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to ask my MIL to rinse dishes after washing up with Fairy

249 replies

Oriole · 25/07/2007 17:48

My MIL often offer to do the washing-up when she is staying with us. At first I was happy with this, but soon I noticed that she didn't rinse them off after washing with Fairy in the sink. I had a talk with her about this, still I see some foam in salad bowls and cups.

Is it unreasonable to ask my MIL again to rinse dishes after washing up with Fairy?

OP posts:
PippiLangstrump · 26/07/2007 13:21

How could you not rinse dishes. It is disgusting. all the soap stays on them and the scum.

Doesn't one rinse after a bath?

It's the same principle IMO.

It would bug me a lot. I would not say anything and wash them again once I am not seen.

(If you are wondering I am everything but a clean freak - quite the opposite in fact - I just can't eat soap and scum, yuk!)

Brangelina · 26/07/2007 13:21

We must do a survey to see if it is really a British exclusive or if it is just prejudice.

I'll start - In Italy, France and Spain dishes are rinsed. Ditto Sweden, China and Thailand (as far as I could see). Can't think of any others at the moment.

puppydavies · 26/07/2007 13:41

wash in the bowl, set to one side, so you can rinse down the side without diluting washing up water. wash a bowlful then rinse in hot, only run for a few seconds, not constantly. rinsing in hot means it air dries quicker.

legalalien · 26/07/2007 13:43

On a related note, do we (i) scrape or (ii) rinse dishes before putting them in the dishwasher.

We're supposed to scrape to save water.

I rinse .

OrmIrian · 26/07/2007 13:44

I don't like wasting water. So I'd feel uncomfortable rinsing under running water TBH. I don't run the tap while I'm cleaning my teeth either.

OrmIrian · 26/07/2007 13:44

Scrape.

Brangelina · 26/07/2007 13:48

You don't have to rinse under a running tap. You wash a dish, turn tap on for a quick squirt using a deft hand twist to get at all angles in the shortest possible time, turn tap off, wash next dish/cup whatever. I don't actually fill my sink up with water when washing anyway, it's usually just a splash with a blob of detergent on my sponge. Sink fills up gradually as I rinse.

legalalien · 26/07/2007 13:49

I don't run the tap when cleaning my teeth [brightens] .

think will try and reform my ways. Must scrape, must scrape.....

3andnomore · 26/07/2007 13:49

scrape where possible...however sometime when we had rice, sweetcorn, somehting with mincemeat or pasta...I may rinse....as if naything like that goes into the dishwasher it tends to block up my pipes

3andnomore · 26/07/2007 13:51

now, anohter related question about washing up:
In what order do you all wash up, when you wash up?

I do it the way I was taught by my mum which is
Glasses
Cups
Bowls/Plates
Cutlery
Pots/Pans

legalalien · 26/07/2007 13:51

just occurred to me that we don't have many dishes (ie make many dirty dishes) so I try to use the dishwasher only once a day. So maybe rinse morning and lunchtime, and then scrape in evening before dishwasher goes on.

[can't believe I'm spending my precious lunch hour typing this]

legalalien · 26/07/2007 13:52

3 and no more - same, but table cutlery after glasses and before plates, bowls. messy serving and stirring cutlery as stated.....

Brangelina · 26/07/2007 13:53

Yep 3and, me too. The cleanest things first. All academic now I've got a dishwasher of course.

sandyballs · 26/07/2007 13:55

I think YABU. At least its only fairy left on the plates, my MIL used to leave great chunks of shepherds pie or veg after she had "washed up".

3andnomore · 26/07/2007 13:55

lol legal...you see, cutlery, especially that used to eat off, if I go by my mums "science" should be washed up as late as possible...because of them germs...lol...!
lol at what we are spending our time thinking about....think Xenia is right...must find a Job so I don't loose anymore braincells...lol...

Katy44 · 26/07/2007 15:34

Come on all you "stack em on the draining board and pour water over them" people, what happens to the suds inside the dishes and cups?

Katy44 · 26/07/2007 15:35

And I would wash glasses, cups, bowls/plates then pans etc in that order. Practically it's only ever glasses I wash.

dissle · 26/07/2007 15:37

Ha ha, this is making me LAUGH!!!
My mil will ignore the dishes in the sink and will rinse out her own cup ONLY!

But then again i would be most surprised if she did any thing else housworky in my house!

I would be delighted if she washed up, even if she didnt rinse!

MrsMarvel · 26/07/2007 15:42

I can't believe we have a thread about washing-up methods!!!
Desperately trying not to get drawn in.

legalalien · 26/07/2007 15:49

Katy44 - you dry up straight away, so the bubbles come off on the tea towel.

Care to comment Mrs M - go on!

edam · 26/07/2007 15:53

I'd be very grateful if anyone else washed up! My sister is very fussy about doing things her way, though, so never allows anyone else to do the dishes in her house. Even when she'd just had a baby. Mad.

Katy44 · 26/07/2007 15:55

No legalalien - I don't rinse at all and that's what us non rinsers argue!

legalalien · 26/07/2007 15:55

Another washing up question.

Do you stack the dirty dishes

(a) LHS of the sink
(b) RHS of the sink
(c) in the sink?

Does anyone think it's OK to stack all the dirty dishes in the sink, and then fill the sink with water around them? I have had several ex's / ex flatmates (all male, funnily) who think this is OK.

I don't.

legalalien · 26/07/2007 15:56

oops - got confused about the two sides of the debate.

Are we RoD and NRoDs?

Katy44 · 26/07/2007 15:56

Oh no, have I created another great MN divide??