Chemistry with new SIL's bro

[MissBehaves]

Okay. I know this is bad and wrong.

I'm a regular mn'er and curious about the litmus test of this situ in AIBU.

My brother got married recently and my new SIL's bro and I really hit it off at the wedding with this being the first time we've met.

Both single. Both out of LTR's. I really fancy him but didn't act or say anything although we naturally gravitated & hung out having a laugh over the celebrations. About a week has passed and he just told me via fb that he really likes me.

I don't know what to say - I really like him, but this is just weird??! He's my SIL's DB?!?

AIBU to want to GFI?

Weddings are great for meetings inlaws, brothers,sisters, cousins etc and many a romance has started that way.
I know of a couple in their late 40s that had a registry office wedding and their single parents met for the first time there.
They were in their 60s and are also now married to each other. So the parents are inlaws and step parent rolled into one !

My friend has just married her DB's BiL. They've known each other for many years, he's never married, she had a disastrous marriage which eventually ended. Her DB and SiL were slightly off about them marrying, but not able to articulate why. They're all in their forties, so they've managed to get over it, but there were some ruffled feathers initially.

GFI.

Go for it.

You have everything to gain and nothing to lose.

Have fun

My grandparents met when my granddad visited his older brother's fiancée's home to deliver a message and took a shine to her sister. The two brothers married the two sisters and all was happily ever after.

It mostly meant that the families kept in touch a lot and my mum was fairly close to her cousins growing up.

My DF's sister married my DM's brother - I think that they met at their wedding - they have been together 45 years. I guess the only problem is if it ends messily and creates awkwardness. That said, I rarely see my BIL and SIL's siblings -could easily avoid them if I wanted to.

I thought GFI was Get the fuck in. But I realise now that would be GTFI. But I like that slightly better than Go for it. Seems to fit better in this thread.

Signed: Jealous middle aged housewife who no longer meets random hot men at weddings.

Do it, my sisters are married to brothers!

Thanks again for these replies 😊 I had no idea this was... not “normal” but also a fair few know that this has def happened to!

Thought that I would get flamed and would be forced to reconsider or jus ignore but instead am going with the flow for the mo and so far so good (altho obv ridiculously early days - buuuut... thanks to a diff poster describing this & apologies not sure who) fanny gallops ahoy!!

Thank you! Xx

@BonneVacances 😂 well hopefully it’s an actual double entendre - I’m going for it to get the fuck in!
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Definitely go for it, my male & female cousins on my mother's side married sister/brother.

My FIL and his bro also married 2 girls who were cousins

I would advise that you go for it, but to be careful and take it slow. If things end up not working out it can make family gatherings for your brother and SIL quite awkward.

But yes, totally give it a try. Not weird in the slightest.

Slightly different, but My best friend is younger than me. We are very close. Her kids call me auntie, I call her mum, 'mum'. We are like sisters, see eachother everyday and both moved to be closer to eachother

She had an older half brother I had never met because he lived quite far away. His marriage broke down and he moved back to the area. I met him for the first time at her wedding.

3 years later we are still together. It was a bit odd, just because she really is like a sister. I am good friends with her sisters and we all get together all the time as a family.

The other sisters werent impressed at first until my friend pointed out I am not actually related and its not like I had grown up with them and him for that he saw me as a sister. I think they kind of saw it, in the same light as me being adopted into the family as a child and growing up with them all as siblings. But I didnt meet her until I was 30.

All is fine now and its great.

Bloody hell op go for it.

Not weird at all. I personally know 2 different couples who’s siblings have also gotten married.
Go for it.

I’d say speak to your dB first & get his view. If he says yes I’d say GFI.

Personally I wouldn’t but I see in laws a lot so would be too awkward for me if things went wrong- but that’s me not you!

I knew 2 step siblings that got together so this is nothing op.Do it!

My friend and her sister are married to 2 brothers. It makes family get togethers at Christmas etc a lot easier!

My friend's sister is married to her DH's brother. Makes Christmas and birthdays easier plus the two sets of grandparents get on great

Not 'bad and wrong' at all! Have fun.

My grandad's brother married Nana's sister. It does happen, probably more than people realise.

Depends on how your breakups usually end I would say. If you usually hate the ex and it all ends messily they would avoid.
(And would check with your B if that goes for him)
Else go for it

You’re both single. Life is short. Go for it!

Life is too short not to pursue it .. how often do you just click with someone? Go for it! Wishing you all the best 🌷