To be wary of vapers around DS

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Less AIBU, more WIBU to be annoyed by the following.

DS is 9 months. DH smoked when i met him, vapes were then invented and he had one that broke, never had the money to replace it or for cigs so just quit. His family still vape/smoke.
We were at FIL house with DS playing on the floor crawling up to each person in a "pick me up please" way. FIL picked him up, was playing etc then put him down and said "im coming back to play in a min". Left the room and came back in with his vape, puffing away in DS face.
Now, im not 100% sure of the effects of second hand vape smoke so feel free to educate me, but i wasnt happy about it but wasnt unhappy enough to ask him to stop (considering we were in his home).
What would you have done?
For a bit of background, DH family are a bit relaxed about what is done around and in front of children. Eg. FIL suggested SIL vape when pregnant and has recently suggested some more illegal ways to relax when kids are in bed. Dont know if thats relevant but thir attitude towards it gets my back up. I think if he had done it in our house DH may have asked him not to but i dont know.
How would people feel if this was them?

Bumping

I’ll probably get flamed and told it’s perfectly fine but there’s no chance I’d have my baby having vape spewed all over them. Fuck that!

No, I wouldn't want it around my child.

Not a chance. My OH is manager of a vape shop and he won't vape in the shop if there are kids in. We just dont know enough about it yet. Yes its water vapour but it has other stuff in it too that we dont know how if affects things. He won't recommend vaping to pregnant woman either for them reasons.

definitely not comfortable with vaping around DC. Most people are considerate of this.

When I visit my grandparents (they don’t smoke or vape) but my uncle is often there. He’ll just casually get his vape out in front of the kids not giving a damn.

Also my ex. DS’s dad gave up smoking and now vapes but he did do it around him and even took him to the vape shop. DS once told me that he wanted to vape like his dad when he’s older. I have to have words with him...

You are definitely not being unreasonable.

Smoking is bad, we know that and most people wouldn’t smoke around children but vaping hasn’t been around long. We know little about it IMO.

I've been told it's perfectly safe to vape why pregnant my midwife actually says you are classed as a non smoker, I'll probably get flamed for this but I'd rather vape smoke around my kids then cigarette smoke

Not a chance.

YANBU

I'd rather my kid were breathing in vaping fumes rather than cigarette smoke too. I don't think that's controversial.

I vape, but not in the same room as children, if my niece and nephew are around and we’re outside then I don’t do it near or in view of them either for all of the reasons that people have already mentioned. Apart from not enough being known of the effects it would just feel wrong anyway.

Sorry, meant to add YANBU.

I think most people would prefer vaping to actual smoke but the third option of neither is far superior. YANBU OP.

It makes me cough - I've got hayfever and a couple of similar allergies. A colleague of mine vapes in meetings she's otherwise a nice person but if I sit near her when she's vaping indoors I cough and cough and can't stop. I think the problem is that these days nobody (almost nobody) would smoke cigarettes indoors, but suddenly it's fine to vape inside and fill the room with clouds of something which certainly some people's lungs are sensitive to.
YANBU

YANBU, and I say this as someone who vapes. I would never do it inside our home nor around my DS (13 months). Like you say, it is a relatively new thing and the risks have not been properly explored IMO.

I vape but mines a low one and isn't one that blows out clouds of smoke. I used a vape in my last two pregnancies too and still smoke it around the kids. I don't see any problem with it.

I'd rather my kid were breathing in vaping fumes rather than cigarette smoke too.

Those aren’t the only two options! Maybe people could try not being a dick and inflicting either of them on tiny children.

San Francisco look likely to introduce a complete ban on vaping. First test cases about effects in the pipeline?

I wouldn't be worried about risks too much, but I wouldn't want it normalised. I'd much rather people moved to vaping from cigs, but the ideal is surely not to do either.

I vape but we don't know the long term effects so you're right to be wary. I only do it as it's the only way I've kicked the cigarettes and it's v new to me (circa 3 weeks).

They're very effective for me quitting (I'm using a JUUL) but I wouldn't burden others with it.

I disagree with Sam Fran - they've banned vapes but not the proven worse product of cigarettes 🙄

@FreeFreesia they're not doing it because of test results it's because teens are getting hooked on nicotine as vapes can be ordered online. Which is bad but it means the adults may go back to cigarettes.

How can they say it's safe to vape around anyone, never mind kids. They used to think smoking was safe and look how that turned out. Personally nobody gets to smoke or vape in the same room as me. Easy at my house and easy for me to say I'm sorry but I/we can't be in your house if you're going to smoke or vape around me. Their house so their choice, but also your choice too. Let them decide what's more important, to see your kids or vape. Easy peasy

@anothernotherone I thought it was illegal to vape indoors?!

I'm very allergic to components in vaping liquid. And there's plenty of us with the same problem. It shouldn't be allowed indoors anywhere and I don't want it round my kids. We don't know the long-term effects of breathing in those chemicals.

Personally I think that people who believe that vaping is safe are shortsighted fools. I wouldn't let anyone vape around my DC. I would have asked FIL if he could go outside, and if he didn't then I would have ended the visit. Your child, your rules, irrelevant of whose house you are in.

I'm definitely not okay with someone vaping around my baby!

I personally couldn't get worked up about something that there is so far no prove of ill health affects resulting from said vaping.