Chemistry with new SIL's bro

[MissBehaves]

Okay. I know this is bad and wrong.

I'm a regular mn'er and curious about the litmus test of this situ in AIBU.

My brother got married recently and my new SIL's bro and I really hit it off at the wedding with this being the first time we've met.

Both single. Both out of LTR's. I really fancy him but didn't act or say anything although we naturally gravitated & hung out having a laugh over the celebrations. About a week has passed and he just told me via fb that he really likes me.

I don't know what to say - I really like him, but this is just weird??! He's my SIL's DB?!?

AIBU to want to GFI?

Yanbu!
Absolutely GFI!!
Keep us posted tho!

I thought you were going to say that you're both attached! YANBU at all definitely go for it (sorry I'm not young enough to use GFI )

It's not that weird is it? I can't imagine I would ever meet my BIL or SILs siblings at anything other than a wedding so if it got messy it wouldn't matter all that much. Although that depends a lot on how your families come together to socialise I suppose, but I'd say go for it if you want to!

Why would it be weird? He's your SIL's brother, not your brother.

Go for it!
He's not your brother. He's your brother's BIL. If you ended up married he'd be your brother's BIL twice?!?
The only drawback would be if it all goes tits up and you still have family events (future potential niece/nephew's christenings, birthdays etc) that both of you are expected to attend.

OK thought this was your new husbands sisters brother. Which is wrong.

But this is just hot single man. Go for it.

No reason not to!

Yes!! Okay scarily I'm going to see what happens then 😁😬 Thank you all!!

I kind of thought that it would be perceived as so weird and overly intermingled- like BILIL type relationships mentioned already with eyebrow raising implications (obviously massively preemptive, but it's quite weird as SIL and I are pretty close)

And def a good point re if it goes tits up - could def be awkward but I'm quite good at surviving embarrassing situations.

famous last words haha

I'm normally one for 'don't shit where you eat' but if you only met him at the wedding, chances are if it goes wrong you'll never see him again.

Report back.

Sounds fine. Crack on!

I'd tread carefully, but crack on

No reason not to go for it!

Hot damn-jump his bones!!!

What sites GFI stand for? I'm to old to know

go for it merry

Thank you . I thought it was ruder!

Me too Merry, then I wrote "go for it", realised and was a bit anticlimaxed tbh

Yeah, shag him hard and long

You're a long time dead

It will be really awkward if you get together then break up...

Go for it! You’re both single, you like each other, see where it leads!

And I don’t think it will be that awkward if you GFI then break up. I see my BIL’s siblings less than once per year (no more than the odd NYE party really) and could easily avoid them completely if I wanted to.

It's not weird at all, you two aren't related

*Yeah, shag him hard and long

You're a long time dead*

😂😂😂😂 I agree!!!!

I see SIL brother on one side roughly once every 3-4 years, maybe less. On other side never met any in laws other than their PIL. I guess it might be different if I lived near them but maybe not. If it was a friend of a friend would you risk it? If yes then give it a go.

My two aunts married 2 brothers. Had 6 children between them. Don't really see the problem. Thought it was common enough people know about it but maybe that's because of my experiences. You aren't related. GFI