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Fell out with best friend. AIBU?

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64632K · 23/06/2019 21:34

Ok so I am fully prepared to get totally flamed but here goes. So I have been best friends with a male friend for about 20 years. Somehow we got onto the topic of politics, he expressed his views about hating Theresa May, I asked him why? His only response was that she was a bitch and hated her. So my response to him was why was she a bitch and why did he think it was ok to call a woman he had never met a bitch. He said it was because he just thought she was a total stone cold bitch and that was his opinion. I presser harder as to why he felt he could just call a woman a bitch with no actual reason and especially one he has never met. He went off into one and said he couldn't understand why I was defending TM, I replied that I actually wasn't defending her per se, I was asking why he thought it was ok to call her such a degrading name. Why did he feel he could call any woman such names? He didn't get my point and just lost it with me and now we haven't spoken for a long time. AIBU?

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SirVixofVixHall · 23/06/2019 22:33

I think you would get very different comments if you posted this in the feminism section op.
I think he sounds a total arse btw, So no, YANBU

BlokeHereInPeace · 23/06/2019 22:34

You deserve each other, it appears.

mossmurray · 23/06/2019 22:35

After your first post you were advised that you overreacted so you then go and post something worse just to he told you're not unreasonable.

I hate posts like this

TheBabyAteMyBrain · 23/06/2019 22:39

Tbh it just shows you how rape and abuse victims aren't believed... Coz he's such a nice guy.

I guess the person he was in front of me and from what his wife said just sounded like sooo far fetched. I couldnt believe that I hadnt seen it!

Cryalot2 · 23/06/2019 22:44

I can see both sides .
Politics is one well avoided with friends.

user1473878824 · 23/06/2019 22:46

Only on page one and what an amazing drip feed after your huge over reaction....

YourSarcasmIsDripping · 23/06/2019 22:47

He has always given me a level of respect that I have noticed he can't to women in general.

But then again you never noticed because you dont live in his pocket,and separate lives,and you're best friends,and thank god his ex told you,but you didn't believe her.

RosaWaiting · 23/06/2019 22:48

OP I actually understood your original point, you’d realised he was a rampant misogynistic arse from what he said about TM and his reaction when you queried it

Tbh I’m not surprised by the update but I’m surprised you didn’t see it before. But now you have, you know you never need to speak to him again. Sorted.

Ursulasunderstudy · 23/06/2019 22:48

Theresa? U ok hun?

Belenus · 23/06/2019 22:53

I should say just for context that he has a very degrading view of women, he called his wife a bitch in the same conversation because she had asked for a divorce as she found out he had taken their young sons with him to pick up cocaine, and also called his gf a slut for having an abortion after finding out he was married.

Sounds like calling Theresa May a bitch is one of his better points.

OnceFreshFish · 23/06/2019 22:56

What difference does he make that he's met her or not? Seems like you were both incapable of having a rational conversation so you should have just left it.

OnceFreshFish · 23/06/2019 22:58

I should say just for context that he has a very degrading view of women, he called his wife a bitch in the same conversation because she had asked for a divorce as she found out he had taken their young sons with him to pick up cocaine, and also called his gf a slut for having an abortion after finding out he was married.

What a ridiculous drip feed. I find it bizarre that you took offence to him hating Theresa May (for which there are many possible, rational reasons) and none at all to him being a misogynist who puts his own kids in danger and emotionally abuses his partner. I think your priorities are completely insane (or you fabricated a lot of this story).

Walnutwhipster · 23/06/2019 23:02

AIBU? Yes. Cue the biggest drip feed in the history of MN.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 23/06/2019 23:03

I should say just for context that he has a very degrading view of women

And yet you have been his best friend for twenty years . . .

YourSarcasmIsDripping · 23/06/2019 23:12

And yet you have been his best friend for twenty years . . .

Ahh,but he has always respected her and she didn't really know...no,really! Hmm

AppleKatie · 23/06/2019 23:14

Hilarious drip feed.

I don’t believe anyone can ‘overlook’ the information in the drip feed but decide to die on the Theresa May hill.

Come on OP, you’re not that callous are you?

Maryqueenofscots83 · 23/06/2019 23:14

YANBU... he sounds like a misogynist from what you have said in this thread. Who needs friends like that?

Wildorchidz · 23/06/2019 23:16

It’s all a bit mad Ted

Wildorchidz · 23/06/2019 23:17

But you have no issue with him taking a child to his drug dealer ??

Paisley2018 · 23/06/2019 23:25

This thread is hilarious - it must be a joke?

LovePoppy · 23/06/2019 23:27

Yeah, you’re better off without him in your life.

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