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AIBU Jealous of her

58 replies

Glitter99x · 27/06/2019 20:45

Boyfriend has a best friend. Nothing would ever happen with them but my body language and the way I feel is giving off Jealousy. This girl doesn’t like me because I pulled a sickie at work, which yes I acknowledged I shouldn’t of done it, but surely everyone does at some point in their working lives. She branded me a liar and says she doesn’t have liars as friends. She said she would block me to which I said “fine” and she did. She has since unblocked me. I am fine with the texting but it has been constant today. Again, nothing would happen they are extreme polar opposites, she just sort of mentors (?) him. I just want his attention I don’t mind texting now and again but not constantly. She doesn’t like me which makes it worse. I was open saying it makes me feel jealous, that I can’t help it!!!! But he basically threw a tantrum and said “feels like I can’t talk to her now”. Is it wrong to just pay a bit more attention to me than her and his other friends?! I don’t mind texting but not when he is glued to the phone!!! So annoyed, it’s making me want to tell him to go home and leave me alone!!!!

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OwlinaTree · 27/06/2019 20:47

I'd dump the boyfriend tbh. You won't win this one.

Glitter99x · 27/06/2019 21:10

@OwlinaTree don’t want to

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spannerintheneck · 27/06/2019 21:17

God you sound like a child

Glitter99x · 27/06/2019 21:17

Fed up. He's gone in a huff home. I said nothing and he said ''I'm in a group chat organising an event for my friend who has just died if you must know''. I said nothing and I said ''I'm not going to say anything because it's always wrong''. He says that to me as well. We aren't getting on, when we do it's great, but at the moment I feel I can't even be myself anymore. Don't want to break up. I must add he is autistic as well, so he doesn't see things how I would.

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Forgotmycoat · 27/06/2019 21:18

He is being extremely disrespectful to you. She's been rude to you and made zero effort with you, your bf should have pulled her up on it. I think she likes him and is jealous of YOU. Sorry this is going to get worse. Agree with pp, you should dump him, he's emotionally unavailable to you. This will make you a needy, clingy mess.

Since he's been messaging her all day, please at the very least find your self respect and tell him to get out of your home, he is disrespecting you in your home.

Glitter99x · 27/06/2019 21:20

@spannerintheneck how so? Pretty sure feeling jealous is fine and pretty normal in most realtionships. Not like I'm saying ''NO YOU CANNOT TEXT HER!'' Is it? No.

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Glitter99x · 27/06/2019 21:22

@Forgotmycoat He won't pull her up on it that's the thing. He is a walkover. I'm sick of it. I'm seriously thinking about it now.

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OwlinaTree · 27/06/2019 21:22

It's not usual to have your boyfriend spending all evening messaging other people when he's at your house. I think he's enjoying all the attention, the jealousy from you and from her.

Cherrysoup · 27/06/2019 21:23

Why did you bother posting? You clearly don't want others' opinions.

Glitter99x · 27/06/2019 21:24

I'm going to spend time apart from him, we spend almost every single day together.

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Glitter99x · 27/06/2019 21:25

@Cherrysoup Yes, I do, otherwise why would I respond?

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Pinkyyy · 27/06/2019 21:26

OP how old are you?

Oneminuteandthenallgone · 27/06/2019 21:27

Are you on exam leave after GCSEs?

Just go and drink pre-mixed cans in the park like your classmates .

Glitter99x · 27/06/2019 21:27

@Pinkyyy 26, first relationship.

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Glitter99x · 27/06/2019 21:28

@Oneminuteandthenallgone Lol, wish I could.

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Glitter99x · 27/06/2019 21:30

Sorry, not sure why getting all the negative feedback. Let me put this straight. Girl doesn't like me for stupid reason. I'm fine with the texting, but even when trying to watch tv, boyfriend glued to his phone. That made me a bit jealous but overall hurt my feelings. I couldn't even ask him outright to stop as I'm walking on eggshells with him!

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Nofunkingworriesmate · 27/06/2019 21:31

The girl is defo next friend of yours and your sickie is none of her business unless she is your boss
Constantly texting is not ok

origamiunicorn · 27/06/2019 21:32

*Are you on exam leave after GCSEs?

Just go and drink pre-mixed cans in the park like your classmates .*

Patronising much?

Oneminuteandthenallgone · 27/06/2019 21:32

Honestly , how old are you?

Under 16- so still doing GCSEs

Under 16s really shouldn't post on here.

LagunaBubbles · 27/06/2019 21:33

This won't end well OP.

Pinkyyy · 27/06/2019 21:33

It's very easy to hang onto your first relationship OP. If it's not feeling good for you then don't feel like you have to put up with it.

WinterBotty · 27/06/2019 21:33

How old are you?

Raffles1981 · 27/06/2019 21:34

He constantly messages her, spends everyday with you. Where are the boundaries? You cannot make him stop communicating with her, when he is with you. So where do you see this going? It's not healthy and her blatent disregard for you is always going to be there. He won't stand up for you. So you will always be up against her and it will always result in arguments. I can't imagine this working

Oneminuteandthenallgone · 27/06/2019 21:34

Ok- just seen you say you are 26.

Your posts sound like a teenager.

WinterBotty · 27/06/2019 21:35

You're 26? Seriously?