time the mum was at my house I made sure the duplicate was out being played with so she saw it Blush

Upanddownandroundagain · 28/06/2019 13:55

Who would even know? And agree with a pp, that you’d just say that you bought the same thing they got for your child anyway (which, to be fair, I’ve done in the past)

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drspouse · 28/06/2019 15:01

It's in its original packaging, but my DCs have been given things not in their original packaging and we didn't mind.
One is a near-duplicate of something my DC is not that into (they tried the other one) and one is just not their sort of thing in general.

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DelurkingAJ · 28/06/2019 16:47

We have done when things were age inappropriate (as in much too young jigsaws etc). It simply never came out of the shrink wrap and was given to a younger aged child later (I provided DS with a substitute from the present drawer into which said jigsaws vanished).

I wouldn’t regift something he’d opened.

RainOrSun · 28/06/2019 16:53

If its appropriate for the recipient, regift!

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