Sleeping arrangements in holiday house

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So on holiday with dh, our DD (3) and our friends and their 2 DC's (3 and 4) have a large house with 4 bedrooms so enough sleeping space for everyone. However one of the bedrooms is on the ground floor. Other couple and myself are not happy leaving any of the DC in their on their own. My dh doesn't have an issue with it and is sulking that no one agrees with him.

First couple of nights I slept downstairs with my dd, Dh had the double to himself, friends had other double and their DC shared a room.

Last night the other mum and 1 of their DC slept downstairs, and our dd and other DC shared a room.

Wasn't the best night (as it was ridiculously warm and everyone was uncomfortable) other DC in the room upstairs woke a few times, I was conscious of dd waking and also couldn't work out which child was awake so had the monitor on the floor listening. Dh has now got the hump as it woke him up and all in all he said he got 2 hours sleep!

Probably important to point out dh is a terrible sleeper at the best of times, I have brought him speaker pillows, calming oils, lavender stuff and nothing works.

Everyone now wants to go back to how we slept the previous few nights as we did all get sleep, but dh is moaning that it's not fair and he wants me to sleep upstairs - even tho he got no sleep!

I'm of the opinion its what's happens when you have children and we just have to do what's best for everyone!

Your DH and your DD downstairs in the twin.

DFs DC in the upstairs twin, you alone in one double, your friends in other double :)

That way neither your DH nor your DD will be disturbed by the other children waking early. Agree a time that its OK for people to come downstairs - 7-7.30 am maybe?

I'm sure your DH will find a reason to complain though.

Move one of the twin mattresses upstairs for your daughter. Simple.

I agree with the option of putting a single mattress from downstairs, on the floor of your room. Perfect solution.

Your dh sounds like hard work! How is he about the rest of the holiday? Food? Outings? Etc?

Well it just sounds like your husband will moan about any solution, and therefore you should just ignore him!

1 double for other couple
1 twin for their kids
1 double for you and DH, plus mattress from single / twin on floor for your DD.

That means that the other kids can go down stairs when they wake up and your DH / DD won't be woken.

Move a single mattress in with the other kids, as long as all the kids are upstairs and one set of adults are it's fine

I would say my husband is now solely responsible for sleeping arrangements and keeping everyone happy , and cooking all meals. if he wants others to be part of the decisions he needs to commit to not moaning for the rest of the holiday.
Oh and all childcare. He can do all childcare too.

What did you decide to do in the end op?

Why don’t you sleep upstairs if that’s what he wants, but he can sleep downstairs with dd - technically everyone’s happy then

I don't think anyone's being particularly unreasonable, but this should have been thought of beforehand and all the faffing sounds pointless and not relaxing!

I feel like the solution is obvious:

3 kids in one room upstairs. (They're so small you might not even bother with moving a matress as siblings could top and tail). One double each.

If it gets way too noisy, DH can go get some kip downstairs.

Whys is your dh moaning about sleeping upstairs alone. I'd love a bed to myself

Surely it doesn’t matter whether the beds are double or twin? Adults can sleep in the twin beds and such young children will be fine sharing a double.

The only issue I can see from all your posts is your DH.

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I don't understand why you don't want the DC downstairs.

What's the problem?

You have a monitor, as you say, so I also don't really understand the issue with the kids sleeping on a different floor.

But if that is what you prefer, I agree with all PPs who suggested putting the three kids together by moving a mattress upstairs and the adults sharing the double rooms. The kids will probably enjoy it, too!

Really don't get the angst about children sleeping on a different floor to you since you have a monitor and will hear immediately if they get out of bed!

Is there enough room in the upstairs twin room to have a mattress on the floor?

Or are you just happy to share with your child, and leave dh to the big bed on his own?

I can understand the idea of not wanting to have small children in a downstairs room on their own. Closer to the kitchen and outside doors, etc. It doesn't bother some people but, for those people less used to having downstairs bedrooms or having bedrooms of different floors, it can feel very odd and not quite as safe.

Not sure 3 young children would sleep very well if all in one bed together. Maybe its the young children I have known but I can imagine it would often be a recipe for disaster with squabbles and keeping each other awake.

Both lots of children and one set of adults upstairs, remains adults downstairs.

We often move mattresses to different rooms when the configuration doesn’t work for us, then just move them back before we check out.

I would just put a twin mattress from downstairs into the upstairs twin and have all children together.

Jeezoh! Totally agree, just reconfigure the rooms to suit yourselves.Personally I would put DD in with me and DH as otherwise the little ones might be up all night partying (novelty of new friends and all that).