Would this piss you off or aibu

[inmyshoos]

Together 8 mnths.
Morning - he had stayed at mine. In bed he took what he needed and there was a hrief chat where i said id save it for later (we needed to get up, i prefer meaningful intimacy not a rush to an end)

Evening - went to an event, i made a big effort wearing new undewear etc. No you look nice or anything. He met old friends, huge emotional reunion but it took around 20 mins of standing feeling awkward before i was introduced. I made no deal about this, but it obviouspy added to the end issue.

Came home, decided to shower as both hot from event, given the underwear etc i offered come in with me, he stayed on phone in lounge until i came out and said id left it running.

Aibu? I was so hurt. Felt invisible. Apparently i need to manage my expectations.

Sorry typos galore!! On phone....

Sorry OP. I can't make head nor tail of what you're on about.

Typos? It took me three reads to understand that your second paragraph was referring to sex.

So basically you didn't want sex in the morning and he didn't in the evening?

He wanted sex in morning, u didnt, dinner time you went out, no compliments, come home offer to shower with him, he declinded, you wanted sex, he didn't?

Glad I’m not the only one struggling to make sense.

went to an event, i made a big effort wearing new undewear etc

How was he to know what underwear you were wearing?! He’s not a mind reader! What a fuss about nothing!

In bed he took what he needed

This made me feel a bit queasy.

I have no idea what is going on

In bed he took what he needed
The duvet? Over half the mattress?

Sorry, trying to spare you the intimate details.
Morning during foreplay he came without the usual holding back so we could have sex or any warning it was coming. Then because it was over for him there was no concern for my needs. It was all about him.

At night he knew about the underwear as I bought stuff and he looked at it coming out the bags.

Sorry for so many typos. Its so tricky on the phone and trying not to drip feed but spare you tmi.

Well I understood what you meant...

Self-centred and not very gracious.

Are you that keen on him?

Maybe he was tired, not in the mood? He doesn’t have to if he doesn’t want to! Or is he usually selfish and this is one example?

He's selfish. He's thinks it's over when he's got what he wants. In future, he'll have to wait. Go second if you like.

I also understood perfectly what you meant. Hardly needs spelling out.

He isnt usually like this but can zone out and then he becomes quite selfish. Because i dared say i felt invisible a huge arguement has ensued....

Him being oblivious to your nice underwear is not a LTB. Him causing a massive row because you mentioned you were upset, is bullshit behaviour and I couldn't be arsed to deal with that.

Also, why are you settling for someone who you already know is selfish. He. Will. Not. Change. He will always be selfish.

Find someone better!

You’ve only been together eight months! It shouldn’t be this hard! Wish him well and go your separate ways.

He’s selfish! Him ejaculating doesn’t mean you don’t get to finish. Is he usually like this or was this a one off?

TMI would be preferable to trying to work out WTF you're saying in this post, OP.

As I understand it, you're angry and disappointed that your boyfriend wasn't up for a long sex session and you were.

I think you need to sell it out to him.

Oh Lordy.

Spell it out. Not sell

First post you said "I said I'd save it for later.
Second post "no regard for my needs"
Which is it?

Stop being available sexually.

newmom he came in my mouth, refuses to kiss until i brush teeth... the moment had kinda passed and it was late so needed to get up. He was happy and not concerned about me so i said 'well i will save it for later' in a reminding him i have needs too way.

Urgh. So he was selfish in bed and ignored you sexually after, then ignored you at a night out, then rejected you sexually that evening, then got arsey with you because you felt upset about it?