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Sleeping arrangements in holiday house

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Ilovepizzatoomuch · 25/06/2019 08:35

So on holiday with dh, our DD (3) and our friends and their 2 DC's (3 and 4) have a large house with 4 bedrooms so enough sleeping space for everyone. However one of the bedrooms is on the ground floor. Other couple and myself are not happy leaving any of the DC in their on their own. My dh doesn't have an issue with it and is sulking that no one agrees with him.

First couple of nights I slept downstairs with my dd, Dh had the double to himself, friends had other double and their DC shared a room.

Last night the other mum and 1 of their DC slept downstairs, and our dd and other DC shared a room.

Wasn't the best night (as it was ridiculously warm and everyone was uncomfortable) other DC in the room upstairs woke a few times, I was conscious of dd waking and also couldn't work out which child was awake so had the monitor on the floor listening. Dh has now got the hump as it woke him up and all in all he said he got 2 hours sleep!

Probably important to point out dh is a terrible sleeper at the best of times, I have brought him speaker pillows, calming oils, lavender stuff and nothing works.

Everyone now wants to go back to how we slept the previous few nights as we did all get sleep, but dh is moaning that it's not fair and he wants me to sleep upstairs - even tho he got no sleep!

I'm of the opinion its what's happens when you have children and we just have to do what's best for everyone!

OP posts:
Doilooklikeatourist · 25/06/2019 08:40

Can’t the 3 children share an upstairs room ?
Or one couple sleep downstairs ?

drizzleinbrizzle · 25/06/2019 08:44

Did you not check the sleeping arrangements before? I have rejected many potential holiday homes for that reason. But your DH is being unreasonable, children can't sleep on their own down there.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 25/06/2019 08:46

One couple sleeping downstairs seems the obvious solution Confused

LenoVentura · 25/06/2019 08:47

I'm being thick here, but why aren't all the DC in one room, each parent couple in their own rooms and nobody sleeping downstairs?

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Ilovepizzatoomuch · 25/06/2019 08:52

Sorry should have said, there are 2 double rooms and 2 twin rooms. One of the twins is that downstairs.

In all honestly I didn't organise this and no one seemed to realise the second twin was downstairs. If I did I would have looked for somewhere else.

Have suggested a couple stay downstairs, but the general view (mainly from my dh) is that isn't an option!

OP posts:
Finfintytint · 25/06/2019 08:54

Why isn't it an option? It's a good solution.

IsAStormApporaching · 25/06/2019 08:59

Push the twin beds together and make a double. Then an adult couple can sleep down there.
It's much safer to have 2 adults on the ground floor than a child/ 2 children alone.

Mix56 · 25/06/2019 09:06

move a mattress carefully, not damaging anything, or dirtying the walls into a double room upstairs for your DD. put it all back perfectly when leaving

Yogurtcoveredricecake · 25/06/2019 09:06

3 kids in a double, 1 couple has the other, other couple pushes the bed together in the twin room. Sorted.

MyOpinionIsValid · 25/06/2019 09:08

It's all overly complicated isnt it ?

2 couples, 3 kids, 4 bedrooms, Not seeing the issue here?

What do you think will happen to the children sleeping downstairs?

SleepingStandingUp · 25/06/2019 09:09

If he's gonna be a whiney arse and complain about everything, is he secretly hoping he'll get downstairs to himself and thus peace and sleep?

I'd move a mattress up into the double and let the kids fight over who gets the cool floor bed / rotate if there's space.

Clockworkprincess · 25/06/2019 09:10

Push the twins together. We did that on holiday (one twin room, two doubles with two couples and a single) since we had six month ds and that was the only room that worked for the cot. It actually worked and we were there for a week

SleepingStandingUp · 25/06/2019 09:11

What do you think will happen to the children sleeping downstairs?
I wouldn't want my 3/ 4 yo on a totally different floor where I might not hear them, where them. Might try to climb the stairs in the dark to get to me, where thry have access to the kitchen / fire etc. And it isn't about having good or naughty kids, it's about it being dark and them confused and young.

Lazypuppy · 25/06/2019 09:12

All 3 kids in 1 room, then both sets of vouples in the doubles upstairs no one needs to sleep downstairs. Easy

HiJenny35 · 25/06/2019 09:16

Tell your husband to stop being pathetic and grow up and stop spoiling the holiday for everyone.

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Ilovepizzatoomuch · 25/06/2019 10:27

The other thing my dh is complaining about is that the other couples DC get up a lot earlier than ours (different routines etc as you would expect) so by having our dd downstairs, she is getting woken up earlier than normal. Again it's a holiday and I'm happy to deal with it, but hes complaining that we're not getting enough sleep!

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VivienneHolt · 25/06/2019 10:29

I don’t see a better option than you and DH sleeping downstairs so he either had to lump it or stop moaning imo.

Not the point I know, but with all this bed switching are you changing the beds over each day or sleeping in each other’s grubby sheets...?

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 26/06/2019 08:35

God, your DH sounds hard work. Is he actually contributing anything to the holiday? Send him home, have your DD in with you upstairs, everyone's a winner.

Gatehouse77 · 26/06/2019 08:39

but he's complaining that we're not getting enough sleep!

Then I'd let him come up with a solution and follow that.

FriarTuck · 26/06/2019 08:40

Other couple in one double, you & DC in other double, 2 kids in 1 twin, your DH has twin room downstairs so he has more chance of sleeping. Sorted. You may thank me later.

chuttypicks · 26/06/2019 08:45

Get the other couple to sleep downstairs if their kids get up earlier...

TheRedBarrows · 26/06/2019 08:45

Your DH is being a general pain.

Not sure what to suggest about that.

Alsohuman · 26/06/2019 08:49

I’d be sending my husband home if he was such a pain.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 26/06/2019 08:56

Your husband is being ridiculous. Tell him the two of you are sleeping downstairs, like it or lump it. Remind him that when you said you were going to sort out your child’s sleeping arrangements, you meant the one you gave birth to, not the one you married.

TheHandsOfNeilBuchanan · 26/06/2019 08:59

Put a single mattress in the upstairs twin, all DC in one room, couples in the doubles. Done