To start this thread about teacher's experiences of OTT parents as there are frequent posts by parents about teachers!

[Mammajay]

I was in my class with a group of students when the door opened and in stepped an angry parent with an Alsatian dog pulling on the lead. The mum was demanding I returned her 12 year old daughter's radio which I had confiscated the day before due to her disturbing the lesson with it. I wanted to tell the mum to p... off but being a professional, I carefully removed it from my desk, returned it to the mother and asked her to ensure it was kept at home in future. That girl dropped out of school later. In the majority of cases, parents need to support teachers who are trying to maintain discipline so that they can teach and students can learn. Other teachers' examples of OTT parents???

You get to go back to your regular lives

The assumption here is just as bad as what you are accusing teachers of. They have families too. Often with disabilities and other circumstances just as valid. We are all human as bananasandwicheseveryday's post points out.

This thread was supposed to be specific to teachers having a rare vent on Mumsnet (in the sea of all the parent rant posts) and it is a shame, even that has to be hijacked.

To the parents who say but teachers aren't perfect..of course they are not. But some parents are OTT!

I probably went OTT today, I went to thank teacher for her work with DD the past 2 years, Ms L has been amazing, I am very grateful. I went OTT with praise and left with a tear in my eye.
I hope she has a great summer

I've bern waiting for a story about me to appear because unfortunately I have had to be "that parent"

Why? Because it's taken me 10 years to get the help my Dd needed instead primary and secondary school both failed her, finally 6 months into year 11 my Dd was finally diagnosed with severe learning disabilities, dyslexia, dyscalculia, working memory, auditory processing, asd to name a few

All those years or eye rolling and rudeness even from the receptionist

After Dd was diagnosed the head of house sent me a email starting with "as you are aware WE have identified serious leaning disabilities...... I literally ripped her a new arsehole

I do think teachers do I great job (I work in a primary school) but there are some out there that shouldn't be teaching at all

So what have you done that is in any way comparable to the stories on this thread?
Screamed and sworn at teachers? Laid down in front of a vehicle as a protest? Insisted on being made coffee in the middle of a lesson?
I’m a teacher who also has two children with HFA. I’m not confused about the theme here. You seem to be.

Whenever I see a teacher thread I always think of this

It’s not wrong really either is it

The best one I heard from all the years I taught was when a parent asked the Headteacher to cut off the pointy ends of the chips her son had at lunchtime! "cos our Michael don't like the sharp bits" 😂😂

You get to go back to your regular lives, we live with our child’s disability 24/7, 365 days a year

Two of my colleagues in school go back home every night to children with SEN.

literally ripped her a new arsehole

Literally? Lovely.
I can see why no one felt like mentioning your child’s disabilities earlier...

You get to go back to your regular lives, we live with our child’s disability 24/7, 365 days a year
Yes because they are your child. That is the deal when you have a child.

I literally ripped her a new arsehole

You say that you work in a school yet apparently have no idea how much paperwork, observation, questioning and time goes in to trying to get children the support that they need.

Thinking of my teaching days and more recently curriculum support. Getting past school receptionist takes some doing. How did she get to your class with an Alsatian ? Safeguarding etc

I am assuming that happened when schools were pretty much open access.

Why all the queries about how a parent got in with a dog? It's not that hard to imagine that the poster lives somewhere where schools aren't fortresses, or that it happened some time ago before all the security was stepped up here.

I literally ripped her a new arsehole

Well Done you 👏👏👏 Not!

You have set your DC up for a miserable school life. But I guess you won't care about that 🙄😏

I think someone is a bit confused about the meaning of “literally”

I've met lots of OTT parents over the years. It's sad that the profession has become one where some parents don't feel they have to support their child's teachers. I'm leaving the classroom this summer and I can't wait!

God locket I hope in your primary school you're not helping the children with English

You literally have no idea

Not a teacher (I escaped) but work in a legal setting. There was a recent trial where a teacher had been charged with assault for throwing an item on to a table where it had allegedly hit the child. The child claimed that the mark on their hand was from where the item had hit them. Another pupil backed them up. Why had happened was that the two children had been playing around, told off by the teacher, child hurt during the playing. The children had taken a dislike to being told off and had used this moment to accuse the teacher.

It never should have even got to court. Thousands wasted, the teacher had their life disrupted and had to leave the school. The father of the "victim" was a nightmare. He spent the time swearing and talking about how he was going to "get his own back". The teacher was acquitted.

My child’s class has a selection of Those Parents. My jaw drops constantly with them!

And the teachers at the school are so, so lovely. I don’t know how they put up with it.

Just to counteract the stories here with one from the start of my long teaching career that still makes me smile. I was at the end of my tether with a student, multiple suspensions, detentions were doing nothing. He had an excuse for everything. Talking to him in a corridor I completely lost it and told him that I didn’t give an s* anymore. Obviously this was completely unacceptable, I apologised but waited for the parent phone call that would seal my fate whether that were to be a dressing down or disciplinary. When the inevitable phone call came later that day I stealed myself for a very angry parent only to find an apologetic one.
“My son told me you swore at him today,” they said “I’m so sorry that his behaviour was so bad that he made you do that, you’ve been so patient, we’ve spoken to him about it.”

Smiley your post makes me think of starting a thread about lovely parents..like the one who crocheted a baby blanket for my first born. It was far from perfect but I cherished shed it because of the kindness.

Yes, there are lovely parents too! One mum learnt I was going travelling over the summer and bought me a travel kit. Super sweet! And it’s the best thing in the world when you get thank you emails 😊especially when you open it thinking it’s going to be another complaint 🤣

@Catsinthecupboard not everything is about you. I am a teacher with an SEN child. This thread is about OTT parents not teacher bashing. Let teachers have one space away from your self righteous rage.

One principle that teachers appear to be thwarted from informing children and parents of is this : there are consequences to actions. This may be because it is mistaken for moralising. Yet this is a very basic principle. School is in my view a microcosm of the future society they will live in And so it is an amazing opportunity to learn this principle in a relatively safe place. And of course in real life one can "cross a line" and get away with it. But not every time. Teachers should be backed up as they are trying to show the dangers (short or long term ) of crossing lines, eventually one gets caught out and then there are consequences.