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AIBU?

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To argue with DH about the news even though he is feeling a bit low?

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DesperatelySeekingSarah · 21/06/2019 21:55

DH have always had polar opposite political views and will often see an event completely differently. A major part of our relationship has been us arguing our corner in terms of how we see a situation and our underlying beliefs. We never argue about anything else though as DH cannot cope with conflict or confrontation. He closes down if we have a disagreement and refuses to talk about it ( for context, he has high functioning ASC and finds it almost impossible to see other people's POV)
Tonight, I started a conversation about the climate change skirmish where the man grabbed the woman and escorted her out the room. We had opposite view about it, as usual, but then DH shut the conversation down and refused to talk about it any further, as if it was a proper argument.
He said he didn't know what I was trying to achieve by discussing it and refused to talk to me. He has been a bit unwell recently in terms of mental health, but AIBU to feel a bit sad that a major part of our relationship seems to be too much for him to handle. I've made huge adjustments to our lives to accommodate him while he is feeling fragile and this just feels like another thing I'm having to change because his way of dealing with things is to bury his head in the sand and wait until it goes away.
He is a clever bloke and I like arguing with him about politics! Its part of what makes us who we are as a couple.... I'm just a bit sad now

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 22/06/2019 16:04

Just another thought OP, many people think they have intellectual conversations but what they think doesn't always translate that way to other people. Your husband may just have had enough of listening to it. You say he's clever. If you have intelligence then you will be cognisant of his feelings and find another outlet for airing your political viewpoints.

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